How to Stop Reacting Emotionally and Blaming Others | Grant Dziak

When someone sets you off, it feels like they did it to you. Mental performance coach Grant Dziak doesn't deny that painful things happen. He says the trigger was already inside you, and it's your responsibility to remove it. I asked Grant how to stop reacting emotionally in the moment and why blame feels so much easier than looking at yourself. I also share why I feel our nervous systems weren't built for thousands of opinions, when our ancestors heard news as a story. His answer for the middle of an argument is a three-step reset: drop your shoulders, take a belly breath, and name what you can see in the room for about 90 seconds. Key Insights: ✅ You Have a Trigger Inside of You ✅ Drop Your Shoulders, Breathe Into Your Belly ✅ Naming Objects in the Room Signals Safety ✅ Unexpressed Expectations Are Premeditated Resentments ✅ Trusting Others Starts With Trusting Yourself ✅ Gratitude for People You Believe Hurt You Chapters: 00:00 Is Your Personality Just a Repeated Reaction? 03:18 How to Tell if You're Reacting or Responding 07:30 Why Changing Your Diet Feels Like a Threat 10:06 Why Is Blaming Others Easier Than Looking Inward? 13:40 Why Your Brain Resists Change Even When It's Better 18:09 Pluck (Sponsor) 19:06 How a Partner Can Mirror Your Old Patterns 22:14 Taking Responsibility vs Blaming Yourself: What's the Difference? 26:50 Freedom Meats (Sponsor) 27:26 Did You Ignore the Red Flags Before Trust Broke? 32:07 Does Fear of Being Left Out Shape Your Beliefs? 34:24 Is Constant News Overloading Your Nervous System? 37:50 Should You Be Selfish Before You Are Selfless? 41:05 How to Stop Reacting Emotionally: A Three-Step Reset 46:57 How to Ride Out a Junk Food Craving 49:34 Why Sunlight and Human Connection Still Matter 👤 More From Grant Dziak Website: https://www.grantdziak.com Follow Grant on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/grant.dziak/ Follow Grant on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/grantdziak/ 👇 More From James Barry 👇 🎁 Try Pluck Superfood Seasonings Get 15% off your first order with code EA15 at http://www.eatpluck.com — real flavor, real nutrients, no junk. 🎁 Get your FREE Freedom Meats Guide I created this free guide to make it easy to eat how we’re meant to—nutrient-dense, energizing, and deeply satisfying. Get it, read it, and enjoy REAL FOOD the ancestral way! https://shop.eatpluck.com/pages/freedom-meats-guide Follow James on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chefjamesbarry Follow Pluck on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eatpluck This episode is for general information only and is not medical advice. Nothing here is intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any condition. Talk to your doctor before making changes to your care. #emotionaltriggers #stopblamingothers #nervoussystemregulation #everydayancestral #jamesbarry #grantdziak