SS 223: The Genital Spectacle - Learning to Like Our Bits

Tonight, Madam Fierce joins the Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, and Dylan to re-open the mailbag once again to give it the gang bang it deserves. The crew answers questions on the difference between swinging and polyamory, breaking up with another swing couple, swinging with too much enthusiasm, single male swingers, and first time swinging hiccups.   Question 1: Hi guys, this is to all of you, though maybe first to Dylan, who seems to particularly enjoy contemplating these things. I have been been listening to your podcasts since 2011, and have enjoyed the entire run. What I have been struggling with intellectually is what differentiates swinging from polyamory. My wife and I have recently had acouples' experience which I think has cleared this up, at least for me. I am the introspective one in the relationship (she tends act quickly based on gut feelings of comfort, and chuckles at my additional ruminating), so this is really from the Mr. We've been pretty successful with swinging / casual hookups, though Two things have happened recently that have changed things a bit. First, my wife has maintained an online friendship with a single man since last spring, which I whole heartedly support, she's making plans to see him soon. Secondly, we recently met a couple where I quickly developed a strong emotional connection with the wife. My wife has enjoyed the husband's company, but clearly isn't interested in anything more than casual. My wife supports my exploring this. So, then, how to define what it is that we seem to be getting into? We areboth (probably) trying out hall passes, meeting folks one on one before the other has met them, and acknowledging at least one developing emotional connection with someone outside our relationship.   Question 2: I was hoping you could give my wife and I some advice. My wife and I had talked about swinging for about a year before we actually met and played with our first couple. They checked so many of our boxes for a first encounter that we felt very fortunate to have met them. The first time happened and was a reasonably good time. Not great by any means, but we didn't have any regrets as we popped our cherrys so to speak and we're both giddy for a month after. We discussed the apparent compatibility issues right away. We decided to take another crack at the full swap with the same couple a month or so later to rule out nervousness. The second encounter allowed us another opportunity to hone in on the things that both did and didn't work for us. We had all but decided that this couple wasn't a compatible fit for us and although round 2 was better, we were still too far away from what we wanted. Unfortunately, we went in for a third time, because we are slutty and it was easy to do. Now the question: How do you break up with a couple?   Question 3: I'm a 39-yr old woman & new to all of this although I've been very much wanting to explore my bisexual & naughty sides for quite some time…, got a new boyfriend, he's 32, bisexual & we've been together for 1 month, already practically living together & saying the "L" word. He's experienced in the swinging lifestyle (although it's been awhile) & is thrilled that I'm wanting/willing to try some new things with him. We've made a couples profile on 3 different sites & had 1 threesome already. The problem is, I'm wanting to take it slow when it comes to women & couples ~ need to find the right person that I feel comfortable with and trust (to kinda get me past that nervousness hump) & he's all gung-ho about meeting people ASAP & making things happen, to the point of fiendish obsession (from my point of view, anyway). He's constantly on swinger sites, viewing profiles, suggesting potential action to me, and I'm rather picky, especially if I finally break into girl-on-girl play. It's made me feel insecure, especially now that he's done most of the negotiation and now has started deleting messages, so I said something about it. We talked, he agreed he was moving too fast, but now I fear that I'm being petty. Is this venture between him & I doomed? I'm not 100% sure what my boundaries are and I know I can't be the only woman on the planet to have unwelcome territorial feelings & insecurities crop up when first starting out. How can I overcome that? I really want to do this, and I want to do it with this man. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.   Question 4: Hi Swingset, love your Swinging for Beginning series and hope to hear more in the future. My wife and I tried NonMonogamy. It went great for her, it was disasterous for me. We made some mistakes that culminated in us ending up in an unintentional cuckold arrangement. I'm faced with moving through the swinger community as a single male and I'm not sure how. Single female swingers are few and far between and single men are plentiful and often faced with limited or expensive access to clubs and other spaces. The swinger community is pretty anti-single male, I have no clue how to survive being one. I'm segregated from the community I want to be a part of and I don't how how to proceed. Help!   Question 5: We had our first experience at an on premise party last weekend. Our rules going in were no penetration, whatever we do it's together - constant touching of each other and at the first sign of discomfort we bail and regroup. The biggest insecurities both had was getting into a situation and being ignored. Unfortunately, the hubby drank way too much! We met a nice couple we were both comfortable with and stuck a pin in them for later, we then met another couple we liked and took the action upstairs. We started playing together but the my hubby seemed disconneted. The original couple came upstairs and my hubby went off with the wife. The rest of the night we moved independently, hubby with other women, me with other men and women. The party ended, we went back to our rooms and ended up with more activity in which I felt ignored. My hubby's been apologizing ever since, he feels horrible and can't explain his actions. I feel like I should have ended things the first moment I felt ignored but I didn't. We're both confused and aren't sure how to proceed. Should we go out again but watch the drinking? Should we both be more free to speak up?   Join Cooper and Dylan as they host a class on Bacchanalia Basics at the Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI on September 29th at 8:30PM!   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!   Intro Music: Stonebank - By Your Side (feat. EMEL) Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell Madam Fierce's Music: Duumu - For Her Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix) Outro Music: INTERCOM - Decoy World (feat. Park Avenue)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!   Dylan Thomas Mike Joseph Dirty Lola

26 Syys 20171h 9min

Hello Swingset Fans! We're taking a short break, episode 300 took an immense amount of effort to prepare: From recording -actually live- with an almost hundred person audience to publishing it via an audio and video podcast, to normal scheduling shenanigans... we think it's well deserved. Cooper's going to take a short break from the Swingset, he deserves it, so we've manned the Swingset Battle Bridge, separated the saucer section, and made plans for the rest of the crew to carry on in the last hostile takeover of the Swingset ever. While we'll look forward to his return, we've also released a little piece of Swingset history: a transcript of our first episode from 2010 titled "Dipping a Toe In - How to Start Swinging". You can find it at lifeontheswingset.com, just ... be gentle, we'd like to think we've grown since then. In the meantime, thanks for swinging by, and see you next week.   Music: "Studio" Steve Wallace's -Air Man, off the Mega Man 2 album. Licensed under (CC BY-ND 3.0).

