Episode 149 - We Need To Talk About Codependency

For a long time, codependency has been framed as weakness or passivity—that’s why so many strong, capable, high-functioning women hear that word and immediately think, that is absolutely not me. In this episode, I explore where the concept of codependency actually came from and why that original definition often doesn’t fit. When we widen the lens, codependency starts to look a lot more like over-functioning and organizing your time, energy, and identity around other people. When we can understand it in that way, it opens up a much more honest and hopeful path forward. Here’s what I cover:

Why the original addiction-based definition of codependency misses how it shows up for high-functioning women
How control can turn into codependency and start to replace your self-connection
What it looks like when your identity is built around being needed or emotionally steady
How codependency costs you your time, energy, and brain space, whether it feels like over-functioning or under-functioning
Questions to help you notice where you’re managing others in order to feel okay

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