The Parts that Long & the Parts that Hide: IFS, SEX, & HEALING with Forrest Benedict

Join Gilbert Romero-Mewharter and special guest Forrest Benedict in this deeply personal episode exploring the healing of sexual shame and the reclaiming of desire through Internal Family Systems. Together, they discuss how culture, religion, and trauma often disconnect us from our authentic sexuality, creating parts that judge, suppress, or dissociate from our true selves. Forrest emphasizes that healing begins with understanding and loving these parts, seeing them as heroic protectors rather than problems.

This conversation highlights that sexuality is a vital, natural part of being human—and that shame surrounding it is often rooted in fear and judgment. Gilbert and Forrest explore how to create safe spaces, both internally and therapeutically, for parts to be seen, heard, and integrated. They guide mindful exercises on connecting with shame and desire, reminding us that our desires are pathways to wholeness, not dangers.

Whether you’re a therapist or someone on your own healing journey, this episode encourages gentle curiosity, patience, and compassion as tools for liberation. Forrest shares practical insights on building trust with parts, unfreezing past wounds, and honoring the full spectrum of human desire. Remember: healing isn’t about fixing who you are, but about welcoming all parts of yourself with love and acceptance.

Check out the full episode here: https://youtu.be/WSlm6hZ13tY

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00:00 Healing Shame and Embracing Authenticity

02:47 Understanding Sexuality and Shame

05:45 Navigating Trauma and Protectors

08:56 Building Trust with Protectors

11:54 The Importance of Witnessing and Compassion

14:48 Integrating Parts and Healing Sexuality

17:50 Unfreezing Parts and Reparenting

20:47 The Complexity of Sexuality and Healing

23:56 Addressing Self-Judgment and Shame

26:50 Therapist's Role in Sexuality Conversations

29:46 Connecting to Self and Sexuality

33:14 Mindfulness and Inner Connection