Psychotherapist on SETTING Boundaries, Ending Manipulation and Being Pushed Around | Terri Cole

So many women have problems with boundaries. If you are fortunate enough to have thought through what boundaries you should have in place, you may lack the skill and discipline you need to uphold them. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and female empowerment expert. She is turning the conversation of boundaries on its head and revealing the key players running defense against your best efforts to create stronger and healthier boundaries. Whether your boundaries have been too laxed or too rigid, Terri is spotlighting the importance of your relationship with yourself and why boundaries have to start with knowing your preferences, your desires, and your limits. Boundaries are more about you than the people around you. If you’ve been struggling with boundaries, there’s a good chance you’re frustrated with the people you love, you’re feeling exhausted, unappreciated and overly sacrificing yourself and it’s making you resentful. Take a moment, sit down, and open up for some self-reflection time with Terri and Lisa. Check out Terri’s new book, Boundary Boss: https://www.amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Essential-Guide-Finally/dp/1683647688 SHOW NOTES: Assessing Boundaries | How corrupted boundaries affect you and ways to assess them [1:30] Self-Abandoning | Prioritizing needs and wants of others over what's true and right for you [4:37] Awareness is Key | Why being radically curious without judgment is the key to boundaries [8:50] Obligation-Free | Terri shares how important it is to recognize boundary issues [17:52] Boundary Violators | How to take small steps to uphold and honor your boundaries [20:40] Know Yourself | Why it’s important to know your preferences, limits, and deal breakers [23:22] Self-Love & Giving | Terri on what self-love is and how it’s a way of life not a feeling [26:10] People Pleaser | Strategies to stop the automatic ‘yes’ and start healthy boundaries [30:10] Rigid vs. Non-Negotiable | Understanding what deal breaker boundaries for you [39:35] Boundary Consequences | Steps to take in relationships enforcing boundary violations [42:44] Stay in Your Lane | Terri discusses importance of respecting other people’s boundaries [50:12] Indecision | Terri reveals what indecisiveness really says about your situation [55:54] Check out our sponsors: Future makes one on one training available to our audience for just $19 Go to tryfuture.co/womenofimpact Sign up to crush your fitness goals! Athletic Greens: Go to https://athleticgreens.com/lisa and receive a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase! InsideTracker: insidetracker.com/womenofimpact Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be! Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more! Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist. Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab. Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub. And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices