#95 - The Truth About First Times, Pleasure & Pressure | Under The Sheets With Tatiana Ashborn - Podcaster, Sex Educator

Disclaimer: This episode contains mature content about sex, relationships, and personal experiences. The discussion is educational and intended for adult listeners. Nothing shared constitutes professional medical, therapeutic, or legal advice. Always practice safe sex, prioritise consent, and consult qualified professionals for personal health concerns.

Tatiana Ashborn is a sex educator and host of "Dirty Talk/Under The Sheets with Tatiana Ashborn," where she creates open, shame-free conversations about intimacy and relationships.

This was an extremely free-flowing chat between Tatiana and I, with us both opening up on our personal experiences of sex and relationships.

In this episode, we explore:

- How growing up around her brother, his mates, and visiting musicians shaped views on sex, relationships, and the double standards between men and women

- Why traditional sex education focuses on fear and pregnancy rather than pleasure, consent, and healthy exploration - and what's actually missing from the conversation

- The real story behind Jason appearing on Naked Attraction, including the application process, the manufactured behind-the-scenes reality, and how prior experiences with skinny dipping made the nudity feel surprisingly normal

- Red flags in modern dating that might actually be green flags depending on your perspective - including not drinking, religious gym-going, and having a sex education podcast

- The connection between music and intimacy, from awkward sex playlists to how creativity and sexuality intersect in unexpected ways

- What it's really like running a successful in-person podcast with two recordings a day, managing pre-interview anxiety, and learning to truly listen rather than just wait for your turn to talk

This conversation includes candid stories about first sexual experiences, navigating judgment as a sex educator, and the evolution from anxious question-reading to authentic conversational interviewing.

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Fully Timestamped Chapter List

00:00:00 When Tatiana First Became Aware Of Sex

00:04:18 Sex Education Work & How Tatiana Defines It

00:08:06 First Sexual Experience & Losing Virginity at 16

00:14:26 Generational Differences in Sexual Behaviour & Pornography Access

00:18:04 First Time Watching Porn & Vintage Erotic Film Discussion

00:22:09 Interviewing Her 90-Year-Old Grandma About Sex

00:29:22 Value of Elders, Cross-Cultural Perspectives & Grandparents' Wisdom

00:35:27 Naked Attraction, Jason's Experience on the Show & Behind the Scenes

00:49:43 Dating After Four Years Single & Anxious Attachment Style

00:57:57 Body Confidence, Rejection & Naked Attraction Reflections

01:01:24 Red Flags vs Green Flags in Dating

01:07:33 Shared Values in Relationships & Compatibility Tests

01:14:11 Optimal Time to Wait Before Sex in a New Relationship

01:19:57 Music Production, Music & Sex Connections

01:24:42 Personal Music Journey & Song writing Struggles

01:27:17 Sexual Innuendos in Everyday Life

01:35:41 Travelling for Three Years While Running a Podcast

01:40:10 Podcasting Nerves, Batching Episodes & Interview Preparation

01:48:49 The Art of Listening & Interviewing Techniques

01:56:24 Learning from Early Podcast Episodes & Embracing Growth

02:02:22 Upcoming Projects & Teaching Sex Education

02:04:48 Daily Habits, Calendars & Routines for Success

02:09:29 Closing Remarks & Where to Find Tatiana

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