"There Might Be Zero Sex" — The Truth About Intimacy in Neurodiverse Relationships

If you're in a neurodiverse relationship — whether you're ADHD, autistic, or both — intimacy can be one of the most complicated things to navigate. In this episode, Mona Kay & I get real about love vs. sex, masking in the bedroom, asexuality, ethical non-monogamy, separate bedrooms, and the hidden pattern that quietly undermines intimacy for neurodiverse couples: fawning.

In this episode, we talk about why so many neurodiverse marriages end up with "zero sex," but also creative solutions that actually work for both partners — this conversation goes places most podcasts won't.

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YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast with Jodi Carlton Season 6 (Navigating Life & Love in Neurodiverse Relationships with co-host Mona Kay)

Episode 7 Chapters: 0:00 Teaser 0:35 Intro 1:21 Love vs. Sex Myths 1:56 Masking & Mismatched Scripts 3:15 Asexuality & Misalignment 5:50 Get Help Early 6:57 Find Neurodivergent-Fluent Support 8:10 Creative Relationship Solutions 11:54 Define Your Own Relationship Rules 12:33 Dating Non-Negotiables & Self-Work 14:59 Support Options & Trusted Guides 15:48 Outro

Find us at jodicarlton.com and www.neurodiverselove.com

Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love.

👩‍💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd

I'm Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships.

As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet.

My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships.

On this channel, you'll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind.

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