SWE: Chasing vs. Waiting for Sex

Imagine: You've got that special someone who makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The trust is there, the connection is solid. But sometimes the fire just fizzles out when it comes to sex. I get it. When the routine starts feeling a bit too...routine, it's time to switch things up and rediscover what really gets your engine revving (and sometimes, it’s not your partner!). On today’s throwback we're diving deep into the world of sexual attraction - what it is, how it's different from romantic love, and most importantly, how to use that knowledge to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Because at the end of the day, switching it up never hurt anybody.  In this episode you’ll learn: Why sexual attraction can feel so distinctly different than long-term love What to do when you and your partner are both submissive When you should hang onto your friend with benefits – and when to let them go Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! Sex and Psychology SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) This episode is brought to you by: Promescent (Visit the link for 15% off) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

24 Touko 202435min

In today’s throwback show, I talk to the one and only Shaun T, host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but, as you’ll learn in the episode it took a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there. But hey, if he can do it, you can too. Trust me: if you’ve been looking for inspo to feel yourself in the bedroom, this convo is an absolute must.  In this episode you’ll learn:  How Shaun and his partner keep things interesting after 12 years and two kids Why you have to do the work to heal from trauma – and why it’s so rewarding Shaun’s genius sex and arousal hacks Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! What’s Your Arousal Type? SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) This episode is brought to you by: Bathmate (Use code EMILY10 or visit the link for 10% off) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

21 Touko 20241h 10min

Let’s face it: casual sex often gets a bad rap. It’s thought of as just another swipe, a fleeting moment, a reflection of society’s current hookup culture, or something disposable. But hold up! It doesn't have to be that way. When you bring a little intention and mindfulness into the mix, casual sex can be the spark that reignites your erotic energy. In my opinion, the secret sauce is all about knowing yourself and being crystal clear about what you want from your casual encounters. This episode, I’ll be teaching you how to dive into casual sex with purpose and channel your inner Samantha Jones. In this episode you’ll learn:  All the different types of casual sex out there How to know if casual sex is right for you (because it isn’t for everyone!)  When it’s best to turn down a potential partner Show Notes: Join me for a Sexual Wellness Weekend in Canyon Ranch! 7 Myths of Non Monogamy Friends With Benefits: A Guide SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) LOKI WAVE 2 The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

17 Touko 202437min

Today I had the pleasure of talking to the “Scientific Carrie Bradshaw”, a.k.a Amy Chan, the revolutionary mind behind Renew Breakup Bootcamp, to talk about all things relationship. We chat about how her heartbreak helped in creating Breakup Bootcamp, why being present during dates is hard but necessary, and why dating outside of your comfort zone might be the key to finding the one. If you’re sick of swiping left and tolerating toxicity, this one’s for you. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to measure your chemistry compass  Why it’s important to date that short person (even if they aren’t exactly your type!) How to spot the “green flags” in a relationship Show Notes: Attend Dating Bootcamp!  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

14 Touko 20241h 5min

Eager to transform your hottest sexual fantasy into reality? Then today’s throwback Ask Emily show is for you! I'll be taking calls about fantasies and offering concrete tips on how to actualize them. However, it's essential to recognize that this journey is a blend of creativity and strategy. You must embrace your sensual desires, visualize intensely passionate — and perhaps even forbidden — scenarios, and explore what genuinely excites you! Lucky for you, I’ve given you tips on how to do just that. Right this way for some sexy self-discovery… In this episode you’ll learn:  How to go about finding a “third” if your partner’s been hinting at cuckolding The 411 on play parties (and how to stay safe if you go to one!) What to do if you’ve been craving a sexual fantasy, but your imagination’s been letting you down Show Notes: The Yes, No, Maybe List Fetlife Feeld #Open SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

10 Touko 202437min

It’s my favorite month of the year: Masturbation May! On today’s throwback show, I’m honoring the month of self-love and giving you a brief history of the celebration, the health benefits of masturbation, and my favorite toys and lubes for bringing you pleasure this May and all year long. In this episode you’ll learn:  What to do if you feel yourself relying too much on your vibrator Why masturbation can help you have orgasms during sex with your partner Signs that you’re masturbating too much Show Notes: Mutual Masturbation Guide For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE  SEX WITH EMILY VESPER SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

7 Touko 202439min

Today, I continue my conversation with my friend, YouTube personality, public speaker, and author Matthew Hussey. We chat about his latest book, Love Life: How to Raise Your Standards, Find Your Person, and Live Happily No Matter What, Matthew’s texting skills, and why it’s best to follow your path and not your feelings. And if you were wondering about the texting cliffhanger from Part 1, it’s answered in today’s show. Enjoy! In this episode you’ll learn:  Why “avoiders” can be more of a red flag in relationships than liars When to make things work and when it's not worth it Why speaking your truth is sexy Show Notes: Find Your Person & Lead Your Love Life w/ Matthew Hussey Pt. 1 Matthew’s New Book: Love Life LELO Tor 3 (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

3 Touko 202451min

When it comes to sex, a lot of us find ourselves getting in our head about the way it “should” go down. “I should look a certain way.” “They should kiss me a certain way.” “We’ll both orgasm at the same time.” In other words, we expect things to be straight out of a movie… But here’s the real deal: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s throwback show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your senses. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, I’ve got sensory tools you can use to remove mental blocks and seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O.   In this episode you’ll learn: Why you’re dissociating during sex and how to stop Ways to talk dirty without swearing How to bring back an MIA orgasm Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide or use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout!) Come As You Are - Dr. Emily Nagoski SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

30 Huhti 202446min