SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 - Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

Tonight the Swingset opens the mailbag... but does so carefully, as it's -20F outside. Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle answer your listener questions!

Question 1:

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We have amazing sex, but I can't seem to get satisfied sexually. We have sex/oral sex at least twice a day, but it seems like the more I orgasm, the more I crave it. He's slightly below average size, and I don't have any problems with his size because he knows what to do with it, but he's very self-conscious about his size. I'd love to bring up the topic of polyamory to him, but I'm afraid he'll feel like I want to do it just to be with someone bigger. In fact, I'm 100% positive that is what he would think. I've always felt that I might be bisexual. I'm fascinated with being with a woman, but I don't know how he'll react. Of course, it's every guys fantasy to have a threesome, but because of his self-consciousness, I don't think he'd be interested. I won't lie, being with someone bigger is also a curiosity of mine. He has a phobia (?) of someone bigger changing the way my vagina feels to him, so even if he were interested in swinging, I don't think he'd want me to be with another man.

I love him very much, but I feel like there are a lot of things I want to experience and I'm not getting any younger (I'm 36). I don't want to break up over it, because I'm very happy with him, but I'd also like to see what his thoughts are about it. How can I bring it up in a subtle, non-threatening way that might make him more interested?

Question 2:

My spouse and I are considering divorce. We love each other so much, but 15 years of marriage has left it's scars. We both have other partners, and breaking up with them, or closing our relationship at all is not on the table. These relationships are long standing, and breaking up would hurt multiple people and breed resentment. Besides, the openness of our relationship is not the issue. Do you have any advice for maintaining secondary relationships while the primary is in trouble? How to maintain boundaries when your whole life is up in the air?

Hope that's not too long! I love your podcast, and I especially love listening to it at work, where everyone thinks I'm a sweet normal and slightly boring office manager.

Question 3:

We are always taught to think of ourselves as being sexy but we won't look at ourselves and imagine ourselves as being sexy individuals. One of the problems that I've seen recently is you look at profiles or even advertise it for things even the desire takeover is we talked a get-together of sexy people or people say we are looking for other sexy couples.

The man that couples look it up and see that she is a BBW or I am a short chunky guy we no longer fit that is sexy category and both know hurts her feelings hurt our feelings.

Why is it that BBW it's almost turned into a niche versus just a description of an individual? It's almost like you're not an individual you're a BBW so you don't fit into this category and I've seen this very very bad in the swingers world.

So my question would be for you all is have you seen this how open are you to BBWs in your opinion of BBWs and how suggestion would you make to BBWs to get themselves more confident comfortable and energetic about the lifestyle itself?

Lunabelle mentioned her post, "I Like Big Toys and I Cannot Lie".

Ginger mentioned the Unfuckwithable video.

Dylan mentioned Elle Chase's book, Curvy Girl Sex .

Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset's eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com for more information!

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SS 136: Swingset on the Road - Talking Swinging, Polyamory, and Ethical Non-Monogamy IRL

SS 136: Swingset on the Road - Talking Swinging, Polyamory, and Ethical Non-Monogamy IRL

The past two episodes have been live recordings in front of an audience of folks anxious to listen to us talk about non-monogamy and swinging. Our “toury-ness” has brought us to San Francisco, Washington DC, Los Angeles, and Milwaukee. On the road we’ve learned about our audience, we’ve learned about ourselves. Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we talk about what it has taught us, why we continue to meet, and the importance and risks associated with gathering with fellow sex geeks and educators. We also spend some time reconnecting since, in the world of cons and presentations, time flies right by. Slots for our "The Swingset Takes Desire 2014" trip are open! Visit http://www.lifeontheswingset.com/the-swingset-takes-desire-2014/ to join us!

31 Loka 20131h 20min

SS 135: A Primer On Swinging, Recorded Live at the Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique!

SS 135: A Primer On Swinging, Recorded Live at the Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique!

A Primer on Swinging:How to Meet, Have Sexy Times, & Otherwise Enjoy Your Friends and Neighbors Cooper and Dylan, co-hosts of Life on the Swingset the podcast, take you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, from the moment that voice in your head tells you that you're different, to when you're setting up that gang-bang for your fiancee's birthday. They cover jealousy, safer sex practices, communication with your partner and playmates, and delve deeper into the whys of this thing called swing. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone. You can find more information on the Tool Shed and its events series at www.toolshedtoys.com/events Our Swinging for Dummies series includes episodes 59, 60, 62, 63, and 130. Check out Kasidie at www.lifeontheswingset.com/kasidie! Sign up with us and receive three months free!

