EP224 - How Does Cannabis Affect Sex? with Dr. Jordan Tishler

Welcome to episode 262 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a solo episode where I answer questions from our listeners. In this episode, we touch upon subjects such as tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner, misconceptions about the importance of penis size and what to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans.      In this episode, you will hear:     Knowing when the right time is to touch your partners clit   Tackling anxiety-based issues such as not feeling big enough for your partner   Overcoming performance anxiety   Looking at spontaneous and responsive desire   What to do if your partner wants to join OnlyFans   Understanding the motivations behind wanting to start an OnlyFans page   The importance of starting slow if your partner does start an OnlyFans page   How you can build up your sexual confidence  Misconceptions about the importance of penis size   Understanding your relationship with your body   Ways in which you can overcome sexual shame    Find Sexology Podcast Online  https://sexologypodcast.com     Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

28 Joulu 202124min

Welcome to episode 261 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Krista St-Germain to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Krista became interested in becoming a life coach for widows through the tragic passing of her husband, the myths and misconceptions around grief, and ways you can invite pleasure after grief, inside and outside the bedroom.    Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about — now she coaches and teaches other widows so they too, can love life again.      In this episode, you will hear:     How Krista became interested in this work through the tragic passing of her husband   What is grief and how is it defined?   The myths and misconceptions around grief   Understanding that grief is not uniform and different for each person   How people can begin again to lean into pleasure while experiencing grief   The ways in which grief can impact people’s sexual health   Resources and places you can go if you want to seek out pleasure after grief   Looking at the term “Widhoe” and Krista’s thoughts on it   Other ways you can invite pleasure after grief, inside and outside the bedroom   Recommendations for dating in today’s digital world of apps   Learning to be honest and open with people when dating and not be afraid to even talk about things like STI’s         Find Krista St-Germain Online  https://www.coachingwithkrista.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

21 Joulu 202130min

Welcome to episode 260 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Holly Richmond to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Dr. Holly's new book “Reclaiming Pleasure”, looking at ways to combat shame and guilt and how sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality.      Dr. Holly is one of North America’s leading sex therapists, serving women, men, couples and gender-diverse individuals for relationship and sexuality issues. She counsels a broad range of clients including Hollywood’s elite and prominent corporate clientele and offers consultation services with psychotherapy interns and other therapists.     Dr. Holly works from a sex positive approach, meaning: “all sex is good sex as long as it’s consensual and pleasurable.” She is committed to helping her clients feel better—mind and body—not just behave differently.     Her therapeutic relationships are built on strong rapport, trust, non-judgment and acceptance, though she is directive and results oriented, not simply supportive. Her objective is to help clients meet their goals and move through the therapy process as quickly as possible.     Dr. Holly’s forthcoming book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life (New Harbinger, Oct. 2021) is a groundbreaking examination of both somatic and psychological factors in survivor’s’ recovery.      In this episode, you will hear:     Why Dr. Holly decided to write her book “Reclaiming Pleasure”   Looking at ways to connect people easier   Analyzing the issue of trauma re-enactment   Understanding the difference between trauma re-enactment and a healthy sex life   Looking at ways to combat shame and guilt   How many people struggle with performance anxiety   Understanding the fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses and their relationship to trauma   How we can learn to reconnect with ourselves   Looking at exercise couples can take part in together   Learning to schedule sex with your partner for a better sex life  How sexual trauma mis-informs our sexuality     Find Dr. Holly Online  https://drhollyrichmond.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

