Stop confusing chemistry with compatibility

If you've ever mistaken butterflies for a green flag, this might save you years of your dating life.

We're constantly told “when you know, you know”, there should be fireworks and that if the chemistry is undeniable, this has got to be your person. But what if the very thing making your heart race is also the thing keeping you stuck?

This week, Emma goes full Bill Nye and breaks down the science behind attraction, dating chemistry, and long-term compatibility. From the chemical cocktail our brains like to concoct to why hot-and-cold behavior is literally addictive, she explains what's actually happening inside your brain when someone gives you butterflies — and why that feeling isn't always being honest with you.

Through personal dating stories, modern relationship psychology, attachment styles, and the uncomfortable truths we were never taught, Emma goes down the rabbit hole about why so many of us chase people who wreak havoc on our nervous systems, and walk away from the people who are actually good for us.

If you've ever found yourself obsessing over someone you barely know or wondering why healthy feels "boring," this episode will completely change the way you date.

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