52: How to Finally Keep Your New Year's Resolutions

I'm checking in with you on your New Year's resolutions.

If you're like me, you might have let go of them within a day and a half! This time, my goal is more manageable: to create small, consistent habits.

Did you know that almost half of what we do every day is out of habit? This is good news, because if we can turn the changes we want to make into regular habits we don't need to think about, we can more easily reach our goals.

In this week's episode, I dive into the psychology of why we quit—our brain feels deprived when we focus on taking things away.

Instead, I propose a helpful mindset shift: instead of focusing on sacrifice, let's focus on adding in enjoyable things that support our goals. For example, adding 20 minutes of reading before bed or a morning breathing break to de-stress feels enjoyable and can help us reach our goal of reducing stress.

We also talk about the importance of becoming the person who already has the goal. What would a person with a great marriage or a fit person do? Start making decisions based on that persona.

And importantly, if you "fall off the wagon," I explain why you haven't failed—it's only a chance to adjust and reset. Don't quit, keep learning and going until you achieve your goal!

Discover:

Why most New Year's resolutions fail and how to be in the successful 10% of those who reach their goals.
The key mindset shift from "taking away" (deprivation) to "adding in" (abundance) to make positive changes stick.
Practical examples of habits you can add to boost energy, increase mood, and reduce stress.
How to use the "Future Self" method to help you make better decisions in the moment.
The power of consistency, even in small increments like 10 minutes a day.
A non-judgmental approach to "falling off the wagon" and why you should always reset instead of quitting.

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and New Year's Resolutions Check-In

01:28 The Power of Positive Habits

04:29 Adding Instead of Subtracting

08:33 Visualizing Success

10:44 Consistency and Making Adjustments

16:15 Overcoming Setbacks

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