EP62 -Undoing Sexual Shame

Welcome to episode 252 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lindsey Brooks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Lindsey's journey into sexual empowerment, the importance of giving women space to explore their bodies and looking at masturbation in a new light.      Dr. Lindsey Brooks is a sex therapist turned sex educator. She has her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology, is a certified sex therapist, and has been providing therapy since 2005.     She is thrilled to now be bringing her knowledge beyond the therapy room with Sexual Empowerment School where she teaches women how to build their sexual self-knowledge, develop pleasure-positive mindsets, and learn sexual communication skills through her on-line workshops and resources.     In this episode, you will hear:     How Lindsey started her journey into sexual empowerment   Looking at the things Lindsey wished women knew more about when it comes to sex  How many women are ambivalent to sexual pleasure   The importance of giving women space to explore their bodies   Looking at masturbation in a new light and why it’s not something to be ashamed of  How masturbation can be a great tool to explore your sexual pleasure   Why masturbation isn’t inferior to sex   Challenging the myth that women should orgasm through penetration   What counts as a “normal” libido or sexual desire   The importance of framing conversations correctly to best communicate with your partner  Ways you can avoid getting into a nagging cycle or arguments with your partner   How you can plant your own seeds in the garden of desire         Find Dr. Lindsey Brooks Online  https://www.sexualempowermentschool.com     Sex Quiz  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Survey  https://help373205.typeform.com/to/VipD8dnP     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Loka 202132min

Welcome to episode 251 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Stephanie Estima to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Stephanie shifted her life balance to a better place, the ways in which our diet and sexual health are connected and recommendations to help correct some mistakes you may not realize you’re making.    Stephanie is a board-certified Doctor of Chiropractic with a special interest in metabolism, body composition, hormones, and functional neurology. She’s the host of an award-winning podcast, and author of an international best-selling book.  She’s also the founder of a membership program that discusses nutrition, fasting, exercise, hormones, and the female psyche.      Stephanie is currently building out a certification program for doctors and healthcare providers outlining cell metabolism, exercise physiology, brain aging, and best clinical practices for female patients.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Stephanie shifted her life balance to a better place  The ways in which our diet and sexual health are connected   Why women are inherently sexual beings   Overcoming binge eating   The importance of getting proteins into our body for a good diet   How our sleep and sex life is connected   Recommendations to help correct some mistakes you may not realize you’re making     https://sexologypodcast.com/    Find Dr Stephanie Estima Online  https://hellobetty.club     Survey  https://help373205.typeform.com/to/VipD8dnP     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

12 Loka 202143min

Welcome to episode 250 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to have a variety of guests on the show who share their tips on the best practices for effective sexual communication. In this episode you will hear from Guy Blaise, Diane Gleim, Tara Galeano, Maci Daye, Ari Tuckman, Kristopher Lovestone and Martha Kauppi.      In this episode, you will hear:     How effective communication with your partner can lead to great sex  Understanding how to bridge a conversation about certain areas such as anal sex, threesomes etc   Capitalizing on joy and happiness in a relationship for better sex  Learning how to ask your partner what it is they desire   How mindfulness can also help improve your communication and sex life   Ways in which you can be authentic with your partner on exploring new sexual areas  The importance of knowing what it is you want from your partner   How you can bridge the gap with your partner when things are getting in the way of great sex     Bedroom To Fizzle  https://sexologypodcast.com/enroll/    We are closing the enrolment for 𝘉𝘦𝘥𝘳𝘰𝘰𝘮 𝘍𝘪𝘻𝘻𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘚𝘪𝘻𝘻𝘭𝘦 by this Friday. This six-week program will improve and strengthen your connection with your partner. At the end of this program, you will have cultivated psychological tools to increase eroticism and desire in your relationship.     Guest Resources    Guy Blaise  https://www.thefrenchperspective.com     Diane Gleim, LMFT, CST, CST-S  https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/underneath-the-sheets/202109/sexual-desire-discrepancies-how-communicate     Tara Galeano  https://rediscoveringmybody.com     Maci Daye, LPC, CHT, CST  https://www.passionandpresence.com/mini-retreat/   Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA  https://adultadhdbook.com     Kristopher Lovestone  http://consciouscock.com/book     Martha Kauppi, LMFT  https://instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/handling-sexual-challenges-like-a-rockstar/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

