Coping Mechanisms, Recovery and Codependency :: Taylor Bashta [Ep 275]

As we enter the holiday season, it’s easy to get swept up in the tasks and external pressures that crowd our days… coordinating family events, planning the food, buying and wrapping gifts. With so much to do, it can be easy to adopt a Grinch-like personality or to just be a bit snappy with people who enter our lives.  My guest Rachael R Wade is here to help our hearts grow three times larger by practicing giving honor to those around us. It’s a simple act of kindness that can be very powerful. “No one gets tired of hearing encouragement or being honored. And it's just calling out what God has put in others. Just taking the time to notice them and saying something kind. That little piece of encouragement could be the difference for if they decide to continue on in a dream or how they parent their kids. There's a lot of weight to our words.” Whether it’s showing honor to our kids and extended family or the clerk at the next store you enter, I invite you to pour out God’s love to a hurting world and use your words to heal. Rachael shares a lot of ideas for honoring others and how coming alongside and holding space for those around us is a catalyst for God’s kingdom here on earth.  Connect with Rachael R Wade:  Website: rachaelrwade.com   Facebook: facebook.com/RachaelRWade  Instagram: @rachwade  Links Mentioned:   Olive Us Community BOOK: Love Where You Live by Shauna Pilgreen  Don’t Mom Alone Patreon Group-- December Bonus Pep Talks Featured Sponsors:    Rothy’s --Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/DMA with extended returns and exchanges through the holidays.  Skylight Frames --Get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Frame when you go to Skylight Frame.com and enter the code DMA.

29 Marras 202153min

Jeannie Cunnion is back on the show with a powerful message that reminds us that we are NEVER ALONE. As believers we always have the Holy Spirit with us and Jeannie shares how to deepen your understanding of the Holy Spirit and come to know Him as an intimate friend and companion. Not only that, but the Holy Spirit gives us power for the daily grind and holy work of motherhood. She shares about how He is faithfully at work, making the gospel irresistible to our kids and the freedom that comes from not having to do the Holy Spirit’s job for our kids.  “I think that there's a freedom and a frustration that comes with the Holy Spirit. There's freedom because it's like I can not do the Holy Spirit's job. He is going to be the one who sparks their faith, sustains their faith, strengthens them, sanctifies them. That is all his job. But that can also be frustrating because we want to be able to produce that fruit in their life to spare them from the consequences and the pain of sin. I have to remind myself that God loves my kids infinitely more than I ever could imagine and that he longs for them to live in the fullness of his grace and mercy, even more than I do.”  If you are longing to experience the freedom that comes from resting in the Holy Spirit instead of your own strength, this is the episode for you! Jeannie shares more in-depth on this subject in her new Bible study available for pre-orders now, Never Alone - Bible Study Book: Parenting in the Power of the Holy Spirit. Connect with Jeannie Cunnion:  Website: jeanniecunnion.com    Facebook: facebook.com/JeannieCunnion  Instagram: @jeanniecunnion  Links Mentioned:   BOOK: Don’t Miss Out BOOK: Never Alone - Bible Study Book: Parenting in the Power of the Holy Spirit   BOOK: Forgotten God: Reversing Our Tragic Neglect of the Holy Spirit [Ep 190] Set Free From Shame :: Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 91] Anchoring Our Kids’ Lovability in Christ :: Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 55] How to {really} Parent with Grace :: Jeannie Cunnion PDF: Never Alone Manifesto Featured Sponsors: Uncommon Goods-- To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/dma.  HelloFresh-- Go to HelloFresh.com/dma14 and use the code dma14 for up to 14 free meals AND 3 free gifts.

