09 Asking the Right Questions

09 Asking the Right Questions

It's easy for AuDHD brains to latch onto one concept of a solution, and believe it has to happen that way. But sometimes there's a deeper question or problem underneath that.

As one example, many neurodivergent folks want a morning routine... but the real question under that could be "How do I feel good in the morning," or "How do I get my day started?"

How do we ask the right questions to make sure we're not wasting our energy?

One way to know that part of you believes you're asking the wrong question is if you're experiencing "self-sabotage" when trying to achieve the solution you have in mind.


A few potential ways to reframe your question/problem:

  1. Take time with it & take a step back
  2. Externally process with someone else
  3. Come up with at least 3 different ways this could go down, or different scenarios, that might solve the question/problem (to get your brain thinking creatively, and get another perspective)

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