Setting and Holding Boundaries | Why We Start Explaining Ourselves After Saying No with Jenny Field ep 129

Jenny explores why saying no is often only the start of setting healthy boundaries in this latest episode of the Self-Belief podcast. She gently unpacks why we begin over-explaining, softening our words, or managing other people’s feelings after a clear decision, and how this slowly weakens the boundary we were trying to hold. If you struggle with people pleasing, guilt, or boundary setting, this episode helps you notice what happens after no is spoken and why that is where real change begins.

• Boundary holding

• People pleasing

• Quiet guilt

• Clear decisions

• Letting feelings

In this episode I will cover the following questions:

• Why do I explain myself after saying no

• Why do I feel guilty for setting boundaries

• Why is it hard to hold a boundary

• How do I stop over-explaining myself

• Why do boundaries feel uncomfortable

• How can I say no without feeling bad

• Why do I try to manage other people’s feelings

• What is the difference between setting and holding a boundary

• Why do I soften my no

• How do I stop people pleasing in conversations

• Why do I feel responsible for other people’s reactions

• How do I keep a boundary without arguing

• Why do boundaries not work for me

• How do I stop fixing other people’s discomfort

• How can I put my needs first without guilt

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