22 Marras 202153min

Many women feel lost in their marriages. They don't know what to do with their disappointment, when to ask for help, or what it looks like to let go of the need to control. But God has given women incredible power in marriage and Dr. Juli Slattery is here to help us learn how to use it. Dr. Slattery joins me to discuss key points from her bestselling book Finding the Hero in Your Husband and about how what we believe about our husbands can make all the difference in the intimacy, connection and health of our marriages.   “There are going to be issues in every marriage that have to be addressed, but it's the relational equity that we build through how we treat our husbands that gives us the power to confront things when they really need to be addressed. And when your husband has come to rely so much on your intimacy and companionship, then the fact that you have a concern really gets his attention because he doesn't want to lose you.” We talk about being emotionally safe for our husbands, stopping the cycle of disappointment and nagging in our marriages, and taking another look at intimacy as a sexual journey to go on with our husbands. It’s. So. GOOD.  If you are in need of a boost of hope and excitement to help you re-engage in your marriage, this episode is for you! Connect with Dr. Juli Slattery:  Website: authenticintimacy.com   Facebook: facebook.com/AuthenticIntimacy  Instagram: @authenticintimacy   Podcast: Java with Juli  Links Mentioned:   BOOK: Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited  More Recent Episodes on Marriage: [Ep 299] Nurturing Your Marriage :: Brent and Janis Sharpe [Ep 234] Habits of a Healthy Marriage :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 335] Self-Differentiation and Why it Matters :: Nancy Houston  [Ep 206] Overcoming Barriers to Sexual Intimacy :: Nancy Houston Featured Sponsors:  Fazl --Socks, Hats & Mitts handmade in the Himalayas by Happy Women. Go to shopfazl.com and use the code DMA to get 15% off your purchase.  StoryWorth--Give someone you love the thoughtful, personal gift from the heart by preserving memories and stories for years to come. Go to StoryWorth.com/dma and save $10 off your first purchase.

15 Marras 202147min

Jenn Kautsch is an empty nester mom and a retired "grey area" drinker. She takes us into her story of feeling tired, stuck on auto-pilot, and ready for a change when it comes to her relationship with alcohol.  Through her own journey of seeking God about her casual drinking habit that was becoming a toxic mental battle, Jenn stopped asking if her drinking was “bad” for her and reframed it. “So I turned it around and I started asking myself the question, Jenn, is it good enough? Is your drinking good enough for you? Is your relationship with drinking, helping you become the best version of yourself? Is it taking you where you really want to go? Is it matching up to your outsides being like your insights or are you walking around with duplicity in a divided mind and a mental tug of war?” After choosing to embrace a sober lifestyle, Jenn started SoberSis,  a like-minded community of women who are renegotiating their relationship with alcohol without labels, shame, judgment or rules. We talk about how God brought her freedom from what felt like a divided life -- constantly feeling in conflict and stuck in an internal tug-of-war so she could live a more wholehearted life. And how she’s now been able to connect with close to 20,000 women from all over the world through her SoberSis community of women. Connect with Jenn:  Website:  sobersis.com  Facebook: facebook.com/sobermindedsister  Instagram:  @sobersis  Links Mentioned:   Get the Happy Hour Survival Guide from Jenn Join her 21 Day Reset Challenge Free Video Series - https://www.sobersis.com/new-videos If you had a parent who was an alcoholic check out this episode: Forgiving my Alcoholic Mother :: Sarah Mae [Ep 257] If you need help setting boundaries this holiday season: Setting Healthy Boundaries :: Dr. John Townsend [250]   Featured Sponsors:  BetterHelp -- Visit BetterHelp.com/DMA and join over 2M people who have taken charge of their mental health with the help of an experienced professional. Get 10% off your first month. Rothys-- To help you welcome fall season in style Rothy's is doing something special. Get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/DMA. Find your new favorites today.

8 Marras 202151min

As Kayla Craig sat in the hospital watching her daughter have a machine breath for her, she struggled to find the words to pray. In that difficult time in her family’s life, she learned about the power of liturgies which are scripted prayers from scripture. The more she turned to these powerful prayers prayed by Christians from all over the world, the less alone Kayla felt.  Years later, Kayla has created a book with modern liturgies for parents with more than 100 prayers to voice when words are hard to find. “The book of prayers that I have created are just simply prayers that you can borrow, prayers that can become your own. The prayers of another can comfort us and can lift our arms up and we can't lift our arms up. If you don't have the words to pray, take mine.” From everyday struggles like helping your child find friends or thrive in school to larger issues like praying for a brighter world rooted in peace and truth, these pleas and petitions act as a gentle guide, reminding us that while our words may fail, God never does. Stay tuned for about 20 minutes in when Kayla prays a powerful prayer over all of us weary parents! I think you are going to love learning more about liturgies and breath prayers from Kayla. I hope this is just one more tool in your prayer tool belt -- we certainly need all we can get!   Connect with Kayla:  Website: kaylacraig.com  Podcast: Upside Down Podcast Facebook: facebook.com/kaylacraigwriter  Instagram: @kayla_craig & @liturgiesforparents  Links Mentioned:   BOOK: To Light Their Way: A Collection of Prayers and Liturgies for Parents   Featured Sponsors:  Simply Be Box -- Get your winter box just in time for Christmas. Go to SimplyBeBox.com use code DMA10 for $10 off your first box.  StoryWorth -- Give those you love the most a thoughtful, personal gift from the heart and preserve their stories and memories for years to come. Go to storyworth.com/DMA and save $10 on your first purchase.

