E.95 - Managing Conflict the Gottman Way with Paige Bond

E.95 - Managing Conflict the Gottman Way with Paige Bond

This was such a great conversation with relationship therapist Paige Bond, who breaks down the worst of the worst, most problematic behaviors in relationships often referred to as the four horsemen.

We dive deep into each of these: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, and the antidotes (or countermeasures) for each one.

Paige gives so many great examples of each, and helps us create better "I-Statements" to make sure that we are taking responsibility for our own actions.

We also get into the topic of having a secure attachment to ourselves, which will help us create better attachments with those around us. Paige helps us understand how not having a secure attachment to ourselves may prevent us from being able to be introspective enough to recognize our own needs and improve our relationships in the process.

Paige talks about having an attitude of gratitude, and I share a story about my brother's journey of gratitude that might help you appreciate your partner more!

Stonewalling might be a bit confusing to some (it was for me), and we have a great conversation to help folx understand the difference between stonewalling (avoiding the conflict altogether) and taking time or space away to cool down and approach the problem when emotions are more level.

Learn more about Paige at www.paigebond.com and follow her on FB: @CouplesCounselingCFL !

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E.89 - Breaking Free to Live Authentically with Karine Bedard

E.89 - Breaking Free to Live Authentically with Karine Bedard

In this episode I get to chat with Karine Bedard, a Bible school graduate who found her faith shaken when her husband, a fellow Bible school graduate and her first love, began to question his. Karine ...

24 Elo 202135min

E.88 - Creating A Safe & Inclusive Community Part II with Olivia Fermi

E.88 - Creating A Safe & Inclusive Community Part II with Olivia Fermi

In this follow-up episode (check E.84 for part 1) with Olivia Fermi, I've done my homework and spent time talking with my Tias and my Mom about their experiences in coming to America. I share those st...

23 Elo 202143min

E.87 - All the Ways Polyamory Changed My Life with James Sias

E.87 - All the Ways Polyamory Changed My Life with James Sias

The topic didn't change, but the guest did! I was expecting to have this conversation with someone else, but I ended up talking about this myself. I've shared my origin story before, so I spent more t...

18 Elo 202125min

E.86 - Being Honest Means Confronting Past Trauma with Sharon R.

E.86 - Being Honest Means Confronting Past Trauma with Sharon R.

In this episode we get to hear a very real, raw, and unfiltered story from someone in our polyam community who has seen her share of ups and downs through her poly journey. Sharon talks us through som...

17 Elo 202127min

E.85 - Asking New Questions Can Change Your Life with Tara Lynne Franco & Andre Turcotte

E.85 - Asking New Questions Can Change Your Life with Tara Lynne Franco & Andre Turcotte

I'm so excited to be able to showcase the team that helped me through one of the lowest points of my life, earlier this year. Tara and Andre are a coach and therapist duo who compliment one another's ...

16 Elo 202134min

E.84 - Creating A Safe & Inclusive Community with Olivia Fermi

E.84 - Creating A Safe & Inclusive Community with Olivia Fermi

I had a cancellation a week before this interview was scheduled, so I tweeted out a call (trying to be more actively inclusive) to the QTBIPOC community to fill that spot. When no one answered the cal...

11 Elo 202131min

E.83 - When Polyamory Magnifies Your Relationship Problems with Heather Shannon

E.83 - When Polyamory Magnifies Your Relationship Problems with Heather Shannon

Today's guest in an awesome therapist from Michigan, Heather Shannon. After getting to know her a bit and find out why she is inspired to help people in non-monog/non-traditional relationships, we div...

10 Elo 202134min

E.82 - Taking an Active Role in Mental Health with Taryn Sinclaire

E.82 - Taking an Active Role in Mental Health with Taryn Sinclaire

After a brief introduction and learning about Taryn's background, we start by diving into Simone Biles' decision to remove herself from Olympics competition due to mental health reasons. I have a litt...

4 Elo 202136min

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