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Welcome to episode 135 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Sari Cooper to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about sexual avoidance, how it affects relationships and recommendations on how you can better understand and improve upon this issue.     Sari Cooper is the Director of Center for Love and Sex, a group practice specializing in sex therapy and sex coaching based in NYC.  She is also the creator of Sex Esteem®️, LLC a company devoted to enriching people’s confidence and knowledge about their own or their kids’ sexuality through talks, webinars and her web show, Sex Esteem®️ with Sari Cooper.     She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and a Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor who is frequently called upon on many media outlets to comment on relationships and sexuality issues. She has appeared on CBS This Morning, Dr. Oz and featured in The Wall Street Journal, Women’s Health, Bustle, HuffPost and Vice Media.     In this episode, you will hear:     How do you define sexual avoidance?   The implicit actions people take to avoid sex with their partners   The ways in which this issue affects relationships   How the incest taboo works in relation to this issue  The root causes of sexual avoidance   Creating spontaneity and excitement to maintain a healthy sex life  Reconnecting with the exciting parts of lust from the early stages of a relationship  How partners can view hobbies and interests as a threat   The need to break out of your comfort zone to explore new aspects of a relationship  How pain during sex can play into this issue   Recommendations on how to improve sexual avoidance         Resources  Web - www.centerforloveandsex.com   Email - sari@centerforloveandsex.com   Social Media - Facebook, Twitter and Instagram    Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Elo 201939min

Welcome to episode 134 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Steve Bodansky to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the benefits of self-pleasure, overcoming shame and recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones.  Steve Bodansky together with his wife Vera have been teachers of Sensuality for the past 35 years. Steve received a Masters in Molecular Biology at SUNY at Albany and a Doctorate at More University in Sensuality with an emphasis on female orgasm. He first studied and then taught at More U. thru 1992.   For the past 27 years they have been coaching students as a couple and started writing books about optimum sensual pleasure. They have trained many people over the past 30 years with courses and personal training and continue to do so. A number of their former students have become sensual facilitators themselves.    In this episode, you will hear:   The benefits of self-pleasure   Incorporating mindfulness into self-pleasure   What is peaking?   Overcoming the shame associated with self-pleasure   Understanding the need for build-up to climax   The way in which pornography gives us a false view of the female orgasm   Recommendations to discover your own erogenous zones   The common strokes that are helpful for self-pleasure    Learning not to be dependable on sex toys       Resources  stevebodansky@gmail.com  http://www.extendedmassiveorgasm.com     Extended Massive Orgasm: How to Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure  The Illustrated Guide to Extended Massive Orgasm  To Bed or Not to Bed  Instant Orgasm  Extended Massive Orgasm: The Novel  Extended Massive Life: A True Love Story and More   Pigetry  Universe of Love: Poems of Yin and Yang  Orgasm Matters  Love and Alzheimer’s  Switch Pitcher: Evolution of Darwin  Fall; or, Dodge in Hell: A Novel by Neal Stephenson  Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear    Previous episodes with Steve Bodansky  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/09/11/sex-and-alzheimer/   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/02/20/extended-massive-orgasm-by-dr-steve-bodansky/     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

30 Heinä 201935min

Welcome to episode 133 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD to the podcast. In this episode he speaks to me about the ways in which neurologists can help men with erectile dysfunction, the steps leading to a penile prosthesis and how the penile prosthesis works.    Jeffrey Loh-Doyle, MD, is a specialist in complex surgical reconstruction of the male urinary tract, male urinary incontinence, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, urethral stricture disease, and Peyronie’s Disease. He joins the USC Institute of Urology after completing his urology residency at USC and further fellowship training in male genitourinary reconstructive and prosthetic surgery under Dr. Stuart Boyd, a world-renown reconstructive cancer surgeon and authority on reconstruction of the lower urinary tract and urologic prosthestics.      Born and raised in Los Angeles, Dr. Loh-Doyle completed his undergraduate and medical school education in the prestigious Baccalaureate/MD program at the Keck School of Medicine of USC, where he achieved degrees in biological sciences, international relations, and doctor of medicine. Dr. Loh-Doyle’s areas of clinical and research interest include erectile dysfunction, male urinary incontinence, Peyronie’s Disease, reconstruction of the urinary tract, and urologic oncology. In addition to urology, he also has a keen interest in health policy and quality improvement and participated in a two-year health care administration scholars program run by the Los Angeles County Department of Health. He was awarded a grant to improve the peri-operative patient experience at Los Angeles County+USC, and he is an active participant in several committees aimed at improving the delivery of sophisticated healthcare to the underserved.    In this episode, you will hear:     The ways in which neurologists can help men with erectile disfunction  The steps leading to a penile prosthesis  How there is a psychogenic component to erectile disfunctions   Allaying the concerns about injecting into the penis   How the penile prosthesis works   The main candidates for this type of surgery   The possible risk and side effects   How common is it for people to have mechanical issues?   The level of satisfaction after surgery   How quickly people can resume sexual activity after surgery     Resources  https://keck.usc.edu/faculty-search/jeffrey-loh-doyle/     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

