SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

Tonight the Swingset opens the mailbag... but does so carefully, as it's -20F outside. Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle answer your listener questions!

Question 1:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We have amazing sex, but I can't seem to get satisfied sexually. We have sex/oral sex at least twice a day, but it seems like the more I orgasm, the more I crave it. He's slightly below average size, and I don't have any problems with his size because he knows what to do with it, but he's very self-conscious about his size. I'd love to bring up the topic of polyamory to him, but I'm afraid he'll feel like I want to do it just to be with someone bigger. In fact, I'm 100% positive that is what he would think. I've always felt that I might be bisexual. I'm fascinated with being with a woman, but I don't know how he'll react. Of course, it's every guys fantasy to have a threesome, but because of his self-consciousness, I don't think he'd be interested. I won't lie, being with someone bigger is also a curiosity of mine. He has a phobia (?) of someone bigger changing the way my vagina feels to him, so even if he were interested in swinging, I don't think he'd want me to be with another man.

I love him very much, but I feel like there are a lot of things I want to experience and I'm not getting any younger (I'm 36). I don't want to break up over it, because I'm very happy with him, but I'd also like to see what his thoughts are about it. How can I bring it up in a subtle, non-threatening way that might make him more interested?

Question 2:

My spouse and I are considering divorce. We love each other so much, but 15 years of marriage has left it's scars. We both have other partners, and breaking up with them, or closing our relationship at all is not on the table. These relationships are long standing, and breaking up would hurt multiple people and breed resentment. Besides, the openness of our relationship is not the issue. Do you have any advice for maintaining secondary relationships while the primary is in trouble? How to maintain boundaries when your whole life is up in the air?

Hope that's not too long! I love your podcast, and I especially love listening to it at work, where everyone thinks I'm a sweet normal and slightly boring office manager.

Question 3:

We are always taught to think of ourselves as being sexy but we won't look at ourselves and imagine ourselves as being sexy individuals. One of the problems that I've seen recently is you look at profiles or even advertise it for things even the desire takeover is we talked a get-together of sexy people or people say we are looking for other sexy couples.

The man that couples look it up and see that she is a BBW or I am a short chunky guy we no longer fit that is sexy category and both know hurts her feelings hurt our feelings.

Why is it that BBW it's almost turned into a niche versus just a description of an individual? It's almost like you're not an individual you're a BBW so you don't fit into this category and I've seen this very very bad in the swingers world.

So my question would be for you all is have you seen this how open are you to BBWs in your opinion of BBWs and how suggestion would you make to BBWs to get themselves more confident comfortable and energetic about the lifestyle itself?

Lunabelle mentioned her post, "I Like Big Toys and I Cannot Lie".

Ginger mentioned the Unfuckwithable video.

Dylan mentioned Elle Chase's book, Curvy Girl Sex .

Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset's eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

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MA 050: 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy - Multiamory

MA 050: 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy - Multiamory

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives -- at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you're in an alternative relationship. The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and in this episode we share with you five tactics for turning your jealousy dragon into a cute little shoulder lizard. (That's a thing, right?) More great info on breaking negative or jealous thought patterns here: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-forward/201512/what-do-when-you-cant-stop-thinking-about-it Check out our sponsor, AdamAndEve.com, and use code MULTI at checkout to get 10 free gifts and support our show. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, tweet to us @multiamory, check out our facebook page, or visit our website multiamory.com We love to hear from our listeners and we reply individually to every message.

18 Touko 201638min

SS 251: Gang Bang The Mailbag 27 - Bi Invisibility, Swinging From Infidelity, & The OPP

SS 251: Gang Bang The Mailbag 27 - Bi Invisibility, Swinging From Infidelity, & The OPP

We're scaling back a little at The Swingset to allow ourselves to take some needed rest. This has caused Dylan to go off to The Dakotas to hunt mastodon. Meanwhile, Ginger and Cooper hold down the fort, debating whether or not two people can in fact gang bang a mailbag. Tonight we answer questions about bisexual exploration as men and women, bi invisibility, the one penis policy, what happens when you can't stand a partner's playmate, non-monogamy from infidelity, and how to find that great parallel poly couple. What do you think Dylan is off doing on his hiatus? Tweet at us with hashtag #SSHiatus to let us know, the winner will get an awesome toy from SheVibe!

