138 Your Money Big Picture

I would guess that most AuDHDers struggle with money in one way or another. Saving or planning for the future can be particularly difficult to emotionally attach to in the same way we connect with wanting something in the present moment.

I use several tools to stay emotionally connected to my money big picture, and spoiler alert none of them is a budget:

tracking all income closely
a multi-tab finances overview spreadsheet that includes monthly income over time + a debt tab with all monthly payments
calculating Net Worth* monthly (using a spreadsheet I found online)

While a strict budget has never worked for me, staying attached to my overall money picture has been incredibly helpful.

The latter part of the episode shares two tools for anxiety around money:

@12:14 - Reversing the spin (works for any spinning sensation, and any type of anxiety)
@20:23 - "Throwing" the task to the horizon, then bringing it back in safe ways. Repeat until feeling more neutral

p.s. doing #2 above while recording actually helped me get started on my taxes, which I submitted six days early (possibly a personal record??)

*yes this is a terrible term

AuDHD Flourishing resources:

Transcript Doc (often a few weeks behind, but we do catch up!)
Mattia's Newsletter
Like Your Brain community space (Patreon/Discord)

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