I Can’t Say No!!

In this episode of Wise Mind DBT, we dive deep into The Yes Trap.

Why is it so hard to say no? Why does saying yes feel automatic, even when it costs us? We explore how people-pleasing often isn’t a flaw, but a survival strategy. For many of us, saying yes wasn’t a conscious choice, it was functional, protective, and necessary early in life.

We unpack how choosing connection over authenticity can become wired into us from a young age. Drawing on the work of Gabor Maté, we explore the powerful tension between attachment and authenticity and why, as children, connection often had to come first.

But what are the long-term costs of living “yes-trapped”? We talk about how chronic self-abandonment can impact mental health, relationships, and even contribute to long-term physical health issues.

If you’ve ever struggled to set boundaries, felt guilty saying no, or found yourself exhausted from overcommitting , this episode is for you.

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Acknowledgment of Dr. Marsha M. Linehan and the Origins of DBT

We honor Dr. Marsha M. Linehan, psychologist and professor who created Dialectical Behavior Therapy.

It’s thanks to Dr. Linehan that DBT has become a proven intervention for a range of mental health challenges.

Wise Mind A DBT Podcast gratefully acknowledges that DBT is Dr. Linehan’s work, not ours, and we honor her legacy.