SS 255: People of Color in Kink Communities

We all go on dates. Maybe it's a play date with another sexy couple. Maybe it's a romantic getaway with a partner we only see every couple months. Maybe it's a night of taking off your clothes and cleaning someone's apartment for them while they watch you barely contain your excitement. We all date, and we all eventually have other relationships, people we're making a life with, other people we're fucking, maybe a daddy, and while what we're doing is ultimately our business, we still want to do right by and be right with the people we choose to call our people. We discuss how hard it is to manage multiple relationships and that respecting multiple people simultaneously while developing new relationships takes skill, mindfulness, presence, and lots of communication of expectations, needs and considarations.

13 Heinä 20151h 8min

We've all been in situations that we were really... REALLY eager to be in.... then realize in the moment maybe we don't want to be in this particular situation but you like everyone involved and you don't want to spoil the mood, and you want to step back gracefully and disengage. We discuss learning how to get a handle on your own emotions both in the moment and after, we relay some of our strategies in communicating lack of enthusiasm for the act without accidentally conveying lack of enthusiasm for the person, and take care of some "business".

8 Heinä 20151h 6min

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29 Kesä 20151h 11min

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19 Kesä 20151h 1min

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12 Kesä 20151h 5min

Holy Shit Shira B. Katz is here! … and she’s causing trouble! … and she starts a wonderful conversation with Ginger about mindfulness! ….and she asks what we’ve been doing with our lives and we update her with an episode almost entirely about “our business” which included the introduction of the term relationship anarchy. It was a pleasure and we hope it happens again. J …also “dumping with Dylan” may become a thing now. And I guess “Just the Tip with Dylan Thomas”. Maybe. Whatever.   We reference Headspace (the website that apparently treats your head right) and Dr. Dan Siegel’s book Mindsight.

3 Kesä 20151h 18min

Adult film star, author, sex educator, outspoken feminist and advocate for sexual acceptance Nina Hartley joins and honors us with a conversation on the Swingset. Nina was a pioneer of sex positivity before sex positivity was a thing. A prolific performer, an outspoken feminist and an advocate for sexual acceptance (as a board member of the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance), Nina is the sexual freedom fighter we all admire. We are deeply honored to welcome her onto the Swingset. After Nina leaves, Dylan responds to an email we received regarding our latest Bedcast by both acknowledging our own failings and by shining light on the absurdity of claiming lack of responsibility through silence and complacency.

27 Touko 20151h 6min

Vacations. Aren't they great? But you know what's better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who've never been on a sexy vacation, they can also be intimidating and scary. For our ninth Swinging for Dummies episode we, enthusiastic advocates of the sexy vacation, share what we have learned so that your next sexy vacation is everything you want it to be and more. That's tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast.   Tonight's episode is sponsored by our good friends at Gamelink.com, which is where you should be going for your porn!

21 Touko 20151h 19min