11 Touko 20161h 10min

SS 250: Pegging Experience with Ruby Ryder

SS 250: Pegging Experience with Ruby Ryder

"Pegging Enthusiast" isn't just Cooper's motto... it's his mission statement. One of the most specific sex acts, named in a contest by Dan Savage's Savage Love Readers, pegging is when a woman wearing a strap-on fucks a man in the ass. We've talked about it off and on over the years, always couched in the broader topic of anal play, but tonight we're going to give it its due. There's only one person who can be called master on this subject. The progenitor of the Pegging Paradise podcast, Ruby Ryder is here to talk about it with us. We mentioned we preferred the following equipment while discussing pegging: Tantus Hoss Dildo Fuze Harmony Black Silicone Dildo SpareParts Deuce Male Harness SpareParts Joque Harness SpareParts Sasha Lingerie Harness - Midnight Black inJoyUs Strapless System Aslan Leather Minx Asian Leather Jaguar Ruby Ryder gave a Pegging 101 class for Not Safe with Nikki Glaser. Ruby also mentioned that Midori makes a mean scarf harness, here's a (NSFW) infographic on how to do it yourself! Ruby wrote an article for Tantus about the Truth about Strapless Strap-Ons. The Swinger Doc discussed a listener question taking viagra as a woman for orgasm assistance! You can send him your questions on twitter @TheSwingerDoc or call 573-55-SWING, that's 573-55-9464. Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastKat. Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again. Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more! You can Cooper's novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%! Tonight's episode featured the following music: Hush - Tentakel Slips & Slurs x Mihka! - WiFi Tears Draper - With You (feat. Alby Hobbs) Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Chris Pent Kat Stark

4 Touko 20161h 13min

SS 249: Having Gang Bangs (Real Ones, Not Mailbags)

SS 249: Having Gang Bangs (Real Ones, Not Mailbags)

We've talked of group sex and orgies often, the logistics of sex and play parties, of mfm threesomes, and somehow danced around the actual genesis for our mailbag titles. It so happens that we know Jennifer, a frequent gang bang center of attention, and co planning conspirator, so we discuss the many ins and outs of gang bangs tonight! Leave us a comment on this post or at contact@lifeontheswingset.com or leave us a voicemail at 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464). Find Cooper on Twitter @CooperSBeckett, Dylan on Twitter @DylanTheThomas, Mr. Pent on Twitter @mr_pent, and Kat on Twitter @WetCoastCat. Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again. Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more! You can Cooper's novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%! Tonight's episode featured the following music: PYLOT - The Place I Once Knew Melano - Traveller Slips & Slurs x Mihka! - WiFi Tears Cooper S Beckett Dylan Thomas Chris Pent

29 Huhti 20161h 7min

SS 248: Swingset's Got the D

SS 248: Swingset's Got the D

Today's episode features me, Dylan, speaking with Daisy, Dawn Ardent, Damien, and Duncan as we chat about our community and how we enjoy those of us in the community...thoroughly, being closeted, and loss.   I mentioned we on the Swingset needed a break and it looks like we've gotten it. Soon you'll do away with the tyranny of Dylan Thomas and you'll once again have the comfortable and familiar tyranny of Cooper S. Beckett to look forward to. We're recording an episode on Pegging with the...always outstanding Ruby Ryder, and an episode on Gang Bangs with a friend of ours, Jennifer. Google has opened its Play Music application to Podcasts!   If you've been reticent to use a podcast catcher but have a google account and of device that welcomes google apps you can find Life on the Swingset (and our other Swingset family podcasts) by searching for us.   Our full take over of Desire Resort and Spa is 2/3 full so...while we're just under six months away from our trip on November 5th through 12th, 2016 there aren't a lot of spots left. Check out Lifeontheswingset.com/desire for information. We've also had to rebrand the trip. While the drunken motto I came up with at Desire in 2015 sounded wonderful, it also had the unfortunate consequence of being trademarked. My bad. As a result I suggest an alternate Tagline. Life on the Swingset takes over Desire 2016: Make Desire Great Again.     The Swinger Doc is here to discuss a listener question about herpes! You can send him your questions on twitter @TheSwingerDoc or call 573-55-SWING, that's 573-55-9464.     We featured three tracks on today's podcast. Rezonate - Rebirth (feat. Ashley Apollodor) Project 46 - No One (feat. Matthew Steeper) Feint - Phosphor (feat. Miyoki)     Dylan Thomas

21 Huhti 20161h 38min

DP 003: Judaism, Technology, and Don't You Worry, Sey Hey  with Ya el - Don't Panic Podcast!

