S2 Ep. 11: I Don't Like How My Vulva Looks, My Friends Can't Forgive His Affair, and How to Use a Butt Plug
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I’m embarrassed about the way my vulva looks. My inner labia lips protrude and look ugly. I’ve watched porn and, for most women, the inner lips sit inside the outer lips. It makes me very nervous about sex with someone new. Is this normal?2) A year ago, my partner had an affair. We have a close group of friends, so everyone knows about it. But we’ve worked things out, I’ve forgiven him and we are back on track. The problem is our friends haven’t done the same. I feel judged by them and am constantly having to defend my decision to take him back. How do I get them to move on, like I have?3) Tracey, you often talk about using a butt plug during sex. We’ve never used one before. Can you explain, for beginners, how to use one and what type to buy? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
22 Maalis 202220min
S2 Ep. 10: Working from Home Porn Addiction, Crushes on Other Men, and What to Do When You’re Married but Haven’t Had Sex in Years
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I’m no prude and have nothing against people watching porn but I am alarmed by the amount of time my boyfriend now spends watching it on his phone. We both work from home and it’s ramped up since then. He thinks it’s funny when I catch him and doesn’t try to hide it. But it’s starting to bug me, looking over and seeing women doing degrading things to men for hours each day. Am I over-reacting? 2) I’m happily married but have a crush on one of the dads I see on the school run. We have a chat and a laugh and now and then go for a coffee. Nothing is going to happen — I’ve had crushes before and they just fade out over time — but I’m curious if this happens to other married women. How do other people handle it? Is it something I should tell my partner and have a laugh about? Or should it stay a secret? What does it say about my marriage?3) I married my wife three years ago after being together for five years. She’s never been that interested in sex but now we don’t have sex at all. It stopped when we got married. We’re in our late 30s and our kids are now at school. I love her but I’m not prepared to never have sex again. She refuses to talk about it. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
15 Maalis 202223min
S2 Ep. 9: Intercourse Orgasms, Should You Confess an Affair You Got Away With, and How to Talk Yourself into Wanting Sex
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I can’t climax during intercourse and it frustrates me. I know I’m not the only one and I know why I’m not able to orgasm but surely there are things I can try other than him using his fingers or holding a vibrator there? 2) My 8-year relationship went through a bad patch and I had a brief fling with a woman at work. It’s all over, no one ever found out, and my relationship is back on track. It happened six months ago but I still feel jumpy and nervous about it. Should I come clean or keep quiet?3) I’m 29, a straight woman, and I’d describe my libido as low to average. It's not that I don’t enjoy having sex with my partner, it’s just not my favorite thing to do. I do feel close to him afterward though and I know it makes him happy. So my question is this: how can I talk myself into wanting sex when I don’t really feel like it? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
8 Maalis 202221min
S2 Ep. 8: How Can I Speed Up Sex, Should I Be Wary of Girly Talk, and Does it Take Longer to Orgasm as You Get Older?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) Please can you suggest a way to speed up sex with my husband? He can last up to an hour at a time. It’s boring and I get sore. He thinks it’s something to be proud of but all I can think of is how to make it end. 2) Should it take longer to have an orgasm as you get older (men and women)?3) I’m a recently divorced man (42) and have been seeing a woman for two months. All is going well but she came over one night after seeing her friends – lots of drinking involved – and confessed she’d told them all about the sex we’ve been having. I think most of it was complimentary but she also told them about an incident that didn’t go well (she found it funny and I didn’t). Am I wrong to be annoyed about this? It’s made me think twice about her. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 Maalis 202221min
S2 Ep. 7: When to Go and When to Stay, My Orgasms are Too Intense, and How to Talk to Men about Erection Problems
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) I am in a relationship that I’d describe as ‘just OK’. Sometimes it feels perfectly fine and that I should stay. Other times, when we argue, it feels very much like I should end it. I have been ricocheting between a go/leave decision for about a year now. Any clues to help me decide? 2) My partner is 46 and has started to avoid sex. I suspect because he is having erection problems. The last few times we did attempt sex, he couldn’t get hard. We have never been good at talking about sex so I have no idea of how to address the issue with him. Can you help?3) My husband and I have been together for 12 years and have a very active sex life. I have multiple orgasms every time we have sex though never through intercourse (I’m not one of those lucky few). Sometimes my orgasm is so intense I make my husband stop immediately. We jokingly call this the "orgasm of death". I love sex and hate that I can't finish one of these very intense orgasms. A- is this normal? and B -any tips for keep the fun going through the intensity? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
22 Helmi 202216min
S2 Ep. 6: Lubes, Swallowing, and What to Do if Your Unborn Child Might Not Be Your Husband's
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) This is something I’m sure you get asked all the time but do I really need to swallow? I don’t mind giving my partner oral sex but really hate the swallowing part. He says it’s like having a hot dog without the tomato sauce. Is this true or is he making a fuss over nothing? 2) You’re always talking about how much better sex is when you use lube. But which lube should I be using? And what about things like Vaseline and baby oil? Don’t they do just as good a job?3) I've just got married and am four months pregnant. I love my husband dearly but, the week before the wedding, I met up with a man I still have feelings for. I wanted to be sure I was marrying the right person (I decided I am) but I’m ashamed to say we ended up having sex. This should be one of the happiest moments of my life but it’s not because I have no idea who is the father: it could be my ex or my husband. What should I do? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
15 Helmi 202226min
S2 Ep. 5: Nocturnal Erections, How to Jazz Up the Same Old Sex Positions, and is a Forced Proposal Something You Should Refuse?
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) We’re stuck in a rut when it comes to sex positions and only do it doggy style or from behind. Any suggestions for how to shake things up a bit without going into Kama Sutra like contortions? 2) I noticed that whenever I wake up during the night, my partner has an erection. I asked him one morning if he’d had a sex dream and he looked embarrassed and said yes. I didn’t ask him what it was about but guessed by his reaction that it wasn’t about me. I know we can’t control our dreams, but it’s left me feeling angry and jealous. If I see he’s hard in the night — which he often is — it makes me paranoid. I know I’m building this up to be more than it is but how do I stop?3) My boyfriend of four years has finally asked me to marry him but the proposal has arrived after years of arguing about it. He thinks marriage is an outdated tradition and weddings are a waste of money. I am traditional and want a big wedding and a big dress. We’re already arguing about the logistics. Am I making a big mistake? I feel like I’ve forced him into it. And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
8 Helmi 202227min
S2 Ep. 4: First-Time Sex with Someone You Really Like, Inviting Your Vibrator into Bed with Your Partner, and What to Do if Your Husband Leaves You
In this episode, Tracey answers these three anonymous questions:1) My husband has just left me and I honestly don’t know where to go from here. We were married for 19 years but the last seven or so have been hell, after I discovered him cheating, time and time again. He’s now found someone he says he’s in love with and has left me for her. We have two children together but they’re both not living at home anymore. Do you have any advice on what I should do next?2) How do I incorporate using a vibrator regularly into sex with my partner? It works quickly, every time, so would be perfect to speed up love-making sessions. When he uses his fingers or gives me oral stimulation, it takes much longer and sometimes doesn’t lead to orgasm. The trouble is, I feel anxious bringing it up as I don’t want him to feel inadequate or awkward about me preferring the vibrator to his skills. I would enjoy him using it on me but am too scared to ask!3) I’m about to have sex with someone that I really like for the first time. I’m excited but also nervous. Any tips on how to make it go well? And offers her sex tip of the week!To have Tracey answer YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUTracey writes a column summarizing the main points of each episode on Medium. Read it at https://bit.ly/3MhkxN4Want a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
1 Helmi 202222min
