Embracing Perfectionism with Katherine Morgan Schafler

This is the first of two episodes dedicated to a topic near and dear to Dr. Hanson's heart: therapy. Today we're exploring how to start therapy, including different therapy modalities and how to approach seeking out a therapist to work with. Of course, therapy can be profoundly helpful for acute issues – for instance, the tendencies a person might have related to our series on pathology. But what gets lost sometimes in our general social conversation around therapy is how useful it can be as a general tool for personal exploration and inquiry. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 04:08: What does therapy look like in real life? 09:34: Different kinds of licenses and what they do. 13:50: Reasons people might go to therapy. 24:38: The traits of good therapists. 35:51: What are the different kinds of therapy? 43:50: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Marras 201948min

On this short episode, Lori Gottlieb shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well being.  Lori Gottlieb is a New York Times bestselling author, nationally recognized journalist, and weekly “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Her new book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed has rapidly become one of my favorites. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Marras 20193min

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Lori Gottlieb joins the show to explore the therapeutic process, the gifts and challenges of being a therapist in therapy, and why you should consider talking to someone. Lori Gottlieb is a New York Times bestselling author, nationally recognized journalist, and weekly “Dear Therapist” columnist for The Atlantic. Her new book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed has rapidly become one of my favorites. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is a deeply personal, yet universal, tour of what it means to be human. It examines the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:25: The challenges of seeing our own difficulties. 03:04: Going back to being a "client." 05:56: Accessing our deeper, younger layers. 10:35: How we can exit a repetitive cycle. 12:42: Shame and self-punishment. 14:22: Relating to your present, past, and future. 17:23: Taking charge of your own learning and growth process. 18:20: How has being in therapy affected your own therapy practice? 20:07: Loneliness, isolation, and gender differences in therapy. 30:40: Overcoming shame around therapy. 33:04: When someone’s in therapy, what can they do to get the most out of it? 34:22: If you could back in time and say something to a younger version of yourself, what would it be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11 Marras 201939min

Gabrielle Bernstein shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well being.  Gabby is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of seven books including her newest: Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life beyond Your Wildest Dreams. She’s been named a “new thought leader” by Oprah on her show SuperSoul Sunday, and been featured on a wide variety of media outlets, including ELLE and The Today Show. Super Attractor is a journey of remembering where your true power lies. If you'd like to learn more about Super Attractor, follow this link. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Marras 20192min

Gabrielle Bernstein joins the show to discuss the fear that stops us from being who we truly are, anxiety and moral outrage, and how to become a Super Attractor. Gabby is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of seven books including The Universe Has Your Back, Spirit Junky, and her newest book Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life beyond Your Wildest Dreams. She’s been named a “new thought leader” by Oprah on her show SuperSoul Sunday, and been featured on a wide variety of media outlets, including ELLE and The Today Show. Super Attractor is a journey of remembering where your true power lies. If you'd like to learn more about Super Attractor, follow this link. Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:03: Relating to the pressure to perform. 05:52: Key blocks to becoming a Super Attractor. 07:38: The role of fear, and our addiction to it. 09:24: Are we afraid of feeling good? 14:28: What can someone do if they want to move into the mindset of wanting to be more happy, despite the current struggles they’ve encountered? 17:36: What does the line look like between “wise effort” and “manic manifester”? 20:32: Could you share a time recently where you dropped out of alignment, and how you got back into it? 32:40: Moral anger, appropriate outrage, and building a safe container. 42:53: Moving into a stance of appreciation even when things are hard. 44:32: If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself anything, what would it be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4 Marras 201950min

In the second part of our conversation with Dr. James Gordon, we focus on caregiver fatigue, helplessness, and unwinding from trauma at the collective level. Dr. Gordon is founder and executive director of the nonprofit Center for Mind-Body Medicine. For more than 25 years. His latest book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma, guides us step by step in a comprehensive evidence-based program to reverse the psychological and biological damage that trauma causes - bringing together the latest scientific research, 50 years of clinical experience, timeless wisdom, and inspiring stories. If you'd like to support the Center for Mind-Body Medicine, please follow this link to donate. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Subscribe on iTunes Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Timestamps: 02:00: Staying free inside your own mind. 07:17: Managing care-giver fatigue. 11:09: How do you deal with anger? 17:52: If you could go back in time and tell a younger version of yourself something, what would that be? 21:06: What’s the most important thing you do, each day, for your own well being? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

31 Loka 201925min

Most people will experience some form of trauma during their lives. Today we explore what we can do to recover from those experiences with a world-class expert on the subject: Dr. James Gordon. Dr. Gordon is a Harvard-educated psychiatrist, and internationally recognized expert on using self-awareness, self-care, and group support to heal population-wide psychological trauma. He is founder and executive director of the nonprofit Center for Mind-Body Medicine. His latest book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma, guides us step by step in a comprehensive evidence-based program to reverse the psychological and biological damage that trauma causes - bringing together the latest scientific research, 50 years of clinical experience, timeless wisdom, and inspiring stories. If you'd like to support the Center for Mind-Body Medicine, please follow this link to donate. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 03:04: The Transformation 09:21: The physiological impacts of trauma. 14:53: Recovering from traumatic events. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

28 Loka 201931min

In part two of Dr. Hanson and Forrest's conversation on Loneliness, they move on to the practical question of what we can do in our lives to overcome experiences of loneliness, and deepen our connection with other people. This is covered by Rick’s “three point plan” for loneliness, which includes: Taking action Cultivating compassion in ourselves Internalizing readily available social supplies Sponsor Offer: For over 35 years, Dr. Rick Hanson has taught thousands of people how to feel less stressed, have more fulfilling relationships, and find a deep sense of self-worth. He's now sharing the lessons of a lifetime in one step-by-step, down-to-earth online program: The Foundations of Well-Being. If you’d like to learn more about the Foundations Program, follow this link. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:53: The "three point plan." 02:54: Taking action. 08:03: Cultivating compassion. 17:02: Internalizing social supplies. 23:58: What are the roots of loneliness? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

21 Loka 201933min