DP 003: Judaism, Technology, and Don't You Worry, Sey Hey with Ya el - Don't Panic Podcast!

Hi Swingset Fans!Dylan Theodore Thomas here, (yes we've decided my middle name is Theodore)Over the last six years, Life on the Swingset has grown into more than the sum of its parts. It's a podcast, it's a community, it's a podcasting network, it's a family,One of the best parts of being here and being with you all is introducing you to new members of the family.Shaina, known as @LoveNSausages on Twitter, is a monogamous, con brat, happily vanilla, sex positive explorer, and a frequent visitor on /r/TrollXChromosomes on Reddit! Magenta Prex, known as @geekymagenta on Twitter, is kinky, poly, passionate about public health sex educator and sex positive advocate, and is occasionally prone to swear words and laughter.Tune into their podcast each week to hear stories about love and sex from guests living their dreams in a diverse sampling of all the possibilities for consensual adult relationships. Join them while they geek out about displays of relationships in different media, including shows from diverse fandoms, board games, and video games, and as they tell you..."Don't Panic" There are so many ways to relate, don’t panic about it! Join swinger Magenta and inquisitive Shaina podcasting from bed on sex, love, and geekery. This week we interview Ya el. We discuss her journey into converting to Judaism and how it’s affected her love life. In addition, we learn her interesting past with Magenta, what it’s like to work in the tech field as a woman, and get into some heated discussion near the end. Bring your towel!

13 Huhti 20161h 8min

SS 247: Stress, Closets, and Intersections

SS 247: Stress, Closets, and Intersections

This isn't a regular episode. Dylan grabs the mic and takes over for a monologue on stress, thinking about being closeted, and intersectionality. In between all that Morgan tells us her origin story and tells how Swinging is her stress relief. You can read more about Mississippi's HB1523 on NPR, here. This really sums it up: "the Mississippi legislation protects only three beliefs or convictions: that marriage is between a man and a woman, that sex is "properly reserved to such a marriage," and that words like "male" and "female" are "objectively determined by anatomy and genetics at birth."   You can Choose Your Own Adventure with Ginger, Dylan, and Cooper during our first ever Resort Takeover! Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by leaving us a tip! You can leave us a tip for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to tip us just a little more! You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir "My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory" at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%! We featured three tracks on today's episode. Direct - Scars (feat. Devin Santi) Direct - Parallax Puppet - Vagrant   Dylan Thomas

6 Huhti 201638min

SS 246: The One With The Lesbian Swingers

SS 246: The One With The Lesbian Swingers

Often our discussion of swinging travels down the traditional "norms" of the subculture, a couple, a man and woman, having sex with other couples. But we all know that any subculture is full of iteration after iteration of variance. Tonight we're going to talk about one of the oft overlooked swinging groups, lesbians. And as we're definitely not qualified to speak on the subject, we've brought two amazing women, Tiff & Rachel, hosts of the Sapphic Swingers podcast to have this discussion with us. You can find the Sapphic Swingers on twitter @sapphicswingers and their podcast at http://sapphicswingers.blogspot.com/ Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt, buying condoms, leaving us a review on iTunes or Stitcher, or by supporting us on Patreon to throw us a buck or two for every episode we release, including some special rewards for those willing to toss us just a little more! You can Cooper’s novel about swinging, A Life Less Monogamous, at alifelessmonogamous.com or his memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory at mylifeontheswingset.com as an ebook, paperback, or audiobook and if you buy them from his sites, use promo code SWINGSET to save 10%! Tonight's episode featured Sadbot by PIXL, Warhead by Muzzy & Droptek, Waiting For You (feat. Joanna Jones) by Unlike Pluto

30 Maalis 20161h 9min

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