14 Loka 20131h 13min

SS 134: Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, Recorded Live at CatalystCon West!

SS 134: Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, Recorded Live at CatalystCon West!

Our second trip to CatalystCon in 2013 yeilded our best audience yet, and our most cohesive discussion on what Progressive Swinging truly means. We discuss the importance of community, coming out if you can, safety, and fun, as well as learning about yourself and your partner(s). From the Catalyst Con program Sex with Benefits: Progressive SwingingCooper Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Shira B. Katz#cconswing No longer content to be the pervy cousin of “more enlightened” forms of non-monogamy, swingers all around the world are redefining what ethical non-monogamy means to them. As the cultural footprint of non-monogamy grows, swingers are opening themselves up beyond the former key parties and “wife swapping” and finding themselves with wonderful benefits: relationships. Swingers everywhere are asking for “friends first” and “no one night stands,” developing relationships that offer comfort, community, safety, and validation. This practice of allowing and embracing deeper emotional connections among playmates has become a phenomenon that has landed progressive swinging somewhere between the swinger sex club score and long-term polyamorous relationships. Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, & Shira from Life on the Swingset discuss taking back the term swinging, and growth toward the sexiest of futures.

7 Loka 20131h 10min

SS 133: Live Nude Cast - Naked In Bed With The Swingset at CatalystCon West

SS 133: Live Nude Cast - Naked In Bed With The Swingset at CatalystCon West

Chaos.  Just chaos.

2 Loka 20131h 1min

SS 132: Gang Bang the Mailbag 11 - Swing Clubs, BBWs, Unicorns, and Cockrings

SS 132: Gang Bang the Mailbag 11 - Swing Clubs, BBWs, Unicorns, and Cockrings

We've flipped it in and out, over and under, even hung it up and left it for a while, that mailbag gets a lot of gang bang action... as it should! We take more of your questions (send us more at contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and discuss questions about swing clubs; how to approach couples, whether virgins are verboten, and whether voyeurism and exhibition and girl/girl are encouraged, we discuss being both a single male and a single female in the lifestyle (with a little bit of a discussion about race, tokens, and fetishes), swinging as a big beautiful woman (BBW), and cock rings! Take a listen, and keep the questions coming! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

27 Syys 20131h 8min

SS 131: Gang Bang the Mailbag 10 - Cream Pies, Allergies, Declining Sex Life, and Blogging

SS 131: Gang Bang the Mailbag 10 - Cream Pies, Allergies, Declining Sex Life, and Blogging

Today we hit the mailbag hard... harder than usual.  We like our mailbag and we received a metric ton of your questions! We talked about cream pies and how to play safer, with a detour about ethical swinging, food allergies and play parties, declining sex lives due to illness, and blogging your experiences on the Internet. We also took time to catch up with our favorite Technogeisha, Miko, and get an update on her life! Ginger is taking a brief break, she's crossing the Yukon sipping on tequila on a dog sled and being a general bad-ass. She'll be back when she's done! Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

19 Syys 20131h 8min

SS 130: Back To School: Swinging For Dummies V - Online Swinger Profiles

SS 130: Back To School: Swinging For Dummies V - Online Swinger Profiles

You don't know any swingers in person. You don't know where any clubs are. You're eager, wide eyed, and ready to explore sexiness with others. Luckily the Swingset has been there and we found our way out! We discuss posting profiles online, we go through the basics of what to include in a profile, how pictures affect how other swingers perceive you and how you perceive them, protecting privacy, preferences, and rules, and what most turns us on AND off when we visit a new swinger profile. Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

11 Syys 20131h

SS 129: Accidentally Off-Topic! Swingset Updates!

SS 129: Accidentally Off-Topic! Swingset Updates!

We had every intention about talking about swinger bloopers this episode. It stayed in our heads while we went through business... then went through some more business... then we lost it and ended up talking about "the long game", some relationship updates, and just general non-monogamy and how living this lifestyle is out in the real world. So, please enjoy our accidentally off-topic update show! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out Smitten Kitten Massage Oil Candles!

4 Syys 20131h

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