E.95 - Managing Conflict the Gottman Way with Paige Bond

E.95 - Managing Conflict the Gottman Way with Paige Bond

This was such a great conversation with relationship therapist Paige Bond, who breaks down the worst of the worst, most problematic behaviors in relationships often referred to as the four horsemen.

We dive deep into each of these: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, and the antidotes (or countermeasures) for each one.

Paige gives so many great examples of each, and helps us create better "I-Statements" to make sure that we are taking responsibility for our own actions.

We also get into the topic of having a secure attachment to ourselves, which will help us create better attachments with those around us. Paige helps us understand how not having a secure attachment to ourselves may prevent us from being able to be introspective enough to recognize our own needs and improve our relationships in the process.

Paige talks about having an attitude of gratitude, and I share a story about my brother's journey of gratitude that might help you appreciate your partner more!

Stonewalling might be a bit confusing to some (it was for me), and we have a great conversation to help folx understand the difference between stonewalling (avoiding the conflict altogether) and taking time or space away to cool down and approach the problem when emotions are more level.

Learn more about Paige at www.paigebond.com and follow her on FB: @CouplesCounselingCFL !

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E.97 - Creating Inclusive Communities with Kevin Patterson

E.97 - Creating Inclusive Communities with Kevin Patterson

In this episode I have a chance to chat with Kevin A. Patterson, author of Love's Not Colorblind, the foremost book on race and polyamory. Having been tagged in my interviews with Olivia, Kevin felt c...

9 Syys 202138min

E.96 - My Connection to My Latinx Community with James Sias

E.96 - My Connection to My Latinx Community with James Sias

In this continuing conversation around creating inclusive communities, I share my experiences of assimilation and rejection of my Mexican culture growing up. I tell the story of visiting Mexico as a k...

8 Syys 202131min

E.94 - Dismantling Scarcity Mindset with Petra Stone

E.94 - Dismantling Scarcity Mindset with Petra Stone

What happens when we open our relationships and our partners begin to love someone else? If we are stuck in a scarcity mindset, we may believe that love in finite and become fearful. Petra Stone helps...

6 Syys 202139min

E.93 - What to Address to Lay a Solid Foundation with Dr. Dana McNeil

E.93 - What to Address to Lay a Solid Foundation with Dr. Dana McNeil

Dr. Dana McNeil is a fellow San Diegan whose journey into therapy was inspired twofold. First, by her experiences as an insurance claims adjuster, where she would play the role of a witness to people ...

1 Syys 202133min

E.92 - Sharing Our Imperfect Stories with Krista Varela Posell

E.92 - Sharing Our Imperfect Stories with Krista Varela Posell

Krista is the co-founder of @PolyInPlace and she has teamed up with previous guest and friend of the podcast, Claire Travers @PolyPages to launch a book club for the polyamorous community, starting in...

31 Elo 202132min

E.91 - Leaning Into Difficult Conversations with Rachel Anne Kieran, Psy.D.

E.91 - Leaning Into Difficult Conversations with Rachel Anne Kieran, Psy.D.

In this episode, Dr. Rachel Anne Kieran and I get a chance to chat about her journey through becoming a therapist for the polyam community, and her inspiration to be an ally and resource to those in n...

30 Elo 202131min

E.90 - My First Polyam Breakup with James Sias

E.90 - My First Polyam Breakup with James Sias

In this guest-less episode, I tell the story of my first polyam relationship back in 2017 and the struggles I faced while navigating my first relationship. I talk about some of the mistakes I made inc...

25 Elo 202125min

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