Non-Monogamous Relationships with Robert Kandell

Welcome to episode 188 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Lanae St. John, to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Lanae speaks with me about how to have better conversations with our kids around sex, empowering them with the tools and knowledge they will need and how parents can better understand sexual orientation and gender identity.     Dr. Lanae St John, known as The MamaSutra, is a board-certified sexologist, certified sex coach, and sexuality educator. She is author of “Read Me: A Parental Primer for “The Talk”. Lanae lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her significant other and two daughters.    In this episode, you will hear:     The hurdles we face talking to our kids about sex   Being aware and noticing the issues around you   How a shame spiral can easily develop   The importance of talking to your partner about sex   Taking a genital self-exam   Overcoming issues of using sexual language with kids   How Dr. Lanae turned the narrative around  Looking at incorporating fantasy   Teaching kids that pleasure from sex is okay Empowering our kids with the knowledge and tools they’ll need  Learning to have a constructive conversation around STI’s   How parents can better understand sexual orientation and gender identity         Better Help  Thank you to our sponsor Better Help. Every day, thousands of people seek the help of a licensed therapist. If you are a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, clinical social worker or board licensed professional counselor, BetterHelp is the easiest way to apply your clinical expertise online. https://betterhelp.com/sexology    Checklist for Parents  https://oasis2care.com/checklist-for-parents/    Find Dr. Lanae online:  https://www.themamasutra.net     Free Chapter: Read Me: A Parental Primer for "The Talk" https://lsj-academy.mykajabi.com/pl/111816    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com  Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

4 Elo 202041min

Welcome to episode 187 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Stephen Snyder to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Snyder talks to me about having better sex in long term monogamous relationships, creating better psychological arousal and recommendations to improve your sex life.     Stephen Snyder MD — sex therapist, relationship therapist, and sexual medicine specialist — has dedicated his entire career to helping individuals and couples with sex and relationship concerns. Over 30+ years, he’s helped over 1,500 individuals and couples regain closeness and satisfaction in their relationships.     Dr. Snyder is Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York City and the author of one of the most acclaimed sex and relationship books of our time, LOVE WORTH MAKING: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship (St Martin’s Press, 2018).        As an MD sex therapist, Dr. Snyder has a unique combination of skills that enables him to handle the most complex, difficult situations. He received his medical degree from the University of California, San Francisco (M.D. 1983), trained in internal medicine at Mt Zion Medical Center in San Francisco (1983-84), then in psychiatry at the Payne Whitney Clinic, New York Hospital / Cornell University Medical Center (1984-87) and as a Fellow in Behavioral Medicine at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in NYC (1987-89).      Dr. Snyder was Director of the Psychiatric Consultation Service at Mount Sinai Medical Center from 1990-2000. Since 2000, he has been in full-time private practice in Manhattan, specializing in sex and relationship concerns.     Dr. Snyder is an active member of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR); has been a presenter, workshop leader, and discussant at the Society’s national meetings; and has served on its Professional Book Award Committee and as Chairman of its Consumer Book Award committee.    In this episode, you will hear:     What are the barriers experience people in monogamous relationships face?   How do you define good sex?   Looking at psychological arousal   How passion is erotic selfishness   Creating psychological space for arousal   The role that fantasy plays in this issue   Why women lose interest in sex in long term relationships   Recommendations to improve your sex life in a long-term relationship   The fear men hold about disappointing their partners   Looking at the issue of erectile dysfunction          Better Help  Thank you to our sponsor Better Help. Every day, thousands of people seek the help of a licensed therapist. If you are a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, clinical social worker or board licensed professional counselor, BetterHelp is the easiest way to apply your clinical expertise online. https://betterhelp.com/sexology    Sex Quiz for Women  https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/    Find Dr. Snyder online:  https://www.sexualityresource.com/    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Heinä 202036min