14 Joulu 202129min

Welcome to episode 259 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss triggers and how are they defined, looking at the relationship between sex and trauma and understanding the importance of practicing self-compassion.   Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT is the co-author of the innovative book: With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. A licensed therapist with an expertise in sexuality, trauma, and relationships, Jamila has been a sex educator since 2005 and has practiced psychotherapy since 2015. She is the founder and owner of the psychotherapy practice Fire & Flow Therapy. She has collaborated with Buzzfeed, MEL, Playboy, Harper’s BAZAAR and other media outlets and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Girlboner and Sex with Dr. Jess. Jamila uses her Instagram & Facebook accounts to share practices, tools, and reflections on sexuality, relationships, and mental health. She divides her time between Las Vegas and Los Angeles.   August McLaughlin is a nationally recognized journalist and host and producer of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, a true story-driven podcast where she explores sexual empowerment, relationships and pleasure. Her articles have been featured by Cosmopolitan, the Washington Post, Salon and more. Her 2018 release, Girl Boner, was featured in the New York Times and called “equally fun, risqué, and informative” by Publishers Weekly. She has presented at colleges, recovery centers, and the CDC headquarters, attended the 2016 United State of Women summit as a nominated changemaker and gave a TEDx talk on her experience overcoming an eating disorder she was diagnosed with while working abroad in the fashion industry.   In this episode, you will hear:   What are triggers and how are they defined? How Jamila and August and became interested in this line of work Looking at the relationship between sex and trauma Understanding that issues around trauma are common Looking at how fight, flight and fawning works with trauma What is fawning and how is it related to trauma? The importance of practicing self-compassion Analyzing pleasure traps Understanding that you deserve to have pleasure Finding peace in alternative sexual behaviors Find Jamila M. Dawson Online https://jamiladawson.com   Find August McLaughlin Online https://augustmclaughlin.com   Sex Quiz for Women https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Joulu 202143min

Welcome to episode 258 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Robyn Goldberg to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the relationship between food and sexuality, looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause and why Robyn decided to write her new book, The Eating Disorder Trap.    Robyn Goldberg is a registered dietitian nutritionist, certified eating disorder registered dietitian supervisor, certified intuitive eating counselor and a Health at Every Size® (HAES) clinician. Robyn has spent years learning from some of the best in the industry and continues to seek professional mentoring, attends innovative conferences and stays abreast with the most current literature.     Robyn began her career at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles as the in-patient dietitian in the Department of Cardiology. For the last 23 years, Robyn Goldberg has had a private practice in Beverly Hills, CA, where she specializes in medical conditions, eating disorders, disordered eating, dual diagnosis, pre-pregnancy nutrition and women seeking fertility treatment.     Robyn consistently educates professionals, students, and RDNs about how to best incorporate intuitive eating and Health at Every Size® approaches into their work and lives. She teaches nutrition classes on a wide array of topics for the Motion Picture Industry’s Wellness Program.     Actively involved in the nutrition and body positive community, Robyn is also a member of organizations including: Association of Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH), Academy of Eating Disorders (AED), International Association of Eating Disorder Professionals (iaedp) and the International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians (IFEDD). She also serves as a Nutrition Consultant for the Celiac Disease Foundation. Robyn also leads several body image and eating disorder groups in sober living settings in the Los Angeles Area.     Robyn is a nationally renowned contributing author registered dietitian nutritionist. She has been quoted as an expert in various publications including The New York Times, The Huffington Post, Diabetes Forecast, Shape Magazine, Fitness, Oxygen, Life & Style, Natural Solutions, Beverly Hills Weekly and Today’s Dietitian. In addition, Robyn has also served as an eating disorder specialist on the nationally televised show “The Insider” and an expert on The Associated Press (AP).     In this episode, you will hear:     How is our relationship between food and sexuality related?   Why it’s important to look at the relationship between food and sexuality  How our hormones can change if we restrict them for a long time   Looking at food addiction and the issues it can cause   Who is at risk of developing an eating disorder?   What to do if you don’t like your body   Connecting with your partner on this issue to improve your sex life  Looking at how Robyn works with people to feel better within their own bodies   How dieting can have a negative impact on eating disorders   Why Robyn decided to write her book, The Eating Disorder Trap       Find Robyn Goldberg Online  https://theeatingdisordertrap.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

30 Marras 202131min

Welcome to episode 257 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Lucie's new book: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments, looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity and how we can cultivate erotic embodiment.    Lucie Fielding, MA (she/they) is a white, queer, non-binary femme, and a Resident in Counseling, practicing in Charlottesville, VA. She received her Master’s in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute (2018). Lucie also holds a PhD in French from Northwestern University (2008), where she specialized in eighteenth-century literature, histories of sexualities, and erotic literature.     Her background in literature and history attunes her to the many ways that image, metaphor, and cultural scripts shape and inform the narratives we carry with us as we move through the world as well as how these narratives inscribe themselves on our bodies. She is the author of Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments (Routledge, May 2021).      In this episode, you will hear:     How Lucie became inspired to write: Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments  Looking at the politics of desirability   The benefits of trans for trans dating   How biases that exist in society effect who we see as desirable   Looking at erotic privilege and genital curiosity   How we can cultivate erotic embodiment   Overcoming the unrealistic expectation that trans people should disclose upfront  How the frameworks in Lucie’s book can also apply to cis people        Find Lucie Fielding Online  https://luciefielding.com     Sex Quiz for Women   https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