5 Loka 202121min

Welcome to episode 249 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Christine DeLozier, L.Ac. to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between diet and sexual health, the best foods to help improve sexual health and recommendations on how to improve your diet.      First and foremost, Christine DeLozier, L.Ac., is a lover of science, of nature and of food. As an acupuncturist and herbalist in private practice, she specializes in sexual health, treating males, females, and all orientations and identities. Acupuncture is great for sexual function, but to address the underlying mechanics of consistently great sex, the key is diet. For this reason, she works with patients to develop dietary habits that support their sexual goals.     Christine attended the University of Rochester, studying Biology and Psychology. As a young single mom, she worked as a waitress and studied full-time. She started in a program which trains students to be research scientists, but ultimately decided against a career in research. The experience, though, gave her an appreciation for the scientific method, which is employed throughout this book. She has exhaustively reviewed epidemiological and clinical research on nutrition and sexual function to shape the advice presented here.     Christine holds Master’s degrees in Acupuncture, Traditional Chinese Medicine, and Counseling. During her education, she studied Chinese dietary therapy, and earned a certification as a Holistic Nutritional Counselor.     Early in her practice, she treated numerous men for erectile issues with acupuncture, who ended up having significant improvements in sexual satisfaction. After seeing how meaningful this improvement was to their lives, she specialized in sexual health, expanding her practice to all who seek it. She wanted to do more to help them connect with their partners and bring joy to their relationships. Since then she has treated adults looking to have great sex of all orientations.     Always rather obsessed with diet, nutrition, and natural health, Christine’s philosophy is rooted in an evidence-based understanding of the physiological effect of food on the body, while honoring the wisdom of traditional Chinese medicine. She treats every patient holistically, as an individual and wishes to use her unique skill set to help others in a kind, loving way.     In this episode, you will hear:     How Christine became involved in this line of work   Understanding our relationship between diet and sexual health   What are some of the best foods to help improve sexual health?  When do we know we’re on the right track with our diet?  Looking at some of the foods athletes eat to keep healthy and how this can be used to improve sexual health   Is there a big difference between the right diet for men and women?  Do foods like oysters really improve sexual health?  Looking at what spices we can integrate into our diet  Recommendations to improve one habit from your diet to improve sexual health     Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhelp.com/sexologypodcast     Find Christine DeLozier Online  https://christinedelozier.com/    Masterclass  https://sexologypodcast.com/sexologymasterclass/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Syys 202128min

Welcome to episode 248 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Heather Bartos to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss orgasms and our relationship with them, off-shoot health benefits of orgasms and tips for women who have never experienced an orgasm.    Dr. Heather Bartos is a board-certified OB-GYN, author, speaker, mom and everyday gal, Dr. Heather Bartos is a leading voice in the field of women’s health, and particularly women’s sexual health. She is also a US Navy Veteran, former Associate Professor of Obstetrics & Gynecology and is currently medical director of her “village for women’s health,” Be.     Women’s Health & Wellness outside Dallas, Texas.  Featured in publications from Glamour and Huffington Post to Reader’s Digest, Women’s Health and ABC News, Dr. Bartos loves talking all things women and sex on her podcast, The ME Spot.     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at orgasms and our relationship with them   How many people skip through foreplay when trying to achieve an orgasm   The importance of allowing your body the time to loosen up for an orgasm   What happens in our brains when we experience an orgasm?  Looking at the other off-shoot health benefits of orgasms  The changes female bodies experience when going through menopause   How your diet is important to experiencing great orgasms   Looking at PRP treatments   Tips for women who have never experienced an orgasm   How our biggest sex organ is our brain    Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhlep.com/sexologypodcast       Free Masterclass: Live Masterclass for Couples in Long-Term Relationships Tired of Leftover Sex? The Roadmap to Reviving Your Sex Life with Your Partner  In this Masterclass, we will: 1. Identify the main causes of sexual dissatisfaction in your relationship: Together we will assess and discuss common causes of sexual dissatisfaction and how you can uncover the root causes for each. 2. Incorporate specific strategies and tackle the root causes: We will introduce the most effective ways of improving your connection with your partner. 3. Bring excitement back to your relationship with the help of tangible tools: We will talk about the latest research on sexual boredom and how to bring thrill and excitement back into your relationship. https://sexologypodcast.com/masterclass     Find Dr. Heather Bartos Online  http://themespotpodcast.com     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Syys 202130min