Welcome to episode 186 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Dr. Lyndsey Harper to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Harper talks to me about how to increase your sexual desire at any stage in life, evidence-based ways to increase your libido and we take a look at her wonderful app – Rosy.     Lyndsey Harper, MD is the Founder and CEO of Rosy, an app for women with decreased sexual desire. Dr. Harper created Rosy out of frustration when she couldn’t find a modern and accessible resource to help her many patients with this problem. Rosy is a resource to connect the 25 million women in the US with decreased sexual desire with hope, community, and research-backed solutions to improve their lives.     Dr. Harper completed Ob/Gyn residency in 2011 at Baylor Scott & White Health in Dallas, Texas, and Dr. Harper saw patients in private practice for seven years and now is a hospitalist. Dr. Harper is Associate Professor of Ob/Gyn for Texas A&M College of Medicine, a Fellow of The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, and a Fellow of the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health.    In this episode, you will hear:     Does menopause effect your sex life?  Looking at the feeling of having your desire stolen from you  Are hormonal treatments effective?   How sex can be become a physically painful experience   They key ingredients for people having a fulfilled sexual life  The importance of communication   How you can advocate for yourself   Learning to be brief and direct   Evidence based ways to increase your libido   Looking at Dr. Harper’s fantastic app – Rosy       Better Help  Thank you to our sponsor, Better Help. If you are a psychologist, marriage & family therapist, clinical social worker or board licensed professional counselor, BetterHelp is the easiest way to apply your clinical expertise online. Visit https://betterhelp.com/sexology and complete a brief application to get started.   Ebook: How to Increase Your Libido – For Women:  https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     Find Dr. Harper online:  https://meetrosy.com/    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Heinä 202032min

Welcome to episode 185 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Peyman Raoofi to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Raoofi speaks with me about the Madonna and whore complex, its complexities for relationships, how we can learn to adjust our own behaviors and learning to see your partner in a different light.     Dr. Peyman Raoofi, licensed clinical psychologist in California, holds a Doctorate and Master's degree in Clinical Psychology from Alliant International University and a Bachelor's degree in psychology from California State University, Northridge with Summa Cum Laude Honors.     He is currently working in his own private practice with individuals, couples and families. In addition Dr. Raoofi is contracted with multiple Long Term Care Facilities and Nursing Homes as consultant psychologist.     He has many years of experience working with children on the spectrum of Autism/Asperger, and Mental Retardation. Throughout his trainings for intense psychosocial interventions he has been trained for ABA methodologies and DTT program in treating children with challenging behaviors. He has trainings from Johns Hopkins University and Yale University on science of well-being and health psychology. In addition Dr. Raoofi has worked as a social worker with geriatric population at an Adult Day Health Care Center.     UNICEF, Relief International and Human Rights Council are other organizations that Dr. Raoofi has been actively involved to help disadvantaged children on a global level. He is a lifetime member of the Psi Chi National Honor Society in Psychology, Golden Key International Honor Society, recipient of Gold honor of the US President’s Volunteer Service Award from President George W. Bush and President Obama's Call to Service Award. He also has been recognized as an Honorary Ambassador by UNICEF and recognized as a Mental Health Hero by Chicago School of Psychology.      Dr. Raoofi is currently serving on the Boards of Iranian Psychological Association of America (IPAA), Los Angeles County Psychological Association (LACPA) and Profamily Group.     Dr. Raoofi is an International speaker and has been a guest speaker in many universities including MIT, UCLA, Cal State Los Angeles, Chicago School of Psychology, California School of Psychology, Pepperdine University and Sharif University. He has been a guest on multiple TV and Radio shows such as Voice of America, BBC, Spectrum News, Radio Hamrah, and KIRN 670AM.    In this episode, you will hear:     What is the Madonna and whore complex?  How cultures can affect this issue   The way in which more male dominated cultures are more affected   Overcoming seeing your partner as a sexual being as well as mother, carer etc   Can this complex be cured?   Understanding the importance of not solely focusing on one role, E.G Being a father   Knowing it’s okay to indulge in sexual exchange and selfishness with your partner  Paying attention to your own patterns and learning to adjust   Learning to see your partner in a different light         101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Find Dr. Peyman Raoofi online:  http://www.raoofi.com     Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Heinä 202035min

