Gay Men Going Deeper18 Joulu 2025

What’s Really Sexy (and Nobody Talks About It)

After unpacking our culture’s obsession with “perfect” bodies, this week we’re flipping the script. In this episode, we’re celebrating what’s actually hot: the things that don’t get enough love in the gay world. We’re talking dad bods, wrinkles, kindness, confidence, awkward charm, conversational skills, and all the real stuff that makes someone magnetic.

Some of the things we’re talking about:

How social media perpetuates social norms that don’t fit
The traits we find sexy that don’t get enough love
Stories of when we’ve fallen for people outside our type
The roles of dating apps in attraction and rejection
How our types have changed (and how they haven’t)

This is our love letter to all the guys out there who feel they aren’t sexy because they don’t fit the mold. It’s time to expand our definition of sexy and give some overdue appreciation where it’s due.

Today's Hosts:

Michael DiIorio - Take the 360° Self-Review for Gay Men
Matt Landsiedel
Reno Johnston

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Chapters

(00:00:00) - Gay Men Going Deep: What's Really Sexy?
(00:01:15) - How To Survive A Culture of Body Perfection
(00:03:42) - The Real Sexy, Unmarketed
(00:04:42) - Celebrating What's Real
(00:05:09) - What Is Something That You Think Is Sexy About Your Guy?
(00:06:02) - 5 Things That Make A Guy Sexy
(00:08:03) - What's The Sexiest Walk?
(00:08:55) - Michael's Signature Walk
(00:09:45) - Alexandra On Being Hot For Quirkies
(00:12:44) - People Compare Their Feet To Hands
(00:14:58) - What's The Non Physical Attraction Of Gay People?
(00:18:37) - Dad Bods and Big Nose
(00:21:23) - Oh, Lisps and Accents
(00:21:58) - Connection Circle
(00:22:58) - My Types Are Different
(00:27:06) - I Should've Swiped On Grindr Instead Of Dating
(00:31:10) - Are You My Type?
(00:34:44) - Matt Reno And Chris Hemsworth On Being Unorthodox
(00:37:34) - Michael Jackson On His Hotness
(00:39:37) - Thank You!!!

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