Dreaming to sleep with multiple people but in a monogamous relationship? Here’s how you do both | E25

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Most people fantasise about being with someone other than their partner. That’s normal. The question is what you do with it.

In this episode, we get into one of the most common — and least talked-about — sexual fantasies: desiring variety in sexual partners.

We cover what ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) looks like in practice – with all its various flavours - and how monogamous couples can safely explore this territory without anyone doing anything with anybody else. This is one of the many things that become possible when you learn to share fantasies with each other.

We also end up in a surprisingly good conversation about "having a type" — where it comes from, why biology explains far less of it than you'd expect, and what you might be missing out on if you keep yourself constrained to a rigid checklist of qualities to tick off.

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TIME STAMPS

00:00 E25 Non-monogamy fantasy - having variety

01:25 Partners variety (ENM) is amongst the most common sexual fantasies

03:59 ENM structures: dating separately

04:32 ENM structures: dating together as a couple >> shared experience

05:08 ENM structures: polyamory

05:19 Fantasies as a tool to explore ENM for monogamous couples

07:15 How To Share Your Secret Fantasies - live workshop

08:32 Why variety is important

09:24 Is "having a type" blocking or expanding your relationship potential?

12:16 Why do we have "a type"?

15:31 Become aware of your own conditioning to access a wider dating pool

18:57 Awareness is key

25:20 Listen to your dreams

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Curious about better expressing and making your sexual fantasies happen? Don’t miss these episodes:

>> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

>> E24 Why Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive – Listen on Apple or Spotify