Sex, Science, and Secrets to Satisfaction (ft. Dr. Tara)

Sexologist Alexa Andre (⁠@sexwithalexa⁠) chats with the internet's resident sexpert, ⁠Dr. Tara⁠, on a candid journey through Dr. Tara’s sexual history, insights, and expert advice on improving relationships.

Dr. Tara opens up about her childhood in Thailand with parents who avoided discussing sex, her early sexual experiences with girls at 13, and her exploration with guys after moving to Finland. She shares how her first marriage ended due to a lack of sexual compatibility and how, through friendship first, she built a strong relationship with her current husband, eventually evolving from monogamous to “monogamish.”

We dive into Dr. Tara’s research on sexual communication, with tips on navigating protective vs. possessive attitudes and how men often struggle to open relationships due to cultural ideas of ownership. Dr. Tara highlights her findings on the top predictors of long-term satisfaction—sexual communication, sexual esteem, and sexual mindfulness—and offers advice on bringing these into relationships. We also discuss her new lube line, “⁠Luv by Dr. Tara⁠,” and her tips for integrating micro and macro communication in intimate conversations.

From the impact of inequities in oral sex and the importance of addressing them to funny experiences around poop play clients and why “dirty talk” is her specialty, Dr. Tara keeps it real. Join us as she discusses how a simple pro/con list can change perspectives in relationships and why we should prioritize equality, communication, and the right tools for a better sex life!

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