Fear in a Spreadsheet: What's Really Running Your Love Life in 2026

If you're a high-achieving man who's been approaching dating like a well-run project — vetting candidates, optimizing your time investment, tracking outcomes — this episode holds up the mirror. Not to shame the behavior, but to name what's actually underneath it.

In this episode:

Why 53% of singles have quit swiping (and what the data says about where dating has gone)
The "vetting economy" — what it looks like, why it makes sense, and why it's quietly blocking real connection
What your hyper-analytical approach to dating is actually protecting you from (hint: it's not inefficiency)
The difference between discernment and assessment — and why only one of them creates chemistry
The neuroplasticity piece: how the evaluation loop becomes a groove, and how to start laying down new wiring

This is a direct follow-up to last week’s "The Hidden Cost of Being Really Good at Your Job." If you haven't listened to that one yet, start there.

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