23 Heinä 201930min

Welcome to episode 132 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m happy to welcome Dr. Natalie Rosen to the podcast. In this episode she speaks to me about female sexual interest arousal disorder (FSIAD), the impact of FSIAD on partners and understanding self-expansion and how it can help.   Dr. Natalie Rosen is an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University, Halifax, Nova Scotia. Her research interests focus on understanding how individuals, and especially couples, cope with sexual problems or changes to their sexual relationship, including low sexual desire. She is an Associate Editor of the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior and has published over 70 peer-reviewed articles and book chapters on sexual relationships. Dr. Rosen’s research is currently funded by the Canadian Institutes of Health Research, the Nova Scotia Health Research Foundation, the Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council of Canada, and the Canadian Foundation of Innovation. Dr. Rosen also maintains a small private practice focused exclusively on sex and couple therapy. In this episode, you will hear:     What is female sexual interest arousal disorder (FSIAD)?   The key part that distress plays in this issue   Understanding that we all go through different periods of higher and lower desire   How common is FSIAD?   The impact of FSIAD on partners   How does this differ between same sex / different sex couples?   How sexual discrepancies exist between couples from the offset   The way in which FSIAD effects communication between partners   Recommendations for couples overcoming this issue    Understanding self-expansion and how it can help         Resources  http://natalieorosen.com  https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090      Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Heinä 201932min

Welcome to episode 131 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Jes L. Matsick, Ph.D and Anna C. Salomaa, M.S. to the podcast. In this episode they speak to me about defining sexual orientation, addressing the challenges around minority distress and the best practice for identifying sexual identity for clinicians.  Jes Matsick, Ph.D.   Jes L. Matsick, Ph.D. is an Assistant Professor of Psychology and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at The Pennsylvania State University. She received her Ph.D. in Psychology and Women’s Studies at the University of Michigan. In her research, she studies sexuality, gender, and prejudice, and much of her work is centered on the perspectives and experiences of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ+) individuals. Dr. Matsick is the director of the Underrepresented Perspectives Lab at Penn State, where she trains undergraduate and graduate students to conduct psychological research with an emphasis on LGBTQ+ issues. Her lab uses social psychological and feminist theories and methodologies to examine contemporary social issues, such as heterosexism, bisexual prejudice, allyship, health disparities, and intergroup relations. Since 2010, she has published more than 25 scientific papers and book chapters in which she examines sexual diversity and the psychological experiences of adults with sexually stigmatized identities. In the classroom at Penn State, she teaches courses that draw on her expertise in sexuality, gender, and health (e.g., Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, Women’s Health Issues, Human Sexuality, and Psychology of Gender). Dr. Matsick’s research has been funded by the American Institute of Bisexuality, the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association, and the Society for the Psychological Study of Social Issues.  Anna C. Salomaa, M.S.   Anna C. Salomaa, M.S. is in her final year as a doctoral candidate at The Pennsylvania State University in the Department of Psychology; her area of focus is clinical psychology. The overarching goal of her research is to translate mapping the complexities of sexuality to the improvement of sexual minority health. Her primary areas of expertise include (1) issues in measuring sexual orientation in clinical and research settings and (2) mechanisms behind and interventions against bisexual prejudice in lesbian, gay, and heterosexual individuals that contribute to health disparities in bisexual people. In 2019, she received the Pennsylvania Psychological Foundation’s Student Multicultural Award. Anna is also the recipient of the 2018 Bisexual Issues Committee Foundation Award by APA's Division 44 (Society for the Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity). Anna integrates her research focus into her clinical work with sexual and gender minority clients by facilitating nuanced identity development.  In this episode, you will hear:   How they became interested in this area of research   Addressing the challenges around minority distress   How do they define sexual orientation?   Measuring sexual orientation and asking the right questions for quality research   The way in which our sexual orientation can change over our lifetime  The fluidity of sexuality   How Bi-Sexual people will experience social isolation   How many people still view being Bi-Sexual as just a pre-cursor to becoming gay   What are some of the best practice for identifying sexual identity for clinicians?      Resources  https://psych.la.psu.edu/directory/jes-matsick-ph-d   https://psych.la.psu.edu/directory/acs312     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Heinä 201933min