13 Syys 20171min

Life on the Swingset gets back together at the ski chalet, high atop Mt. Swingset, except it's August and the air conditioning is on. The chair lifts aren't active so Ginger, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Chris Pent, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Katie Mack had to make their way up the old fashioned way, hand over hand. It's a special day, Life on the Swingset celebrates its 300th episode and does so with a live studio internet audience! Make sure you use #ss300 along with #sspodcast and tweet along as you listen!   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!     Rachel Lark joined us for our 300th episode with music from two of her albums! Off the Vagenius album: You Only Live Once (The Asshole Song) Off the They've Done Studies album: Free the Nipple Picard Didn't See it Coming   Outro Music: Puppet - Scribble (feat. The Eden Project)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!       Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph Dirty Lola Ginger Bentham

7 Syys 20172h 6min

When people think of sex, they generally assume there's penile penetration, probably into a vagina, and that everything leading up to that penetration is foreplay. It's a very narrow view, but it's a view that stubbornly persists into non-monogamy. Tonight, on our #roadto300, we consider this episode on foreplay as foreplay. Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Dylan Thomas, and Cooper S. Beckett get together to discuss foreplay and redefinition of what constitutes sex.   You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!   Intro Music: Rameses B - Play To Win (feat. Holly Drummond) Outro Music: Koven & Crystal Skies - You Me And Gravity Business Music: Muzzy - Children of Hell Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!     Cooper S Beckett   Dylan Thomas   Dr. Liz Powell   Dirty Lola

3 Syys 20171h 9min

It is always risky, telling people what you're into, what you want, that you like them, but as we've found out it's often essential in getting anywhere in non-monogamy and in life. Tonight Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas discuss how to put yourself out there and how to take it when others do the same.     You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!     Intro and Outro Music: Grant, Anevo & Conro - Without You (feat. Victoria Zaro) Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!     Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

23 Elo 20171h 10min

Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dr. Liz Powell get together to discuss threesomes, the bests, the worsts, and the firsts Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days! You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist! Thanks to Kevin MacLeod for his track Plucky Daisy from the Silent Film Score Compilation, licensed under Creative Commons v3.0, Intro Music: Conro & Disero - Love Divine (feat. Alice Berg) Outro Music: LVTHER - Some Kind Of Magic (feat. MYZICA) Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse! Cooper S Beckett Dr. Liz Powell Dirty Lola

11 Elo 20171h 30min

When setting up your dating profile, be it monogamous, poly, or swinger, if you're considering putting a big close up of your dick front and center, you MAY want to reconsider. Tonight the Cunning Minx, host of Polyamory Weekly and co-author of the new book: No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresistible Online Dating Profile joins Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, Mike Joseph, and Dr. Liz Powell to discuss Dick Pics and Dating Profiles! We discuss introductory messages and the advantages of using Statement, Disclosure, Invitation.  We disassemble why people have issues making connections, discuss touch, cuddle parties, and we take a detour over Incels.     Life on the Swingset's 300th episode is right around the corner! Join us on August 13th for this once in 300 episodes event!   Dylan and Mister Pent will be at Schubas: Lincoln Hall on August 17th in Chicago for The Greatest Generation, a comedy podcast by two guys who are embarrassed to have a Star Trek podcast. Join them!   Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days! You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!     Intro and Outro Music: Grant - Weapon (feat. Baum) Review Music: Haywyre - Sculpted Dr. Liz Powell's Music: Summer Was Fun - Hold On (feat. Q'AILA) Mike Joseph's Music: Falcon Funk - Catnip Trip (Perkulat0r Remix)   Our 2017 THEME comes courtesy of Vlad Lucan and his track: Reverse!       Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Dr. Liz Powell Mike Joseph

29 Heinä 20171h 29min

Most of us, especially when young, hope that death will never come, or at least not for a really really long time, and that can mean being unprepared when it does. Difficulties with visitation, inheritance, and others are issues ignored at our own peril. Dr. Liz Powell talks personally and painfully about Elliot, a partner recently and unexpectedly deceased, and along with Dylan Thomas, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, and Cooper S. Beckett, discusses issues surrounding death, picking up the pieces in life, and dealing with grief.   Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get your free 60 days! You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe at lifeontheswingset.com/shevibe. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on Patreon! Your support will also get you invited to a private chat system with other Swingsetters, and give you the opportunity to join live podcast recordings. The best FREE thing you can do to support us is leave us a five-star review. Come to our review gateway, then copy and paste your review into iTunes or Stitcher! Android Users: Download and review our Android App! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). You can now pre-order Cooper's novel Approaching The Swingularity, his previous novel A Life Less Monogamous, or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook. Use promo code SWINGSET at coopersbeckett.com to save 10%. Help Dylan edit by buying him something from his Amazon Wishlist!

19 Heinä 20171h 11min