1060: Dreams | Skeptical Sunday

BJ Fogg (@bjfogg) is the founder and director of the Stanford Behavior Design Lab, and author of Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything. [Featured photo by Nathaniel Gerdes] What We Discuss with BJ Fogg: The main reasons we fail at behavior change -- even when we rationally know the long-term benefits heavily outweigh any short-term discomforts. The B=MAP Fogg Behavior Model that can be applied universally to understanding (and correcting) every type of behavior there is. How starter steps and tiny habits work as effective ways to "trick" our change-resistant human brains into radical behavior change. Why BJ prefers the term "untangling" rather than "breaking" in reference to habits we want to discontinue.  Why repetition is often repeated as being the catalyst for creating habits, why this tidbit of popular misinformation is so wrong, and what really works as a better catalyst. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/306 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Tammi 20201h 8min

Shaka Senghor (@ShakaSenghor) is a leading voice in criminal justice reform, the director of innovation and strategy at #Cut50, and the consulting producer for the OWN docuseries Released. He is also the author of Writing My Wrongs: Life, Death, and Redemption in an American Prison. What We Discuss with Shaka Senghor: How Shaka's childhood neighborhood in Detroit quickly went from idyllic to nightmarish when the crack epidemic struck in the '80s (and what he spent his money on when he became a dealer). The assorted sources of trauma faced by kids who wind up in the drug-dealing lifestyle and why such a lifestyle is initially appealing to them -- in spite of exposing them to very adult consequences. Why the current opioid crisis may actually be instrumental in helping heal societal class and racial divides widened during the crack epidemic. Why removing the stigma of mental health treatment is crucial to breaking the cycles of recidivism in which young people often get trapped. The series of events that landed Shaka in prison for 19 years, how he made use of his time there, and what he's doing to help fix a very broken system. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/305 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Tammi 20201h 7min

You're in your thirties, and although you've had reasonable success running your own business, you've always believed that you were lazy and unmotivated. You recently got diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed Adderall, and everything changed for the better. You're finally a hard worker, don't get distracted easily, and finish things you start. It's been a huge lifesaver and a huge boost to your self-confidence. After hearing Jordan talk about his negative experiences with Adderall in high school on the Darren Prince episode, it got you concerned. Your brother has been using Adderall for years, and said something that worried you. While on vacation, he lost his prescription and felt the need to find a doctor who could write him an emergency prescription. He regularly has to restrict towards the end of the month to make sure he doesn't run out, which signals he's taking extra doses. Should you be concerned for your brother getting addicted? Are you at risk of becoming dependent if you stay on it for years? We'll talk about this and much more on this latest episode of Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/304. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? The trip is officially full, but if you really, really want to go, reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com and we'll do our best to squeeze you in! Adderall's been a godsend in helping you focus since you were diagnosed with ADHD, but you worry you might become dependent on it over time. How can you avoid becoming addicted to study drugs? As a police officer, you train recruits to communicate effectively by treating people like humans, building rapport, and displaying empathy. So what's the best way for an officer to build rapport quickly during, for example, the brief interaction of a traffic stop? You want to help your mom move closer to you and the rest of the family because you know it will help alleviate her depression, but you're not exactly rich. How can you raise a loan or borrow money to cover her move and a place to live in a short amount of time? You slacked in high school and now you're a 30-year-old custodian. You have the ambition to return to school and seek work in the infosec/cybersecurity industry, but your wife is unable to work and you make just enough to get by. How can you stay working full time and return to school without spending money you don't have? What are our thoughts on investing in cryptocurrency in 2020? What's... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Tammi 202051min

Megan Phelps-Roper (@meganphelps) grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, an organization widely monitored as a hate group for its anti-gay, anti-Jewish, anti-American protests. She left WBC in 2012 and has since written about her experiences in Unfollow: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church. This is part two of a two-part episode. Listen to part one here! What We Discuss with Megan Phelps-Roper: What catalyzed Megan and her sister's departure from the Westboro Baptist Church in 2012, and how do the family members left behind feel about their decision? The logistics Megan and her sister faced when they decided to leave the home and family they'd known their entire lives to start anew in the outside world. What Megan learned about the human capacity for empathy, generosity, forgiveness — and general goodness — by revisiting people she'd formerly picketed in WBC. What Megan's experiences have taught her about the cognitive biases we all have — about everything from religion to politics — no matter how smart we think we are. The four steps others used to break through to Megan and get her to have real conversations, and how we can use them to connect with people who disagree with us on a fundamental level. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/303 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Tammi 202043min

