169. His Porn Her Pain - Sex Therapist Marty Klein, PhD

Dr. Marty Klein has been a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist for over 35 years. He has focused his entire career toward a single set of goals: telling the truth about sexuality, helping people feel sexually adequate & powerful, and supporting the healthy sexual & intimate expression and exploration of women & men. He practices in Palo Alto. He has written 7 books, translated into 11 languages and has given over 1,000 lectures. Why are people so against porn? Or why not be against porn? The Ice Cream/Broccoli hypothesis ‘When people have low desire for lousy sex, that is not surprising” – Dr. Klein Should we worry about porn dehumanizing women? What is the number one fantasy by women? Should you actually live our your sexual fantasies? “Sexual fantasies do not have meaning” – Dr. Marty Klein Porn addiction – define? What about porn users who aren’t functionally sexually at home? Is porn infidelity? What about sexting someone else? Only Fans? Talk about the power struggles couples get in and think it is about porn “The ultimate issue in many couples in conflict about pornography is the decline or disappearance of their once enjoyable sex life. While it is common to say that the porn user is selfish and rejecting of their partners, a lot of porn use is actually a desperate attempt to stay in a sexually unfulfilling couple.” What to do if no longer attracted to your spouse? How is this not porn’s fault if it makes you get off to perfect bodies? “Desire in middle age does not feel like desire at 23 years old” – Dr. Marty Klein What he wishes women knew about their male partner’s porn. What would you like to tell the men? Why are there not enough sex therapists and what should I do about it? https://www.martyklein.com/ Dr. Klein’s book: His Porn, Her Pain https://amzn.to/3IYvIsF Our podcast sponsor is Bonafide Bonafide products help women embrace the natural changes that occur throughout all phases of life. Discount code for 20% off:NOTBROKEN Sales link: https://hellobonafide.com/notbroken --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices