EP377 - Boosting Confidence and Intimacy: Strategies for Improving Self-Image

Welcome to episode 315 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special solo episode where we discuss the issue of if your parent's sexual trauma be passed down to you, understanding how sexual trauma works, the role that epigenetics plays in this issue and the importance of having time to breath and regroup following trauma.  We also discuss ways you can make sexy new year's resolutions for 2023, how you can communicate with your partner about things you would like to improve or explore in your relationship and understanding what a real sexy win for yourself would be in 2023.      In this episode, you will hear:   A look back at the last six years of Sexology Podcast Plans for 2023 and future episodes Answering a question from a listener about sexual trauma  Understanding how sexual trauma can be passed on from parent to child The role that epigenetics plays in this issue  Looking at studies from other people affected by trauma and traumatic events The importance of having time to breath and regroup following trauma How the book “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” is a great resource on this subject matter Ways you can make sexy new year's resolutions for 2023 How you can communicate with your partner about things you would like to improve or explore in your relationship Ways you can be successful in following through on a resolution  Understanding what a real sexy win for yourself would be in 2023 Knowing when the right time is to see a Sex Therapist or Sex Coach Understanding the differences between a Sex Therapist and Sex Coach Forging the road ahead to your sexy new goals  Survey Please take a few minutes to complete this survey to help us curate content that is relevant to your needs. https://help373205.typeform.com/to/JaOWt8CM  Emjoy  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI   Emjoy is a wellbeing audio app empowering women on their journey to sexual happiness with content that has been designed with licensed sex therapists, sex coaches and experts from various fields, such as mindfulness. Sexology listeners can use the app for 14 days free by using the link above.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Tammi 202333min

Welcome to episode 314 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jason Julius to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss oral sex, the common mistakes men make when giving oral sex, analyzing tongue movements, and the best positions to take for oral sex.  Jason Julius is a sex coach with over 15 years of experience teaching couples all over the world how to have incredible experiences in the bedroom. Surprised with how little information there is in the mainstream world around sex, female orgasms, and sexual performance Jason sought out uncommon techniques and practices that would help the average man or woman elevate their intimate experiences.  Jason is known for creating a clean, respectful, mature, intelligent conversation around having great sex. Jason wanted to create a place for people to discover a deeper level of understanding, especially when it comes to the mental aspects of female orgasms.  Jason began posting intimate details of his experiences and has since amassed a loyal following on YouTube of others seeking a deeper understanding of what it takes to be an amazing lover. Frustrated by the negative beliefs that are perpetuated by the adult film industry, Jason separates what he teaches by creating content without nudity, done in a tasteful way that reaches people who are genuinely looking to please their partner and have more confidence in themselves when it comes to sex.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Jason became involved in this line of work The importance of being present with your partner during oral sex Should you use breath as teasing? The common mistakes men make when giving oral sex What gets in the way of men experiencing enthusiasm  Understanding the more you give the more you get back Analyzing tongue movements  How sexy language can amplify the experience further  Do men care about the shape of vulvas?  Looking at squirting  The best positions to take for oral sex What’s a reasonable amount of time for a man to give oral sex? Is face sitting enjoyable?  OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors  OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

27 Joulu 202246min

Welcome to episode 313 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Kathryn LaRoche to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the misconceptions around contraception, taking care of yourself if you think you’re pregnant and ways in which men can support their partners.  Dr. Kathryn J. LaRoche, PhD, MSc is an Assistant Professor of Public Health at Purdue University. She is a public health social scientist and applied anthropologist who carries out community-engaged, action- and intervention-oriented research about sexual and reproductive health with a focus on abortion and pregnancy.   She has published her work extensively in journals like Contraception and Women’s Health Issues, and she has led and contributed to projects in Canada, Australia, and the United States.   In 2022, she received the Carole Joffe and Stanley Henshaw Early Achievement in Social Science Research Award from the National Abortion Federation for her contribution to generating abortion-related knowledge.      In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the misconceptions around contraception  How there isn’t a one size fits all solution  The educational issues around contraception Ways you can take care of yourself if you think you’re pregnant  Navigating abortion in areas of the world where it’s not legal  Understanding there are professional organizations who can help you How to properly deal with an unplanned pregnancy  Making sure you communicate effectively with your partner Ways in which young men can support their partners  OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors   OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

20 Joulu 202249min

Welcome to episode 312 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Ashley Townes to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss virginity, the social construct and values around virginity, the importance of safety and prevention, and how you can create a better construct and narrative around virginity.  Dr. Ashley Townes (she/her/hers) is a sexuality educator and researcher. As a native of Cincinnati, Ohio, she attended the University of Cincinnati, where she earned both her Bachelor of Science and Master of Public Health degrees. She later earned a PhD in Health Behavior and Epidemiology from Indiana University-Bloomington.   Dr. Townes has over 15 years of experience providing sexuality education across a variety of academic and public health entities. Dr. Townes currently works in a postdoctoral research role in Atlanta, GA. Ashley’s research focuses on the sexual experiences of Black women, including partnered experiences, accessing health information, and utilizing sexual health services.   As a young investigator, she has been a part of at least 15 peer-reviewed publications, serves on the Editorial Board for the American Journal of Sexuality Education, contributes to the Live Alive Wellness Blog created by Pure Romance, and has been featured in a variety of media, including Mind Body Green, Woman’s Day, Cosmopolitan, and MTV News). Her career interests are aimed at providing quality sexuality information and working towards health equity.      In this episode, you will hear:   How is virginity defined? Looking at the issue of “repairing virginity”  Understanding the social construct and values around virginity  Analyzing the female hymen  Creating a better construct and narrative around virginity  Improving your sexual experiences as you encounter them for the first time How communication is key to unlocking better sexual experiences Safety first! Make sure your fully up to speed with condoms and prevention   OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors   OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

