The Thermostat Theory: What Your Childhood Set Point Has to Do With Your Dating Patterns

TW: This episode contains brief mention of mental illness and abduction.

Ever done real personal growth work — and still ended up back in the same pattern? There's a reason for that, and it has nothing to do with effort or willpower.

In this episode, I'm sharing a personal breakthrough from the World Tapping Summit that stopped me cold: the idea that our identity isn't who we are — it's what we built to survive.

I get vulnerable in this one. I share the specific childhood experiences that wired my nervous system for fear, the identity patterns that grew out of them, and the moment I realized that one breakthrough — even a powerful one — isn't enough to rewrite years of deeply ingrained code. This one came from my own ongoing work, not just the work I do with clients.

We also get into EFT tapping, how your nervous system is running decades-old programming, and what it actually takes to rewire it — one degree at a time.

If your external life looks great on paper but your love life keeps defaulting to the same frustrating place, this episode is going to land.

Reflection question: What identity did you build to survive — and is it still running the show in your relationships?

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