Welcome to episode 184 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am excited to welcome Janis Roszler & Donna Rice to the podcast. In this episode they speak with me about their new book Intimacy & Diabetes, the common challenges people face around sexuality and diabetes, removing shame from diabetes and navigating your sense of fun and spontaneity with a chronic illness.    Romantic relationships play an important role in our everyday lives. But when diabetes enters the picture, it can complicate even the most loving and open relationships. Many people don’t know that diabetes can impact physical and emotional intimacy—and intimacy-related issues can be especially difficult to discuss with a partner or a doctor. But don’t let diabetes hinder the romance! Intimacy & Diabetes is here to give you practical information and expert advice to tackle this sensitive subject. This comprehensive, interactive guide covers everything you need to know to enjoy a fulfilling sexual and emotional life despite the challenges of diabetes. Inside you’ll find:     The common physical and emotional sexual complications of diabetes and treatment options for men and women An overview of diabetes nutrition, physical activity, weight loss, and diabetes medications Information on how aging impacts diabetes management and intimacy Guidance on how to talk to your doctor about intimacy-related issues Ideas and techniques for building sexual intimacy and communicating effectively with your partner Tips to help you avoid dangerous or money-wasting fraudulent sexual treatments A collection of delicious, diabetes-friendly recipes to help spice up your love life.      Authors Janis Roszler and Donna Rice use humor, helpful examples, and insightful questions to present key topics about sexual health in an engaging, approachable way. This book is perfect for anyone (regardless of gender, sexual orientation, age, or health status) looking to rekindle intimacy with their partner or be proactive about their sexual and emotional wellbeing. Intimacy & Diabetes is your key to a happy, healthy intimate life with diabetes.    In this episode, you will hear:     How did Janis & Donna become interested in this topic?  Understanding the need for providers to bring up the conversation to clients   The common challenges people face around sexuality and diabetes   How many aspects of diabetes are based on genetics and not behavioral issues   Removing shame from diabetes   Dealing with blame around chronic illnesses   The challenges people face getting into a new relationship with diabetes   Navigating your sense of fun and spontaneity with diabetes   Looking at medications and their effectiveness       Download my new ebook for free here: https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/   Find Intimacy & Diabetes online:  https://www.amazon.com/Intimacy-Diabetes-Janis-Roszler-ebook/dp/B084DPG4T7    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Heinä 202035min

Welcome to episode 183 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Miss Couple to the podcast. In this episode Miss Couple speaks to me about wax play, incorporating wax play into your sexual make-up and maintaining your connectivity to sexuality.    Described by Playboy as “equal parts Betty Grable and ‘90s Ani DiFranco,” Miss Couple is a Sexual Empowerment Coach known for class, professionalism, and a forward-thinking mindset.     Miss Couple has been interviewed as an authority in the field by Cosmopolitan, VICE, People Magazine, The Daily Beast, Huffington Post, and numerous other media outlets.     She is best known for her psychological perspective on intimacy and her ability to make others feel comfortable discussing difficult topics. Miss Couple comes to the field of coaching with a diverse background and draws from the skill-sets that she has accumulated through her education in psychology, time as an award-winning ballroom dancing instructor, and experience as a world-renowned BDSM expert, to provide a well-rounded perspective.     Miss Couple is devoted to normalizing modalities of connection that have been obscured, ridiculed, or simply misunderstood. She caters to a variety of clients, from individuals looking to explore their sexuality or relationship with power, newlyweds looking to build a strong foundation, empty nesters looking to spice things up, couples who are navigating non-monogamy, and more. Through virtual coaching, she provides space to build trust so that clients feel comfortable sharing and receiving feedback. Her biggest goal is to help empower people to create relationships, and ultimately lives, they crave.     In this episode, you will hear:     How can people build confidence to have conversations around kink?   Understanding that whilst stimulating, porn is a production and not a reflection of reality   What is wax play?   Incorporating wax play into your sexual make-up   Learning how to do wax play safely   Exploring the power play dynamics around wax play   Using wax play for a greater sense of pleasure in a relationship   Maintaining your connectivity to sexuality   Ways you can prepare as a couple for successful wax play and other sexual experiences         101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Find Miss Couple online:  https://misscouple.com    Find Dr. Moali online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist        Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

