Why You Love Who You Love with Eli Harwood EP 66

Most women believe they are struggling in relationships because they are choosing the wrong people. But what if the pattern began long before them?

What if the way you learned to seek love, hold love, or even lose yourself in love…was formed in the very first relationships you ever experienced?

Attachment has a way of shaping everything. Not just how you love, but how you trust, how you express your needs, how safe you feel being seen, and how you respond when connection feels uncertain.

In this conversation with Eli Harwood, we explore what it means to understand those patterns, not from a place of blame, but from a place of awareness and responsibility.

Because when you can see the pattern…you can begin to change it.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why attachment patterns formed in childhood continue to show up in adult relationships.

• The difference between seeking a partner and unconsciously seeking a parent.

• How self-abandonment becomes a strategy for staying connected.

• The grief of not receiving what you needed, and why it must be faced to move forward.

• Why one secure relationship can shift your sense of self and your capacity for connection.

• How the mother wound can influence sisterhood, trust, and connection with other women.

• The importance of emotional maturity in leadership, healing, and relationships.

What many women discover is that the ache they feel in relationships isn't about this moment. It lives deeper than that…in something that was never fully seen or safely held.

And while you cannot go back and change where you came from, you can begin to meet your life differently now. In the way you choose. In the way you love. In the way you stay with yourself.

This conversation is for the woman who is ready to stop repeating the same cycles…
and start creating relationships that feel safe, steady, and real.

If this episode resonates, share it with a woman who is learning to love without losing herself.
Because this is work we were never meant to do alone.

And if you feel called to go deeper into reclaiming your sense of self and emotional safety, my book Muse is available now. It is a guide for women returning to themselves.

Order your copy of Muse
https://amandahanson.com/muse/?utm_source=attachment&utm_medium=podcast&utm_content=eli&utm_campaign=podcast

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https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/