Welcome to episode 247 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Marci Liroff (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Marci transitioned from casting director and acting coach to intimacy coordinator, why intimacy coordinators are not the “sex police” and the ways she helps the film crew coordinate sex scenes.    A veteran Casting Director, Marci (she/her) has been casting film and television for the last 40 years. Her extensive credits span more than 50 films. While working at the renowned office of Fenton-Feinberg Casting she, along with Mike Fenton, cast such films as Bob Clark’s A Christmas Story and Porky’s; the Academy Award-nominated Poltergeist; Steven Spielberg’s E.T.– The Extra Terrestrial and Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom; and Ridley Scott’s Blade Runner.     After establishing her own casting company in 1983, MARCI LIROFF CASTING, Marci cast many successful films including Footloose, St. Elmo’s Fire, Pretty in Pink, The Iron Giant, The Spitfire Grill (which she produced as well), Untamed Heart, Freaky Friday, Mean Girls, Insomnia, Ghosts of Girlfriends Past, Mr. Popper’s Penguins, and Vampire Academy. For the last 10 years, Marci has been coaching and teaching actors to prepare for upcoming auditions and jobs.     Her years of work in film and television production, along with her communication skills and keen eye, make Marci a perfect fit in the world of intimacy coordination. She recently intimacy coordinated the feature film The Virgin of Highland Park and served as the IC for the second season of the Starz show Hightown.       In this episode, you will hear:     How Marci transitioned from casting director and acting coach to intimacy coordinator   Why intimacy coordinators are not the “sex police”   The ways Marci helps the film crew to coordinate sex scenes   Looking at the relationship between intimacy coordinators and directors   Issues that can arise on set and how Marci deals with them   Analyzing the importance of consent   How consent is being incorporated into specifics in contracts around sex scenes   The importance of reading your contract as an actor  Navigating intimate scenes where minors are involved, E.G Stranger Things   The toughest scenes that Marci has coordinated         Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10% of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhlep.com/sexologypodcast   Free Masterclass: Live Masterclass for Couples in Long-Term Relationships Tired of Leftover Sex? The Roadmap to Reviving Your Sex Life with Your Partner  In this Masterclass, we will: 1. Identify the main causes of sexual dissatisfaction in your relationship: Together we will assess and discuss common causes of sexual dissatisfaction and how you can uncover the root causes for each. 2. Incorporate specific strategies and tackle the root causes: We will introduce the most effective ways of improving your connection with your partner.   3. Bring excitement back to your relationship with the help of tangible tools: We will talk about the latest research on sexual boredom and how to bring thrill and excitement back into your relationship. https://sexologypodcast.com/masterclass     Find Marci Liroff Online  https://www.marciliroff.com       Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Syys 202142min

