Zachary Stockill - Men Who Have Retroactive Jealousy, This Podcast Is for You
ManTalks Podcast25 Heinä 2016

Zachary Stockill - Men Who Have Retroactive Jealousy, This Podcast Is for You

Zachary Stockill is an award-winning Canadian researcher, writer, podcaster, and educator. Zachary is the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy and discusses with Roger a lot of the shame men experience when trying to find resources or help to overcome their irrational jealousy. Zachary knows the subject all too well because he too was once a man who obsessed over his then-girlfriend's past. Discover more about the unhealthy and obsessive habits jealous men often fall into.

Key Takeaways:

[2:20] What was one of Zachary's defining moments?

[5:05] What does Zachary do?

[4:50] Zachary unpacks what 'retroactive jealousy' means.

[7:00] Out of nowhere, Zachary came up with ridiculous scenarios about his then-girlfriend and became jealous.

[8:00] Despite realizing his jealousy, Zachary couldn't find the right resources that would address this issue for him.

[8:20] Both men and woman experience this equally.

[9:35] Men tend to have extreme double standards towards women who have done the same sort of sexual activities men have done in the past.

[10:05] A lot of men try to figure out a woman's past to see if it's in line with their ideal values.

[10:45] Male insecurity goes back a long way.

[11:40] Stop talking with your partner about their past - for now. You stop the cycle by doing this.

[13:00] What do you value in your relationship and what do you value in your partner?

[14:50] Sometimes people lie about their past just to sooth their partner.

[15:30] Own your problem. This is not your partner's problem.

[17:40] Some men might believe that if they hooked up with an angel of a woman, then their relationship would be so much better. Of course, this is just not true.

[19:10] There's a lot of shame around jealousy. Zachary still feels ashamed by the way he used to act.

[19:15] What can men do to open up this conversation?

[19:25] A lot of men don't have real friends.

[20:10] The problem doesn't resolve on its own. You have to step in and do the work.

[21:00] Keep focusing on personal development. Focus on your insecurities.

[21:30] Meditation is huge!

[22:25] The reality is we're never going to be perfect. The learning never stops.

[23:05] How does Roger stay off depression?

[24:20] Make an effort to be friends with older men. Seek out worldly people.

[27:55] What gets Zachary out of bed every day?

[29:25] When Zachary first wrote the book, he wrote it under a pen name.

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.mantalks.com/

info@ManTalks.ca

www.zfstockill.com/

www.retroactivejealousy.com/

www.travelsinmusic.com/

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.comwww.lateniteautomatic.com)

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