Help – I’ve Messed up Playing “Hard to Get!”

Do men change? I get asked this all the time . . . and the truth is more nuanced than the internet makes it sound. When I met my wife, I wasn’t looking for commitment. A couple of years later, we were...

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Have you ever noticed the moment it happens?You meet someone, you’re fine… and then suddenly you really like them and you start editing yourself. You become agreeable. Overly available. “Easy.” And it...

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I hear this all the time: “Matthew, they’re wonderful but they won’t let me in. The conversations stay shallow. They deflect when things get real. And no matter how safe I try to make it, they just . ...

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We often talk about how the right partner will elevate your best and soothe your worst. But what if you secretly feel like your best isn’t good enough . . . or that your worst will be “too much“ for s...

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Dating can burn you out . . . especially when you’ve been rejected, ghosted, or stuck in that exhausting loop where nothing ever turns into something real. In Part 2 of my conversation with clinical p...

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When you’re ghosted, the silence feels intensely personal. In this new episode, I'm breaking down what’s really going on when someone ghosts: why it happens at different stages, and how to respond wit...

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Everyone wants to stand out on a first date… especially when it feels like the person across from you has endless options. But the real way to become unforgettable isn’t performing, impressing, or say...

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Work has a way of following us home—replaying that one frustrating meeting, stealing our attention from the people we love, and turning Sunday night into a countdown to stress. In this conversation wi...

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