The Ultimate Guide to Having Better Sex
This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships. Timestamps: 00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions 00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication 06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks 09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs 15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive 18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues 21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life 24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues 29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex 44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy 55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues This episode is sponsored by Aria - a nightstand-worthy lubricant that turns intimacy into a luxury experience. Get 20% off at http://arialuxelife.com/emily with code SWE20. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text https://sexwithemily.com/the-ultimate-gui…aving-better-sex/
19 Touko 1h 3min
How to Build a Relationship That Actually Lasts Forever
In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life. #love #relationship #divorce Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute 03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story 06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure 10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse 17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education 20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships 23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication 27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates 30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values 46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life 1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/the-science-of-l…-prevent-divorce/
13 Touko 1h 11min
Why Your Sex Life Isn't as Good As It Could Be
In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure. Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure. Timestamps: 00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure 00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity 10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping 14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration 20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug 23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice 32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release 43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing 46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential 01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text
9 Touko 1h 9min
Beyond the Body Count: Reframing Sexual History in Dating
This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility. #intimacy #love #relationships Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion 00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships 05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities 08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong 10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots 13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count 15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences 18:13 - Reframing the Conversation 22:44:04 - Ditching the Question 25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities 37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order go to https://viia.co/EMILY and use code EMILY! #viiapartner Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes:
6 Touko 41min
Why Great Sex Starts Outside the Bedroom
This episode of "Sex with Emily" dives deep into the psychology and practice of foreplay, redefining it as encompassing all forms of connection, not just physical acts preceding intercourse. We discuss the importance of arousal, highlighting physiological differences between men and women and emphasizing the brain's role as the largest sex organ. This episode features practical tips for enhancing intimacy using all five senses, incorporating various sensual aids, and exploring different forms of touch and communication. #foreplay #intimacy #sex Show Notes: 00:02:50 - Foreplay: Psychology & Importance 03:49 - Foreplay & Gender Differences 10:04:20 - Secrets to Great Sex 13:29 - Setting the Mood: Five Senses 16:22 - Enhancing Foreplay & Sensory Play 19:43 - Enhancing Intimacy & Communication 22:26 - Intimacy Beyond Penetration 25:27 - Improving Sex Life & Teasing 28:14 - Reciprocated Foreplay & Issues If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order go to https://viia.co/EMILY and use code EMILY! #viiapartner Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes: https://sexwithemily.com/why-great-sex-st…side-the-bedroom/
2 Touko 33min
Where’s the Line? Redefining Cheating in the Digital Age
In this episode of Sex With Emily, Dr. Emily takes a deep dive into the evolving landscape of infidelity in 2025. She unpacks how cheating today goes far beyond physical acts—covering emotional connections, digital interactions like DMs, social media behaviors, and even fantasies. Dr. Emily challenges listeners to rethink old assumptions and instead foster open conversations about boundaries, values, and intimacy, drawing insights from how polyamorous relationships navigate these topics. With real-life stories, listener questions, and expert advice from holistic psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, this episode explores the impact of porn, the gray areas of "micro-cheating," and how communication can prevent betrayal. Dr. Emily also shares strategies for healing after trust is broken, including key statistics, self-reflection practices, and tips to understand your attachment style. #relationship #dating #cheating Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Defining & Preventing Infidelity 00:03:15 - Defining Infidelity in Relationships 08:12 - Relationship Boundaries & Communication 13:41 - Marriage Insecurities & Betrayal 19:19 - Confessions of a Reformed Cheater 22:31 - Open Relationships & Cheating 25:00 - Regret, Empathy & Modern Love 35:38 - Overcoming Relationship Hurdles 38:28 - Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity 45:44 - Monogamy, Polyamory & Attachment Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text Full show notes here: https://sexwithemily.com/wheres-the-line-…-the-digital-age/
29 Huhti 49min
Unlocking Your Sensual Self | A Woman's Guide to Pleasure
In this episode of the podcast, host Emily Morse is joined by guest Pamela Madsen to explore the transformative power of "back-to-the-body" retreats for women and couples, focusing on reclaiming pleasure and improving communication. Pamela, a retreat leader with over a decade of experience, details a 7-day program emphasizing self-pleasure through clothed genital work, addressing issues such as vaginal pain and low libido. Positive outcomes from the retreats include increased self-esteem, improved communication, and better consent negotiation. The retreats also involve sexological bodywork, including genital mapping, fantasy exploration, and elements of BDSM and tantra. Men’s participation is discussed, highlighting the positive impact these retreats have on couples. The conversation also covers practical techniques like the "lotus lift" meditation and sensate focus exercises for embodied self-expression—even for those unable to attend in person. Emily and Pamela address common challenges such as body image issues, societal pressures, and communication barriers in long-term relationships. Pamela Madsen IG: @thepamelamadsen Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let’s get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let’s text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text 00:00:12 - Women's Retreats & Couples' Impact 03:19 - Sexological Bodywork: A Woman's Journey 06:43 - Female Anatomy & Desire 12:14 - Embodied Movement & Wellness 15:04 - Embodied Arousal & Lotus Lift 18:07 - Body Connection & Sensations 20:22 - Couples Rediscovering Sexuality 25:46 - Couple's Intimacy Coaching 32:17 - Pleasure, Aging, & Body Image 47:50 - Overcoming Anorgasmia 54:26 - Guest Contact & Retreats Full show notes here: Sexwithemily.com
25 Huhti 1h
The Truth About The Spark in Relationships
Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for. In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss: ● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading. ● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships. ● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy. ● The difference between intensity and intimacy. ● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection. I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality. Show Notes: 00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know 00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve 00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns 00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals 00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark? 00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy 00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement 00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive 00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety 00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals 00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection 00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark 00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe 00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation 00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection 00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait 00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let’s text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Try Dipsea Free for 30 Days! Right now, you can get a 30-day free trial PLUS 25% off your annual subscription at DipseaStories.com/SWE See the full show notes at www.sexwithemily.com
22 Huhti 1h 3min