13 Joulu 202236min

Welcome to episode 311 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons to the podcast. In this episode, we look at racial trauma, how it impacts men and women differently, and how our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure.  Dr. Candice Hargons (she/her) is an award-winning associate professor in the counseling psychology program at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and healing racial trauma – all with a love ethic. She is the PI of the SAMHSA funded Neighborhood Healers Project, which seeks to advance mental health literacy and utilization among Black Lexingtonians.  She is also a co-I on projects funded by NIDA, HRSA, and NIMHD examining substance use outcomes, treatment, and sexual health disparities. Additionally, she leads the Big Sex Study, a mixed methods, community-based participatory action research project investigating Black sexual wellness.  She is the founding director of the Center for Healing Racial Trauma, and the host of the How to Love a Human Podcast. Her new sexual liberation podcast, F*ck the System, launches January 2023.        In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at racial trauma  The different impacts of racial trauma between men and women Understanding sexual liberation  How our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure  Analyzing the orgasm gap  How is pleasure defined? Practice makes perfect! How you can continue to improve your sex life over time Discovering your sexual identity  Looking at sex in deep and intimate relationships  Exploring and cultivating fantasies  Recommendations for parents improving their sex lives  OMGyes  Thank you to our sponsor OMGYES! OMGYES.com is a website devoted to sexual pleasure for people with vulvas and their partners. OMGYES conducts and publishes the first-ever nationally representative large-scale studies about specific pleasure strategies, in partnership with Indiana University and Kinsey Institute researchers. See for yourself and get a discount at – https://OMGyes.com/sexology  Clinicians, therapists and nurses get free personal access to OMGYES. Just email therapists@omgyes.com from your work email address with a link to your professional profile. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

6 Joulu 202231min

Welcome to episode 310 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Ali Mushtaq to the podcast. In this episode, look at the underlying reasons why Americans are having less sex, analyse the differences between genders on this issue and differentiating sexuality v eroticism.  Ali Mushtaq has his PhD from University of California: San Francisco in Sociology. Ali has over 10-years' experience in both qualitative and quantitative research methods and taught numerous college-level courses to hundreds of students.    As a former leather title holder, Ali has used his platform to speak on multiple social issues and address social inequality.  Through his written work, press engagements, modeling, and his courses, he continues to address diversity, inclusion, and equity in hopes of creating a better world.    Through his teachings, his main goal is to help professionals in media, market research, business, and others learn techniques to be inclusive as well as help others empower themselves.      In this episode, you will hear:   Are Americans having less sex? Is celibacy on the rise? Looking at the underlying reasons why Americans are having less sex How issues such as depression can affect sexual activity  Is this a global trend or just an American issue? Analyzing the differences between genders on this issue  Understanding the pros and cons of having less sex Differentiating sexuality v eroticism Looking at issues such as consent and the Me-Too movement  How we have more people identifying as non-binary than in previous years    Arya https://link.arya.fyi/play   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

29 Marras 202236min

Welcome to episode 309 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Yana Tallon-Hicks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can bring back passion in a relationship, overcoming low desire and recommendations for ways to explore new sexual interests. Yana Tallon-Hicks, MA is a couples & relationships therapist and a consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive & consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world.   Yana’s workshops for youth & workshops for adults work to create a welcoming & comfortable space to explore crucial aspects of our holistic, sexual selves such as pleasure, communication, consent & the body. Her workshops such as Consent & Cookies, Polyamory & Open Relationships, Hitting the Spot: Pleasure-Based Sex Education, and Pleasure-Based Consent have taken place at Duke University, Marlboro College, Oh My Sensuality Shop, Hampshire College, Smith College, Bennington College, Brandeis University, and Simmons University, along with a growing list of other colleges & universities across New England and the U.S.   Her popular workshop Consent Cookies: A confidence-building workshop for teens has been taught at various high schools & teen youth groups. Though much of her published sex advice is written for an adult audience, Yana also has years of experience working with teens. Her workshops for youth are tailored to be approachable & age-appropriate and focus on essential components of healthy sexuality and relationships for young people including consent, communication, safer sex & body-ownership.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Yana became interested in writing her book: Hot and Unbothered: How to think about, talk about, and have the sex you really want.  Recommendations for people wanting to explore their sexual interests  Looking at kink and the safest way to explore it  The importance of community when exploring kink  Ways you can overcome low desire Maintaining excitement in a long-term relationship Understanding how you and your partners needs will change over time  Overcoming sexual dissatisfaction in a relationship  How you can re-energize yourself to become interested in sex again  Having a great sex life if you’re both parents   Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

22 Marras 202239min

Welcome to episode 308 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Amir Marashi to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the best sexual positions for orgasms, how can we intensify orgasms, and how sex toys can improve orgasms.  Dr. Marashi is a board-certified OB/GYN, author, and founder of Cerē. Dr. Marashi has over twenty years of experience in the medical field, and was the first doctor in the U.S. to host an official cosmetic gynecology rotation for OB/GYN residency training.   In 2020, Dr. Marashi published A Woman’s Right to Pleasure, a distinctive collection of over 200 works and original texts from over 60 of the world’s most important and well-recognized female-identifying artists, writers and creative thinkers from around the globe.      In this episode, you will hear:   Why sex is important in a relationship  Do we experience orgasms differently when masturbating? The common barriers that get in the way of women having great orgasms Looking at the best sexual positions for orgasms  Why cowgirl and women on top is great for orgasms How can we intensify orgasms? What can you do outside the bedroom to improve your sex life How sex toys can improve orgasms Looking at the toys Dr. Marashi has worked on  20% Discount Code – Sexology20 https://getcere.com  Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

15 Marras 202245min