Ep. 53 - How to create a compelling reason

I get it. It’s so damn annoying.   Your brain is CONSUMED with him/her. It’s all you can think about… I would have paid big money to just mechanically erase him from my brain. I haven’t found that solution but I found something else that works!   Our brain has 60k-80k thoughts in a day, and the brain is an efficient organ. So when it can run on default it wants to and it will. So when someone used to be in our life every day, it’s easy for the brain to focus on that person not being in our life.   We must learn to manage our brain, to purposefully decide and rewire it to focus on the thoughts that serve us, that propel us forward in our future, instead of keeping us stuck in the past.   However, the #1 mistake I see people doing when attempting this is trying to paste a positive sticky note over a negative event or situation, that will not create lasting change. Learn how to find neutrality in your situation to then refocus your brain on what you can control, which is YOU.   In this episode: Why your brain can’t stop thinking about him/her How to find neutrality in your breakup to manager your mind to feel better Letting go of beliefs you no longer tolerate Find evidence to support a new story about your breakup

20 Loka 201912min

When I went through my earth-shattering breakup after a 7 year relationship I googled “how to get over my ex” for a full year. I did everything I could to figure out how to forgive and move on.   Everyone kept telling me it was just going to “take time”. After a year of waiting for the time to heal my heart I was over it.   That’s when I found out, time had nothing to do with it. It had everything to do with what I was making my breakup mean about me that was holding me back. I was angry and resentful which was making me show up angry and resentful in all facets of life which only created more anger and resentment.   The way we think creates the way we feel and the way we feel creates the way we show up in the world.   When I learned that what I was making the breakup mean about me was optional, everything changed and my anger and resentment melted away in a minute.   You too can have the same transformation, AWARENESS to the root cause of the problem is your first step to getting over him and moving on.   In this episode: Why you’re not over your ex yet Why time has nothing to do with it The first step you can take to getting over him/her Identifying as the person who’s already over their ex

20 Loka 201911min