EP378 - Intimacy After Menopause: Myths, Adaptations, and Tips for Deeper Connections

Welcome to episode 158 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special anniversary episode celebrating three years of Sexology Podcast. In this episode we hear from Dr. Cat Meyer, Tara Galeano, Jessica Graham, Dr. Ari Tuckman, Wendy Maltz LCSW, Rachel Grant and Jonathan Miller on their best sex tips. Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed couples therapist #88224, sex therapist, yoga instructor, published researcher, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality and our bodies. She hosts an online women's sexuality + embodiment program called LOVE.body   Tara Galeano helps women reimagine their bodies after cancer and rekindle their sexuality. She is a certified sex therapist and teaches the class, Rediscovering My Body after Cancer, to amazing, courageous women who have had cancer.  Jessica Graham is a meditation teacher, sex, relationship, and spiritual guide for couples and individuals, speaker, and author of Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out.  Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST has given more than 350 presentations across America and in nine countries. His fourth book, ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship, was just published and is the first to examine how ADHD impacts a couple’s sexual and relationship satisfaction and how to improve both.  Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, with more than thirty-five years of experience treating sex and intimacy concerns.   Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.  Jonathan Miller helps high-performing couples upgrade their communication skills to have fight-free relationships. As a speaker, coach and trainer, Jonathan is dedicated to empowering others to communicate mindfully.    In This Episode You Will Hear:   Learning about mirror work  Embracing new things in your life  Looking at self-love  The importance getting more sleep can have on your sex life  Understanding the need for more intimacy   Looking at trust and surrendering   Paying attention to external factors that can affect our sex life      25 Ways to Increase Desire https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/ 101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find me on social media: https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

7 Tammi 202020min

Welcome to episode 157 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it’s my pleasure to welcome Xanet Pailet to the podcast. In this episode Xanet speaks to me about she overcame a sexless marriage, looking at the barriers of sexual shame and taking the power back over arousal.   Xanet Pailet is the best-selling author of Living an Orgasmic Life. Xanet is a recovered NYC health care lawyer who lived in a sexless marriage for over two decades.  After experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening in 2011, she transitioned her career into a full-time sex and intimacy educator and coach.       Xanet believes that pleasure is our birthright and she is passionate about helping women and men find their way back into their bodies, their desires, and their pleasure.  Xanet works with couples who are in sexless marriages and women who have experienced abuse and trauma. She helps them heal their wounds, release their shame, and reconnect with their sexuality.      Xanet is a certified Somatica Sex and Intimacy Coach, Sexological Body Worker, Holistic Pelvic Care Practitioner, Tantra Educator and Somatic Experiencing Trauma practitioner. She is on the faculty of 1440 Multiversity, Ecstatic Living Institute and the Somatica Institute.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Xanet pursued overcame a sexless marriage   The tremendous amount of shame that surrounds sex  The way in which couples lose intimacy when they stop having sex   How many people don’t see themselves as sexual beings   The negative messages women receive throughout life about sex   Overcoming the barriers of sexual shame   How women are programmed to say no to sex   Taking a look at the Madonna–whore dilemma   How women get sexualised in a negative way   Looking at the issue of verbal harassment   Dealing with the issue of slut shaming   Learning to take the power back over your own arousal         25 Ways to Increase Desire https://oasis2care.com/opt-in/ 101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Xanet here:   https://www.powerofpleasure.com     Find me on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

31 Joulu 201932min

Welcome to episode 156 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. JoAnna Nguyen to the podcast. In this episode Dr. Nguyen speaks to me about labia surgery, why people have the surgery, how common it is and looking at the process of the surgery.     Dr. JoAnna Nguyen is a board-certified plastic and reconstructive surgeon in Los Angeles, California, with expertise in all fields of plastic surgery, including aesthetic, reconstructive, pediatric, hand, and burn surgery.  She has a particular interest in aesthetic surgery of the eyes and face, breast surgery and labiaplasty. Dr. Nguyen is also passionate about skincare and has extensive experience with non-surgical treatments such as lasers, peels, and topical treatments.      Dr. Nguyen was born and raised in beautiful Southern California. Spoiled by the perennial sunny weather in Huntington Beach, her curiosity for the seasons led her to the the East Coast, where she attended Boston University. There she graduated Summa Cum Laude with dual degrees in Psychology and Biology with a Specialization in Neuroscience. After volunteering with a non-profit organization that provides plastic surgery to children in need, Dr. Nguyen’s interest in plastic surgery was ignited.      Having experienced her fair share of Boston weather, Dr. Nguyen was drawn to the sunshine of Miami where she received her Doctorate in Medicine (M.D) from the Univeristy of Miami Miller School of Medicine. She returned home to Southern California to complete a one year clinical research fellowship in reconstructive plastic surgery at the University of Southern California. During that year, she was the driving force behind 23 research projects, presented at numerous national meetings, and published over 11 manuscripts.      She then went on to complete six years of formal plastic and reconstructive surgical training at the prestigious plastic and reconstructive surgery program at USC. During her training, Dr. Nguyen operated at premier hospitals on the west coast, including Cedars-Sinai Medical Center and USC Keck Medical Center. Dr. Nguyen lives with her husband and daughter in Los Angeles and in her free time, she enjoys exercising, cooking, listening to music, and traveling.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Is there a medical guideline to how labia should look?  How labia surgery is much more common now than in the past   How can women realize the difference between a medical and aesthetic issue?   Is this a common surgery in Los Angeles?  Looking at the process of the surgery   The risk involved with the surgery   Looking at sexual health issues, are there side effects?  The age range of people participating in this surgery   Can you have this surgery after having a child?         101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Nguyen here:   https://www.joannanguyenmd.com/  https://www.instagram.com/drjoannanguyen/    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

