Rainbow Roads: Surviving the Storm of Miscarriage

⚠️ Content Note / Trigger Warning:

This episode contains discussion of miscarriage, pregnancy loss, ectopic pregnancy, and related emotional experiences. Please listen with care and skip if this topic is not right for you today.

🎙️ Fertile-ish Podcast

Season 2, Episode 10

Rainbow Roads: Surviving the Storm of Miscarriage

Miscarriage is one of the most common — and most misunderstood — parts of the fertility journey. In this deeply honest and compassionate episode, Laura and Brandis sit down to talk openly about pregnancy loss, the emotional aftermath, and how to survive a road no one ever expects to walk.

Whether you’ve experienced a chemical pregnancy, a missed miscarriage, an ectopic pregnancy, or a later loss — this episode is for you. We break down the medical and emotional realities of miscarriage, explain why it happens, and remind you (over and over again): nothing you did caused this.

You are not broken. You are not alone. And your loss matters.

💔 In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why miscarriage is far more common than most people realize (affecting up to 1 in 4 pregnancies)

• The emotional weight of pregnancy loss — grief, guilt, anxiety, and the hormonal crash no one prepares you for

• Why miscarriage is not your fault, even when your brain tries to convince you otherwise

• Common unhelpful things people say — and why “at least you can get pregnant” isn’t comforting

• The most common medical causes of miscarriage, including:

  • Chromosomal abnormalities

  • Age-related egg quality changes

  • Blood clotting disorders (like Factor V Leiden)

  • Autoimmune and inflammatory conditions

  • Uterine abnormalities (fibroids, septum, bicornuate uterus)

  • Balanced chromosomal translocations

• The different types of pregnancy loss, including:

  • Chemical (biochemical) pregnancies

  • Spontaneous miscarriages

  • Missed miscarriages

  • Blighted ovum

  • Incomplete miscarriages

  • Pregnancy of unknown location / ectopic pregnancy

  • Molar pregnancy

• When (and how) it’s medically safe to try again — and why emotional readiness matters just as much as physical healing

• What to expect with HCG levels, periods returning, and timing after:

  • Natural miscarriage

  • Medication-assisted miscarriage

  • D&C

  • Methotrexate treatment

• Why recurrent pregnancy loss testing usually doesn’t begin until after multiple losses

• Coping strategies that actually help — therapy, hobbies, rest, rituals, boundaries, and giving yourself permission to grieve

• Meaningful ways people memorialize pregnancy loss, from planting trees to Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month traditions

• How to advocate for yourself when you’re not ready to talk about “next steps”

• Why fear in subsequent pregnancies is normal — and why worry doesn’t cause loss

🌈 A Gentle ReminderThere is no “right” way to grieve.
There is no timeline for healing.
There is no hierarchy of loss.

Whether your pregnancy lasted days, weeks, or months — it mattered.

If you’re walking this rainbow road right now, please know:
✨ You are seen
✨ You are supported
✨ You are not alone

💬 Share With Us

Have you experienced pregnancy loss?
Did something help you cope, heal, or remember?

We’d love to hear your story — anonymously or openly.
You can submit directly through the Fertile-ish form at www.cnyfertility.com/fertileish, send us a message on Instagram, or simply sit with us through this episode.

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