Welcome to episode 246 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Chantal Cousineau (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Chantal's role as an intimacy coordinator, how sexual assault leads to issues of trauma and looking at new practices that are coming onto sets to help prevent these issues.    Chantal Cousineau (she/her) was born in Canada. Raised in a large and loving French-Canadian family, she spent her childhood training tirelessly to become a Tae Kwon-Do champion. Achieving her first-degree black belt at the age of 15, she quickly dominated competitions, winning gold at the Canadian and North American Championships. She started modelling at the age of 17 and soon landed before the lens of famed photographers shooting for Abercrombie & Fitch, Aveda, Italian Vogue, Elle, Cosmopolitan, Roots, and many more. She moved to Los Angeles twenty years ago and has since carved out a successful career as an actor shooting television commercials.     She has become a grounded voice within the advocacy community, helping 1,300+ survivors of sexual harassment, assault, and abuse share their #MeToo experiences since 2017. A longtime member of SAG-AFTRA, Chantal serves on several union committees to consult on ways the industry can expand its best practices to move closer towards equal treatment, pay parity, representation, and improving safety standards on sets. Chantal has combined her many years of experience as a performer with her survivor advocacy work to pivot to her new career as an intimacy coordinator.  Her most recent intimacy coordinator credits include This Is Us (NBC), The Terminal List (Amazon), and the independent feature film Sharp Stick, which was directed by Lena Dunham.      Chantal is a dual citizen of Canada and the US and speaks both French and English fluently.    In this episode, you will hear:     Looking into Chantal’s role as an intimacy coordination and what it entails   How Chantal became intimacy coordinator and the journey that led her to this role  Analyzing the dynamic of an intimacy coordinator has with other people on set  How sexual assault leads to issues of trauma   How Chantal had a Me-Too experience   The importance of self-care   How many victims of sexual assault do not report it to the police   The ways in which Chantal holds stories of sexual assault for victims   Looking at ways in which young actresses are vulnerable to issues of sexual assault  New practices that are coming onto sets to help prevent these issues    Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. Use the link below to get 10%  of your first month of online therapy with BetterHelp:  https://www.betterhelp.com/sexologypodcast       Find Chantal Cousineau Online  https://www.intimacyprofessionalsassociation.com   Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Syys 202143min

Welcome to episode 245 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Soum Rakshit to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss sex toys, how Dr. Soum Rakshit transitioned from electrical engineering to co-founding MysteryVibe, what goes into the design of a sex toy and how you can communicate to your partner that you want to incorporate sex toys into your sex life.    Dr. Soum Rakshit is the Co-Founder & CEO of award-winning sexual health company, MysteryVibe. Their mission is to make sexual health accessible to all — across all ages, genders & orientations.     From his research & experiences over the past 2 decades, Soumyadip deeply understands that a major challenge in most people’s lives is keeping the ‘mystery’ alive in a long term relationship. This is especially the case after major life events like childbirth, menopause, cancer treatment or surgery.     That’s why he decided to combine his defence electronics expertise with medical experts to create devices that address major sexual health issues like ED, dryness & pain during intercourse. At the same time, working closely with sexual health experts, his team has been at the forefront of researching & developing content that act as catalysts for people to start much-needed conversations to reignite their sex life.     In his role as CEO of MysteryVibe, he focuses on pushing the boundaries on R&D, customer experience and supporting their long- term goal of making sexual health an integral part of our overall health. Soumyadip passionately believes that by empowering people with actionable knowledge & purposeful innovation is the way to make this happen.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Soum Rakshit transitioned from electrical engineering to co-founding MysteryVibe  Ways to keep sex and mystery in the bedroom after big life events; kids, marriage etc  The public’s perception of sexual health companies in 2021   Why more investors are investing in sexual health companies   Looking at what goes into the design of a sex toy   Communicating to your partner you want to incorporate sex toys into your sex life  Using complex technology to create simple solutions for people   Looking at Pleasure Finder and how you can use it   Looking at some of Dr. Soum Rakshit’s favourite sex toys     Find Dr. Soum Rakshit Online  https://mysteryvibe.com     Crescendo from MysteryVibe    Expanding Imagination Checklist  https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

31 Elo 202140min