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This is the wrap up to my series on perception, which continues to be a prominent issue for me amongst the whole concept of personal development. As long as we perceive our reality to be factual reality, we are greatly limited and handicapped. I brought on an expert on perception, Lynda-Ross Vega. She and clinical psychologist Gary Jordan developed the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. Their book is Unlock the Power of Your Perception. After talking in depth with Lynda-Ross, then talking further in part two of the series with my brother, Jared Angaza, I’ve pulled out 5 aspects of perspective style I’m working to learn from. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube!  Self helpful with Kevin miller - on YouTube  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Heinä 202322min

We’ve been looking at the idea of an inherent perception style. Meaning, that you have a hard wired perception style. You will naturally experience life a certain way. The expert I brought in to discuss this is Lynda-Ross Vega. Lynda-Ross spent her life in the high end business world and partnered with clinical psychologist Gary Jordan to research and create the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. Their book, and my muse, is Unlock the Power of Your Perception. I discussed the concept with Lynda-Ross in the previous episode. Here I bring my brother, Jared Angaza, in to discuss this further. We accept the concept of an inherent perception style. Jared actually has twins and testifies to them having a different perception style, right out of the womb. However, we agree on the ability to understand our inherent perception style, not judge it as right or wrong, and wield it according to what will serve ourselves, others, and the situation best. Listen in to see if you agree and are game to understand and leverage your perception style. You can take a free perception style assessment at https://www.yourtalentadvantage.com/ You can now watch the full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller”  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Heinä 202355min

There you are in a situation with some other people. Something happens. People react and respond differently. Later in the retelling of what happened you hear someone telling a story that is incredibly off base. Someone else chimes in with, “That’s not what happened, this is!” And you find yourself wanting to tell what really happened and you're exasperated at everyone else’s misinterpretation of what went down. The issue at hand is…we think what we experience is what really happened. It’s fact. And guess what, that’s how everyone else feels as well. If you’re solving a crime, you need to get down to what really happened. In regular life however, you’ll never prove anything and it seldom matters. Things happen and we all have an inherent Perspective Style we filter the happening through. This is how we experience the world. And it’s not fact, it’s experience. My guest and expert on this subject is Lynda-Ross Vega. Lynda-Ross spent her life in the high end business world and partnered with clinical psychologist Gary Jordan to research and create the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. When their book, Unlock the Power of Your Perception, came across my desk, I knew I wanted to discuss it on the show. We all naturally believe our perception of the world and events is fact, when in truth, nobody can claim fact, and if you want healthy relationships, you’ll want to hear what Lynda-Ross and I cover in this show.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube, just search for Self helpful with Kevin miller  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Heinä 20231h 7min

Welcome to the Peak Wellness episode where we seek to strengthen our bodies, our foundations, and build our lives on top of them. In this episode, Understand & Mitigate Adrenal Fatigue. The Mayo Clinic defines adrenal fatigue as, “a lay term applied to a collection of nonspecific symptoms, such as body aches, fatigue, nervousness, sleep disturbances and digestive problems,” and goes on to say, “Your adrenal glands produce a variety of hormones that are essential to life.” The medical term "adrenal insufficiency" refers to inadequate production of one or more of these hormones as a result of an underlying disease or surgery.” Dr James and I unpack the concepts so you can discern if some of your issues extend beyond a mere lack of energy and into a true adrenal problem. And then of course, what to do about it. The key is...recovery. But sleep alone is not enough! The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Heinä 202353min

This is my wrap up on this series on anxiety, though running parallel with it was the topic of trauma. My muse and resident expert was Britt Frank, a survivor of much trauma and trial. Britt is a renowned therapist and author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. She turns our perspective on anxiety upside down, and gives us a fresh look at what trauma is and how to come to a reckoning with it. In episode three I brought on past guest, Britt’s friend and associate, and one of New York City’s most in demand relationship therapists, Vienna Pharaon, author of The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. From both of these experts I’ve come away with 9 points on anxiety, and 9 points on trauma, that I’m now holding and working to learn and engage with in my own life. I’ll share them with you now. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Heinä 202323min

We are looking at trauma not necessarily at the tragic level, but defined as, “a lasting, negative, and limiting emotional response that often results from living through a distressing event.” To this degree, nobody is immune. This is my series on anxiety. I had brought Britt Frank in as my expert and we talked through the message in her book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. This is part three in the series where I bring in a peer to discuss the topic, and I have with me Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists, she has over 700k followers on Instagram, and I did a series with her around the message in her book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna is who recommended Britt to me. In this discussion, actually near the latter part, I ask Vienna about giving gravity to the trauma’s in our life and she actually corrects me and says we want to acknowledge them, but not give to much weight to them and distort them. The mic drop happens when she says, ““When we acknowledge something, we fear it gives power to IT, when instead, it gives power to US.” Acknowledge, don’t distort. This was incredibly insightful.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Heinä 20231h 2min

I’m back with neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert Britt Frank to hear what drives her. Britt is my expert for this series on anxiety, as much of the focus of her new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward, is that anxiety is a good thing. It’s the body doing what it’s supposed to do. It’s us not understanding the dynamics of anxiety and the body’s natural responses that causes problems. Here more in the previous episode. This is part two with Britt where I walk with her through the key areas of life, and it’s in the mental category where she shares her focus to balance waking up in the morning and putting the gas pedal down, with also knowing when she needs to brake and downshift to manage her output, recovery, and mental state. The concept of shifting gears and the pause between has come up in multiple shows recently, so we expand on this more here.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Heinä 202353min

We are a culture caught in a plague of anxiety. But my guest states nothing is wrong with anxiety, it’s simply our bodies responding appropriately to a threat. Anxiety is not a mental health problem, it’s simply a physical cue that allows us to know when we are out of alignment with external safety and/or internal truth. Britt Frank is a licensed neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert who is trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and SE (Somatic Experiencing). She is a speaker and an award-winning adjunct instructor at the University of Kansas, where she’s taught classes on ethics, addiction, and clinical social work. Her new book is our muse for this series and it’s called, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward. I brought her to us to discuss her research on anxiety and body based feeling vs thought based therapy. You’re about to hear some paradigm shifting information that will change how you view your anxiety and get you paying attention to your bodies responses in order to better manage your mental state.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Heinä 20231h 21min