24 Joulu 201924min

Welcome to episode 155 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Fiona O'Farrell to the podcast. In this episode Fiona speaks with me about paper dolls, how they can be used as a vehicle for self-pleasure and understanding you can still be sexual when not reproductive.     Fiona O'Farrell is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Sex Educator and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. In her practice, she works with clients on issues relating to sexual identity, dismantling sex negative messages, and enhancing pleasure and intimacy.     She is the coordinator of the Sexuality Therapy and Sex Education Certificate Programs at Antioch University in Seattle and teaches classes in human sexuality, sex therapy, and relationship therapy. Fiona is dedicated to expanding sex ed resources to be inclusive of body diversity and challenge binary thinking.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How paper dolls allows for diversity   Having many options available as an add-on  Using paper dolls for sexual arousal  Accessing good materials to process self-image  Understanding you can still be sexual when not reproductive   The reactions Fiona sees from participants?  How you can use paper dolls as a vehicle for self-pleasure      101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Fiona here:   www.adaptivecounselingseattle.com  fiona@adaptivecounselingseattle.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

17 Joulu 201939min

Welcome to episode 154 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Amy C. Moors, Ph.D to the podcast. In this episode, Amy speaks with me about consensual non-monogamy, looking at the quality of attachment, and recommendations for how to deal with minority stress.     Amy C. Moors, Ph.D., is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Chapman University and a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University. She also serves as the co-chair of the American Psychological Association’s Division 44 Consensual Non-Monogamy Task Force. Prior to joining Chapman, she was the Director of the Social Science Research and Evaluation Program in the College of Engineering at Purdue University. She is an interdisciplinary researcher with backgrounds in psychology and women’s studies (Ph.D., University of Michigan), higher education (postdoctoral fellow, National Center for Institutional Diversity) and social science evaluation (researcher, University of Michigan's ADVANCE Program).     Dr. Moors’s research interests lie at the intersection of gender, sexuality, interpersonal relationships, and inclusion. In one area of research she focuses on diverse expressions of sexuality, including same-sex/gender relationships and consensually non-monogamous relationships. In another line of research, she focuses on ways to promote inclusion in higher education. She has published more than 40 articles and has received several grants to fund her work. Recently, Dr. Moors was recognized as a “Rising Star” by the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Dr. Amy became interested in this line of research   What is consensual non-monogamy?   What the research says about the benefits of consensual non-monogamy  The pressures we face to be the best at everything in life from lover to parent   Expanding your tribe whilst being more sexually fulfilled   Looking at the quality of attachment   How the going assumption has been that monogamy is superior  Dealing with the stigma surrounding this issue   Recommendations to deal with minority stress       101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Amy here:   https://www.div44cnm.org/  https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=-e6ulXEAAAAJ&hl=en    Find me on social media: https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

10 Joulu 201938min

Welcome to episode 153 of the Sexology Podcast! Today it is my pleasure to welcome Dr. Alison Ash to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about the art and science of seduction, differentiating between friendliness and flirting, and how anyone can develop seduction skills.    Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences.     Aly designs workshops and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     How Alison began working in sex education   Differentiating between friendliness and flirting   Mistakes people often make when flirting   Learning to seduce yourself   Looking at sleaze free seductions   The importance of safety + turn on   Understanding the founding principles of seduction  Balancing out escalation and de-escalation   Learning about the three-part invitation   How anyone can develop seduction skills   Recommendations if you want to go down this path        101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Alison here:   www.TurnON.love  www.TurnON.love/freegift     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

3 Joulu 201941min

Welcome to episode 152 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m delighted to welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez to the podcast. In this episode she speaks with me about casual sex, how to best use dating sites like Tinder and emotionally preparing yourself for casual sex.     Dr. Chavez is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with a private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, California where she provides individual and couples therapy, sex and relationship coaching, and workshops on sexual health and wellness.     Her work focuses on adult sex education, integrating sexuality and spirituality, and sexual discovery towards personal growth. She frequently appears on national news, radio, and media as a sexual health expert.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Limiting ideas that get in the way of women having casual sex  The importance of exploration and having fun  Learning to verbalize your wants and needs   How having casual sex can give you the opportunity to take different kinds of risks  How to best use dating sites like Tinder   Dealing with the issue of liking someone who only wants casual sex   Ways to initiate hook-up sex  Emotionally preparing yourself for casual sex  Making sure to manage your alcohol intake through this journey   Morning after etiquette to follow       101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Dr. Chavez here:   https://drshannonchavez.com     Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

26 Marras 201935min

Welcome to episode 151 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome Shane Birkel to the podcast. In this episode he speaks with me about relationship challenges that affect sexual function, how excitement lessens as bonds deepen and ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation.     Shane Birkel is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice near Boston. He works primarily with couples and is a certified Relational Life Therapist with Terry Real as his mentor.     Shane hosts a weekly podcast called the Couples Therapist Couch that is all about the practice of Couples Therapy. He is the creator of the Couples Therapist Inner Circle which is a membership site supporting therapists in their work with couples.    In This Episode You Will Hear:     Relational challenges that affect sexual function   How many people don’t realize the negative habits they have that will impact sex in a relationship   Looking at overdependence on our partners for how we feel about ourselves  The importance of showing up as yourself as your relationship evolves   Getting stuck doing the same things   Ways in which we can assess ourselves in this situation   Understanding that your partner cannot meet all of your needs  Learning to not put too much expectation on your relationship   How excitement lessens as bonds deepen   Looking at the issue of control       101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot  http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/  https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/     Find Shane here:   https://shanebirkel.com   https://couplestherapistcouch.com       Find me on social media:  https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care      Work with me:  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist/    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

19 Marras 201937min