I just turned 50 … These are the 10 Lessons I wish I Learnt Earlier

So many women get to their 40s and 50s and realise they only know themselves in relation to other people.

What the kids need. What the partner prefers. What the job demands. What the family expects.

But they haven’t stopped to ask themselves what they want in a very long time.

Who are you, outside of what you give to others?

As I approach turning 50, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I’ve learned, not just through my own life, but through coaching thousands of women who feel like they’ve slowly disappeared inside their roles.

This episode is a reset.

These are the 10 lessons that can help you reconnect with who you are now, what actually matters to you, and how to redesign your life so the next decade feels lighter, stronger and more intentional.

Key moments:

0:00 - #1: How to feel stronger, clearer and more in control of your body as you age

8:33 - #2: How to reconnect with who you actually are - beyond being a mum, partner or caregiver

13:01 - #3: Three questions you can ask yourself to find out you want more out of in life

17:06 - #4: Learning to choose yourself without guilt

24:50 - #5: Identifying the habit that’s keeping you stuck and how to finally face it

29:30 - #6: How to project your energy so that you don’t spiral into exhaustion and negative self talk

39:06 - #7: What’s actually stealing your happiness (and how to stop chasing the wrong things)

46:00 - #8: The mindset shift that puts YOU back in control of your happiness

49:47 - #9: How to let go of friendships that drain you without feeling like a bad person

51:56 - #10: Tips on making every day feel fuller and more exciting

If you want to join a space where women feel safe to be seen, ask the questions they don’t always say out loud and connect with others going through the same as you, then you are invited to join my free Facebook group, Women’s Wellbeing Collective here.

And changing your relationship with alcohol is something you want to explore further, you can find my book Beyond Booze on Audible, Spotify, Kindle and Amazon. Click the link here.