Embracing Perfectionism with Katherine Morgan Schafler

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Vidyamala Burch shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Loka 20192min

Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest speak with Vidyamala Burch, co-founder of Breathworks, which offers mindfulness-based approaches to living well with chronic pain, illness or stress. The organization grew out of her own experience with chronic pain as a partial paraplegic, and adapts principles from Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction and Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy. Click here if you'd like to give to the Breathworks Foundation, the charitable wing of Breathworks. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:58: Vidyamala's story. 04:55: The story behind Breathworks' approach. 12:08: Basic techniques and practices Breathworks teaches. 15:51: Why doesn't mindfulness make pain worse? Why would I want to be mindful of my pain? 19:20: The power of fully coming into an experience of self. 26:58: General advice for managing chronic pain.  32:45: How to keep going through the bad days.  38:20: Recap Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Loka 201944min

On this short episode, Forrest shares his personal journey with loneliness as a young person - and the importance of developing a coherent developmental narrative.  We've spent many episodes on this podcast discussing the importance of childhood experiences. We may understand this in a general sense, but things can get a lot trickier when it comes time to put our own story together. Part of the process of becoming a mentally healthy person is creating a coherent narrative about how we became the way we are.  This allows us to put our current traits in their proper perspective, while also putting us back in touch with our deep nature. Sometimes it's possible to see a disconnect between the person we are now and the things that brought us joy as a young person. Reclaiming that deep nature can be a major source of increased well-being as an adult. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11 Loka 20199min

Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore how we can be surrounded by other people, and still feel alone. They cover the genetic and developmental roots of loneliness, and how loneliness can creep into even our most connected, important relationships. During our ongoing series on “Who Am I,” we’ve explored psychological conditions of various kinds – many of which are stigmatized and pathologized. You can find them in the DSM - the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is the primary diagnostic tool published by the American Psychiatric Association. It’s worth noting that there are a lot of very unpleasant parts of life that no reasonable person would categorize as “disorders.” For instance, there’s no DSM entry for sadness or loneliness. Or frustration, rage, general lack of fulfillment, and so on. There’s a real risk sometimes of over-medicalizing perfectly normal parts of the human experience. Today we're focusing on one of those parts: feelings of loneliness.  If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Loka 201933min

Sometimes it's nice to have just one thing to focus on: a simple theme each week to reflect on and be inspired by. On this short episode, Dr. Jennie Rosier shares the most important thing she does, each day, for her own well-being. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sign-up for Just One Thing from Dr. Rick Hanson here, and receive more simple practices for greater well-being. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Loka 20192min

Attachment theory is one of the most influential frameworks in psychology for understanding how people behave in their relationships with others. In this episode, Forrest and Dr. Jennie Rosier explore what attachment theory is, how we can identify our attachment style, and what we can do to build a healthier relationship with our own style and that of others. Dr. Jennie Rosier is an Associate Professor of Communication Studies at James Madison University, the director of The Relationships, Love, & Happiness Project, and the author of two books: Make Love, Not Scrapbooks, and Finding the Love Guru in You. She focuses much of her teaching and research on the communication skills needed to maintain healthy romantic and parent-child relationships. Dr. Rosier's Adult Attachment Series If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 01:05: A summary of attachment theory. 04:15: The attachment styles. 08:26: What do these styles look like practically in relationship? 17:08: How can people self-diagnose what their attachment style is? 20:13: Can you attach yourself to different care-givers differently? 26:22: Are any of these attachment styles more compatible with any of the other styles? 31:46: What can someone do to work with their attachment style, or help their partner work with theirs? 38:49: What do good communicators "look like" in these different attachment styles, as opposed to poor communicators? 43:58: A message to her younger self.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Syys 201950min

We all have something we KNOW we should do...but that doesn't mean we actually do it. On this episode Dr. Hanson, Forrest, and Dr. Judy Ho explore the roots of self-sabotage, the four key elements that fuel self-sabotaging behavior, and how we can use tools from cognitive therapy to overcome those behaviors. Dr. Judy Ho is a clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, and is Associate Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology. She’s appeared as an expert contributor on over 100 shows, including Dr. Drew, CNN Tonight, and Outside the Lines, and co-hosts the CBS daytime talk show Face The Truth. Her new book is Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way, It's one of the best explorations of the practical application of CBT we've read - and it has our full recommendation. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Timestamps: 00:52: Why did you choose this particular topic? 01:57: What are the evolutionary roots to self-sabotage? 04:44: Primary ways people self-sabotage. 09:59: Working with self-concept. 13:13: The power of the "dreaded experience." 15:40: Managing social fears. 25:00: The roots of the six triggers. 28:19: How to update your self-concept. 33:00: How can we get better at learning. 37:00: What’s the most important thing you do inside your own mind each day for your own well-being? 40:13: When your virtues are not valued. 45:41: If you could go back in time and tell yourself something, what would it be? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

23 Syys 201956min

Today we're continuing our focus on bipolar disorder by exploring some tools and strategies that people can use to help manage their symptoms, or help loved ones do the same. As with all of the episodes in this series, please remember that bipolar disorder is best diagnosed by a licensed professional. Here's the Daylio app that was mentioned during this episode. Key Topics: 00:43: Is bipolar disorder considered curable? 05:16: How can someone begin managing their bipolar symptoms? 06:49: Is it possible to manage a manic episode? 09:18: The power of establishing routines. 10:50: Recognizing our vulnerabilities. 15:05: Managing stress and exercising self-control. 18:00: Shame, and recognizing our worth. 21:00: Self-harm. 28:00: Recap Overcome Anxiety:  Let go of anxiety and grow a greater sense of calm strength with Rick's Dealing with Anxiety program, which offers 5 powerful practices for managing stress and worries. Save 10% with coupon code BEINGWELL. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!  Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Syys 201930min