30 Kesä 202026min

Welcome to episode 182 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Rhoda speaks with me about open relationships, recommendations on how you can start your journey into an open relationship and maintaining sexual safety.     Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb has been counseling and coaching individuals and couples in the area of human sexuality for over 28 years and in private practice for over 14 years specializing in open relationship styles (polyamory, swinging, designer relationships), BDSM, ABDL, kink and fetishes. She received her PhD in clinical sexology, is an AASECT certified sex therapist, clinical sexologist, and sexuality coach specializing in areas of alternative sexuality.      She published her first book in 2017 called, No More Hiding: Permission to love your sexual self. It is an innovative guide for those seeking help on how to be their authentic sexual self.     In 2019 she launched a training/coaching program called Monogamy to Open to provide those transitioning from monogamy to the many types of open relationships a path that will provide the knowledge and guidance necessary to be successful.     In this episode, you will hear:     The similarities and differences of open relationships?  Looking at some of the tough expectations of monogamy   What personality types opt for open relationships?  The pros and cons of open relationships  The differences between polyamory and swinging   How there is still a lot of social stigma around open relationships   Recommendations if you’re interested to start swinging  Understanding you can go at your own pace  How many people stay in swinging for the community   Recommendations for sexual safety through this journey         Find Dr. Rhoda online  Website: https://www.drrhoda.com  Private FB page for open relationships: Monogamy 2 Open  Calendly page for complementary 30-minute consult: Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe     Take the Sex Quiz for Women here: https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

23 Kesä 202038min

Welcome to episode 181 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Tristan Taormino to the podcast. In this episode Tristan speaks with me about anal pleasure, how we can start our journeys into the world of anal play, recommendations on sex toys and understanding to not put pressure on yourself as you start this journey.      Tristan Taormino is a sex educator, media maker, and speaker. She is the author of eight books and editor of 25 anthologies including the award-winning The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women and The Ultimate Guide to Kink. She keynotes, lectures, and teaches workshops around the world on sexual pleasure and health, relationships, and social justice. She is the host of the long-running podcast Sex Out Loud. She is the creator of Sex Educator Boot Camp, a professional training program, and she runs a coaching and consulting business for sexuality professionals.     In this episode, you will hear:     How can you introduce anal pleasure into your sexual life?   Exploring anal sex as a couple   The myths and misconceptions around anal sex   How anal sex can be more intense than vaginal sex   What does anal play involve?  Recommendations for the best anal sex toys to use   How to make anal sex non-painful   Understanding to not compare yourself to porn stars   Learning the best practices for anal   How to start your journey into the world of anal   The best ways to communicate you’re interested in anal sex to your partner  The importance to take your time and not put pressure on yourself         Find Tristan online  http://sexoutloudradio.com   The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women     Find me online:    http://www.sexologypodcast.com      Find me on social media:    https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care       Download my new ebook for free here:    https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot:  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe      If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist       Celebrating One Million Downloads  To celebrate hitting one million downloads I am giving away a bottle of Uberlube to anyone who writes a review on iTunes. Simply take a screenshot of your review and email to me or send as a DM to my Instagram page. Thank you for helping Sexology Podcast hit one million downloads!    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Kesä 202033min