1 Marras 202142min

Motherhood can be a time of self-forgetfulness. We pour into our kids, partners, careers and can lose ourselves in the process. One way I’ve rediscovered who God made me to be is learning about my unique color palette and authentic style.  In this week’s episode I chat with House of Colour Consultant, Karen Blanc. She teaches us a bit about color theory based on the work of Johannes Itten. And how based on our natural coloring, each of us harmonize best with either warm or cool colors, then either bright or muted.  “I love to give people permission to embrace something that's very near and dear to them, God's gift to you: your color palette.” We also spend some time talking about the process of discovering your authentic style based on your body architecture and personality. With some combination of styles from the basic six: dramatic, classic, natural, gamine, ingenue or romantic.  My hope is this episode will inspire you that God made you with a light to shine where you are. Through learning more about color and style you can actually spend less energy on “what to wear” and more time being who God made you to be. “To be yourself in a world constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson).  Connect with Karen:  Website: House of Color — Oakland, Nebraska Facebook: knowyourWOWcolors Instagram: @houseofcolour_karenblanc Links Mentioned:   Johannes Itten — “The Art of Color” (don’t know why it’s so expensive!) House of Colour—find a consultant near you House of Colour—Dallas—Ginny Hudnut House of Colour—Erin Morgan Featured Sponsors:    Mathnasium— Whether you’re looking to get your kids back on track or want to ensure they’re staying ahead with their math studies,  find a center near you at mathnasium.com and contact them for a free in center or online consultation.

25 Loka 202149min

Feeding a baby is stressful enough. Choosing a formula and transitioning to formula doesn't need to be stressful too. Today's guest, Dr. Bridget Young, is a doctor of Perinatal and Pediatric Nutrition with a PhD from Cornell University in Nutritional Science.  She specializes in maternal and child nutrition. Currently she is an assistant professor of pediatrics at the University of Rochester Medical Center. You can read about her active research on infant formula here. In this episode Bridget (her preferred name), mom of two boys, gives advice to the new mom on how to transition from breastmilk to formula (or a new type of formula). She also explains the most important aspect that differentiates one formula from another. I ask her to explain soy formula from hypo-allergenic. And she gives great advice for how to approach your bottle feeds. Most importantly, I'm thankful to connect you with the wealth of information on her website and YouTube channel. If you're looking for even more guidance check out her course (DMA listeners get a special $10 off discount with the code: DMA10). Connect with Dr. Young: Instagram: @BabyFormulaExpert Website: Baby Formula Expert YouTube Channel Links Mentioned: Baby Formula Expert Baby Formula Course with Dr. Bridget Young use DMA10 to get $10off

22 Loka 202128min

Late nights, milk stained clothes and feeling like you’ll go crazy if your baby spits up that precious breastmilk…. I have been there. We’ve never done an episode specifically on breastfeeding, but I want to provide support to moms who may be in this very isolating time of life. My guests are Certified Lactation Counselor Demetria Martin and Pediatrician Dr. Brittany Odom and they talk us through some of the common hot topics surrounding breastfeeding from supply issues to nighttime feedings and everything else in between.  “Sometimes you don't have a good sense of community around breastfeeding. There are some pediatrician's offices that aren't super breastfeeding friendly. There might be some family members or friends who are not supportive of your breastfeeding journey. You may feel pretty alone when you're kind of starting this out. But give yourself, you know, a pat on the back for how far you have come. Even if it's been a day and a half, that's still a day and a half more than you've done before. So taking those small steps, knowing it is going to be a journey.” Ultimately, we agree that a fed baby is a happy baby, so I hope you understand my heart is not to idealize the breastfeeding journey. Just to provide resources and community so you don’t mom alone as you feed your infants!  (Later this week we will publish a bonus episode featuring another lactation consultant about how to choose the right formula for your family.) Connect with Demetria:  Website:  themilkbuds.com  Facebook: facebook.com/themilkbuds  Instagram: @themilkbuds  Connect with Dr. Brittany Odom: Instagram:  @drbrittodom Links Mentioned:   Milk Buds Lactation Services Featured Sponsors:  Fazl- Go to shopFazl.com and use the discount coated DMA to get 15% off your purchase. These socks, hats and mitts make great gifts for Christmas.  HelloFresh — Go to HelloFresh.com/dma14 and use code dma14 for up to 14 free meals, including free shipping.

18 Loka 202146min