Welcome to episode 130 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT. In this episode Dr. Cat speaks to me about BDSM, what does a BDSM relationship look like? How many people like some aspects of BDSM and learning to negotiate the rules and expectations.    Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist #88224, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Dr. Cat integrates various schools of thought including neuro science, somatic theory, psychology, EMDR trauma therapy, and sexual health in her work for private practice, workshops, and transformational retreats that are designed to help people create a deeply fulfilling, prosperous relational and sexual life. For personal therapy work, check her out at CatMeyer.com     She is the co-creator of Goddess Celebration, an annual large scale women’s day retreat held in Malibu, CA, dedicated to uplifting and celebrating the goddess in every women.     Dr. Cat is also host to the popular podcast Eat.Play.Sex on iTunes, in which she brings you expert guests talking on how to ignite your love life both mentally, physically, and relationally. She also gives daily advice and wisdoms about all things sex, love, and yoga on Instagram.    In this episode, you will hear:     What does a BDSM relationship look like?  The relationship BDSM has with sexual identity   The power play dynamics of BDSM   How many people like some aspects of BDSM   The feelings of shame that arise around this issue   When is a good time to bring up BDSM to your partner?  How to talk about BDSM to your partner   Negotiating the rules and expectations   The different types of relationships that can flourish with BDSM   The after-care process of BDSM        Resources  http://Sexloveyoga.com   https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-019-09590-x     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

2 Heinä 201939min

Welcome to episode 129 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Rachel Grant. We speak about healing from childhood sexual abuse, the sexual challenges survivors of sexual abuse face and going through the three stages of being a victim, survivor and beyond survivor.    Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.      She brings to the table a passionate belief that her clients do not have to remain trapped or confronted daily by the thoughts or behaviors that result from abuse. Through her own journey of recovery from sexual abuse, she has gained insight and understanding about what it takes to overcome abuse. This makes it possible for her to relate to and appreciate your struggles intimately.      Based on her desire to foster community, intimacy, and connection, she has dedicated much of her time to understanding relationships and communication and how they are impacted by abuse. For her, how we are relating to others is crucial to improving the overall quality of our lives. In addition to the lessons she's learned along the way, she has attended various lectures and trainings to further hone her skills.      Her program, Beyond Surviving, has been specifically designed to change the way we think about and heal from abuse. Based on her educational training, study of neuroscience, and lessons learned from her own journey, she has successfully used this program since 2007 to help her clients break free from the past and move on with their lives.      She holds an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She provides a compassionate and challenging approach for her clients while using coaching as opposed to therapeutic models.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Rachel became interested in this work  How we are very quick to blame ourselves for sexual abuse   The sexual challenges survivors of sexual abuse face   Falling into the trap of doing things out of obligation   The importance of consent and negotiating   The impact of sexual abuse on a child’s developing brain   The impact of trauma on the brain   Can abuse affect sexual preferences and blueprint?   Understanding you don’t have to live with a sense of brokenness   Going through the three stages of being a victim, survivor and beyond survivor        Resources  www.rachelgrantcoaching.com     Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

25 Kesä 201941min

Welcome to episode 128 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I speak more in depth about talking to your kids about sex.    In this episode, you will hear:     The sex negative messages we receive as kids   What to do if you catch your child involved with sexual activity   Learning how to communicate the subject of sex to your child  The importance of talking about your values   Understanding that children are naturally curious about sex  The common sexual behaviours between child age groups   Be comfortable in using the correct names and terminology around sex  The importance of teaching them about personal boundaries   Providing clear information around safety   Having a good dialogue about sex on the internet  Understanding the importance of not providing negative information around body changes   Talking about basic self-contraception   Having a continued discussion around masturbation and consent  Explaining the various different sexual interests people will have    Resources  Age 10 & up: What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Girls: Revised Edition by Lynda Madaras What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys: Revised Edition by Lynda Madaras It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health (The Family Library) by Robie H. Harris Age 9 & up: Changing Bodies, Changing Lives: Expanded Third Edition: A Book for Teens on Sex and Relationships by Ruth Bell Age 7 to 11:  The Care & Keeping of Us: A Sharing Collection for Girls & Their Moms by Cara Natterson Age 4 to 8:  Those are MY Private Parts by Diane Hansen Age 4 & up:  It’s Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends (The Family Library) by Robie H. Harris https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf   https://www.nctsn.org/resources/sexual-development-and-behavior-children-information-parents-and-caregivers   https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Bonus Episode, Sex & OCD: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-episode-ocd-and-sex/  Bonus Episode, Sex & Depression: https://oasis2care.com/bonus-depression-sex/     https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

18 Kesä 201934min