Megan Phelps-Roper (@meganphelps) grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, an organization widely monitored as a hate group for its anti-gay, anti-Jewish, anti-American protests. She left WBC in 2012 and has since written about her experiences in Unfollow: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church. This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the second episode coming later this week! What We Discuss with Megan Phelps-Roper: What it was like to grow up in what documentary filmmaker Louis Theroux called "The Most Hated Family in America." Why the Westboro Baptist Church feels it's uniquely qualified to spread what it sees as the "true" word of God in a way that shocks and offends the rest of the world. How the Westboro Baptist Church interprets feelgood lessons from the Bible like "Love thy neighbor" and the tale of the good Samaritan. Why children who grow up in Westboro Baptist Church aren't educated at home, but encouraged to go to public schools. The complicated history of the church's founder (and Megan's grandfather), Fred Phelps, who championed civil rights for African-Americans as a lawyer while campaigning against homosexuals, Jewish people, dead soldiers, tsunami victims, Mr. Rogers, and others deemed "deviant" by his very specific interpretation of the Bible (e.g., everybody not belonging to Westboro Baptist Church). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/302 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Tammi 202050min

You're not sure if the speeding ticket you got driving across the country was given because you had out-of-state license plates, you were racially profiled, or there was an equipment failure of some kind, but you're pretty sure it wasn't for speeding. You want to fight it, but you're not sure what your legal options and obligations are. Friend of the show Corbin Payne, Esq. will explain how to fight an out-of-state speeding ticket the right way, and of course we'll try to do our best to answer a stack of other questions here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/301. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? It'll be here sooner than you know it! Reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com for details if you want to go! When you're paying so much money and time for the privilege of being part of your best friend's wedding party, is it unreasonable that, with plenty of notice, the caterer is refusing to accommodate your vegan request? Recently married, your partner has been voicing concern and guilt for living so far away from family. But due to the nature of your job (which you love), you can't move back to your home state without having to give it up. How do you make an informed decision in this situation? Driving across the country, you were stopped in Texas and ticketed for speeding even though your speedometer says otherwise. You're not sure if you were flagged for out-of-state plates or racially profiled, but you'd like to fight it. What are your legal options? [Thanks to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] We often advise listeners to find competent legal advice, but how do you go about choosing someone? How do you know you will get a performer and not a shyster? [Thanks again to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with this one!] The well-paying job where you've worked for 13 years is undergoing a transformation and trying to get rid of as many employees as possible. Of course morale is low and you'd love to quit even to take less money elsewhere, but you've got a baby on the way and your wife wants you to hang in there until you're out of debt. What should you do? Need a little help being a great dad? Ryan's Holiday's See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Tammi 202047min

Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) is the best-selling author of Find Your Why and Start with Why. He returns to the show to discuss his latest offering, The Infinite Game, which offers a framework for leading with an infinite mindset in a limitless world. What We Discuss with Simon Sinek: Common public speaking gaffes and how to avoid making them. How Simon blocks time for himself in his calendar without feeling guilty. Finite games vs. infinite games: the metrics by which they're governed, the stakes for which they're played, and the mindsets required to master them. Why having a worthy rival (as opposed to competition) can be a healthy catalyst for personal growth -- and how you can select one. How friendship works as an equitable, not equal relationship. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/300 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Tammi 20201h 1min

Steve Elkins is a cinematographer and explorer whose discovery of and expedition to a legendary settlement in the rainforest of Honduras is chronicled in The Lost City of the Monkey God: A True Story by Douglas Preston. [Featured photo by Ryan Hartford of Ecliptic Media] What We Discuss with Steve Elkins: How did Steve and his team manage to only recently discover a legendary city in the Honduran rainforest that had been aggressively -- and fruitlessly -- sought out by disappointed locals and explorers for half a millennium? The countless natural and manmade dangers of exploring the mosquito-infested region of Honduras known locally as "The Gates of Hell" -- from venom-spitting snakes to quicksand to drug cartels. Why knowing an unhinged guy with a gun can come in handy when your producer needs to leave the expedition early and return to civilization for a family emergency. The logistics, legal considerations, and politics that go into being outsiders exploring the cultural heritage of another country. The details of what Steve and his team discovered, and what this discovery has brought to light beyond the mere satisfaction of archaeological curiosity. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/299 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Tammi 20201h 13min