Gay Men Going Deeper13 Marras 2025

Nesting: Creating Platonic Spaces for Healing and Authentic Connection in the Gay Community

What we want you to gain from this episode is the importance of non-sexualized, safe, and brave spaces for gay men to heal and grow together. By the end of this episode, you will be able to identify what a nest is, how you could benefit from one, and where to find or create one if you are interested in nesting.

The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:

What is “nesting” and why is it important for gay men?
What moments in our lives require the need for nesting?
How do we know when we’re “nested” — or when we’re not?
What makes a nest truly safe?
How do you tend and protect a nest once it’s formed?
What could gay culture look like if nesting became normal?
What’s one small way you can begin nesting today?

Today's Guest: Nigel Pedlingham

Today's Host: Matt Landsiedel

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Chapters

(00:00:05) - Gaiman Going Deeper: The Need for Gay Sexual Spaces
(00:01:44) - The Nested Experience
(00:07:27) - The Neve of Gay Men
(00:10:48) - Are Gay Nests Sexual?
(00:17:38) - The Need for Self-Compassion
(00:23:32) - Exploring the Body in Gay Groups
(00:26:36) - Why are these spaces so important for gay and queer men?
(00:29:15) - How to help lone wolves
(00:31:51) - What Makes You Feel Like You're a Real Person?
(00:33:58) - What Makes Gay Men Feel Like They Deserve Their Love?
(00:39:06) - How to Connect with Others
(00:40:53) - Finding a nest
(00:44:34) - An offering to the sacred men
(00:46:52) - Let's Nest

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