You Don't Have A Confidence Problem. You Have A Belonging Problem.

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Something in you keeps saying no. And you don't know why. This episode names it.

Eight to ten weeks after a loss, a redundancy, job loss, relationship, or life shift of any kind, something changes. Moving forward isn't working, even when you're doing everything right. You might have offers. You can't say yes. Something deeper is asking to be heard.

This episode is for high-achieving professional women who can't move forward, whether it was a redundancy, career transition, being pushed out of a role, or a shift that happened years before and still hasn't shifted inside.

In this episode Dr Amen Kaur covers:

• Why losing your job feels like losing yourself
• The science of identity and belonging
• The neuroscience of belonging: why the nervous system treats job loss as physical threat
• Baumeister and Leary's landmark research on belonging as a fundamental human need
• Why women in senior leadership experience greater loneliness and why that matters here
• The freeze response (Polyvagal Theory, Stephen Porges), what it is and why you're stuck in it
• Why borrowed belonging always has a ceiling and what that means for high achievers
• The difference between fitting in and belonging and why you've been doing the first
• Where the belonging you've been searching for actually lives
• Why nothing you've tried - therapy, coaching, mindset work, has been able to reach this

Keywords: redundancy recovery, job loss identity, women career transition, nervous system regulation, belonging and identity, loss of self after redundancy, high achieving women burnout, freeze response career, polyvagal theory women, identity collapse redundancy, female leadership loneliness, career identity crisis, nervous system and belonging, human intelligence framework, BEYOND podcast

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About Dr Amen Kaur

Starting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.

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Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.