23 Marras 202131min

Welcome to episode 256 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Mimi Hoang (she/her) to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common misconceptions around bisexual people, the pressures bisexual people face when getting into a same-sex relationship and looking at the ways in which Dr. Mimi has helped uplift the bisexual community.    Dr. Mimi Hoang (she/her) is an internationally-recognized psychologist, educator, author, and grassroots activist specializing in the lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, and asexual (LGBTQ+) and Asian Pacific Islander (API) communities. Since the 1990s, she has co-founded three organizations in Los Angeles for bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and other nonmonosexual (AKA "bi+") individuals, authored multiple publications, and earned a seat at the landmark 2013 White House Bisexual Community Roundtable.      Dr. Mimi's steadfast leadership has earned her multiple awards, a feature in Jan Dee Gordon's LGBTQ of Steel photography book, and being named “One of the Most Significant Women in the Bisexual Movement.” She currently works as a Staff Psychologist at Loyola Marymount University (LMU), Clinical Supervisor of the LGBTQIA+ Affirmative Therapy Center at Airport Marina Counseling Services, and is the creator of the "Bi on Life" self-empowerment series and Bi+ Women's Space, a virtual support group for bi+ women in Los Angeles.     In this episode, you will hear:     How Dr. Mimi became interested in this line of work   The ways in which Dr. Mimi has helped uplift the bi community   Overcoming the mental health challenges around coming out as bi-sexual   How many people try to invalidate bisexuality as a pathway to becoming gay or lesbian   How the percentage of people in the US identifying as LGBTQ+ has doubled since 2012  Looking at the common misconceptions around bisexual people   Why it’s important to understand that bisexuality is not experimentation  The pressures bisexual people face when getting into a same sex relationship  Recommendations for communities and support groups for bisexual people     Find Dr. Mimi Hoang Online  https://www.drmimihoang.com     Sex Quiz for Women https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz/   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

16 Marras 202125min

Welcome to episode 255 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Zachary Zane to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Zachary’s journey of coming out as bi-sexual, the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality and recommendations on where to start dating if you’re just starting to experiment with bisexuality.    Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture.     He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because let’s be real, we all know that already.     He also has a monthly column at Queer Majority called “Zach and the City,” which explores romance and sexuality through Zane’s fabulous life. Set against the backdrop of New York City, Zane uses his personal experiences as a young and adventurous queer socialite to unpack the current state of cosmopolitan sex, love, and dating.      He currently writes for The Washington Post, Rolling Stone, and Prevention. He was formerly a digital associate editor at OUT Magazine and a contributing editor at Pride.com, Plus Magazine, and The Advocate Magazine. He's been featured in numerous other publications as well, including Playboy, NBC, SELF, Allure, Dazed, AskMen, Slate, Into, Them, Cosmopolitan, Hornet, NewNowNext, LGBTQ Nation, MerryJane, and Bustle.     As a leading bisexual activist, Zane has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months.      He attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama), and has been featured as an expert on a number of podcasts including Dan Savage's "Savage Lovecast."     In this episode, you will hear:     Looking at Zachary’s journey of coming out as bi-sexual   Understanding that being bi-sexual is not just a steppingstone to being gay  How many straight people experiment with bisexuality but are ashamed to talk about it   The misconceptions that exist around bisexual men   How the gay community isn’t always welcoming to bisexual men   Looking at the differences between bisexuality and pansexuality  The ways in which coming out as bisexual can affect a person's self-image  Recommendations on where to start dating if you’re just starting to experiment with bisexuality   The role that monogamy and non-monogamy plays in bisexual relationships   Looking at the development of the bisexual community in cities like New York and Los Angeles          Find Zachary Zane Online  http://zacharyzane.com     25 Ways To Increase Your Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

9 Marras 202135min