Ep#226: Why Do Good Girls Have Bad Sex? Breaking Free from Purity Culture with Aimee Latta

Today I'm speaking with with Amy Latta, a certified embodied intimacy and relationship coach. Amy shares her journey from growing up in Mormon purity culture, where sexuality was shrouded in shame, to fully embracing her pleasure and pansexual identity. She discusses how deeply ingrained religious beliefs suppressed her sexuality and explains her framework for reclaiming pleasure through permission, play, and power. Amy offers practical advice for listeners beginning their own journeys, emphasizing curiosity, self-compassion, and community as essential tools for breaking free from shame and stepping into sexual empowerment.

Introduction to Amy Latta (00:01:11)

Host Jen introduces guest Amy Latta, a certified intimacy coach, and asks why "good girls" have bad sex.

Purity Culture and Sexual Shame (00:01:45)

Amy explains how purity culture teaches women to prioritize their partner's pleasure and feel shame around their own sexuality.

Growing Up Mormon (00:03:19)

Amy shares her experience growing up in the Mormon church, its patriarchal structure, and its views on sex.

The Three Levels of Mormon Heaven (00:05:44)

Amy explains the Mormon belief in three heavens (celestial, terrestrial, telestial) and the concept of men having multiple wives.

Masturbation as an "Addiction" (00:10:20)

Amy discusses how masturbation is considered a sin in Mormonism and shares her experience in a church support group.

The Journey Out of Mormonism (00:16:08)

Amy describes her gradual exit from the church, including her decision to stop wearing the special Mormon undergarments (garments).

Bad Sex in a Mormon Marriage (00:20:43)

Amy talks about her painful and unsatisfying sex life during her marriage and the cultural expectation of painful sex.

Discovering Self-Pleasure (00:24:29)

After leaving her marriage, a conversation with a friend gave Amy permission to explore her own pleasure with a vibrator.

The "Hoe Phase" and Clitoral Stimulation (00:27:24)

The hosts discuss the importance of the "hoe phase" for repressed women and the necessity of clitoral stimulation for orgasm.

How to Give Yourself Permission (00:30:25)

Amy offers advice on how to start giving yourself permission to explore pleasure, starting with curiosity and self-compassion.

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