Tattoos + Trauma

CONTENT WARNING: This is a tender episode that discusses sexual trauma and the steps we are taking to heal ourselves. Please skip this episode if it does not serve your body.

Welcome to SEX ED FOR YOU with Lauren & Holland: Where research meets reality! On our second episode we dive right into a discussion about our recent Hemlock Book Club where we discussed Elizabeth Lesser’s book, Cassandra Speaks: When Women Are the Storytellers, the Human Story Changes!

Holland and I ask questions about blame, power, and what would happen if women told the stories! If you would like to know more about our HEMLOCK MONTHLY MEMBERSHIP PROGRAM, click here: https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Holland defines blame as disgust in her body. Which leaves us wondering how YOU would define blame? At minute 7:25, Lauren asks about the fears we encounter as we step into our power. Does the fear of being liked keep you from stepping into your power?

At minute 10:45 we are privileged enough to hear Holland tell a delicate piece of her story. TW: SA

At minute 11:50 Holland shares a recent term she learned: DROP. Commonly used in BDSM and Kink communities, it refers to the time AFTER a scene or experience when the body’s system stops producing morphine-like drugs, and as the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in again. One may feel a deep exhaustion, a sharp drop in temperature, as well as incoherence and un-coordination. The symptoms of drop will generally set in within 24-72 hours after an intense experience in which endorphins and adrenaline received a spike and thus will result in a crash with symptoms reminiscent of depression. For more information please follow: https://www.instagram.com/mx.sizzle_/

Holland shares the symbolism behind her tattoo, (check out the photo at minute 19:50!!) and the why behind her healing rituals. We discuss the power of differentiation and how so many things can be medicine or poison! The act of creating can redeem.

Holland expounds on how writing poetry has been a healing modality in this season of healing and Lauren remembers how she learned to write haiku poetry in her Healing Rituals class in school!

Lauren recently completed a healing ritual to release herself from specific misogynistic wounds. She shares what she wore, what she wrote, the responsibility it forced her to take for her own narrative.

Holland shares a little about Stockholm syndrome and how she identifies with some of the symptoms she identifies with.

Moving from survivor to thriver can be such a powerful choice for anyone who has been harmed - but it can ONLY be done when we are ready.

Make sure to listen at minute 42:20 for the most BEAUTIFUL line from Holland’s poem!

Pain can be pleasurable and Holland is looking forward to it! This tattoo is bringing Holland from Powerless to POWERFUL.

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how we" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you.

Please note: Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

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