AuDHD Flourishing28 Joulu 2023

30 Doing Your Best

AuDHD folks have a complicated relationship with the idea of doing our best, because of our spiky profiles and cyclical energy. Also, we often seem to be trying harder than the people around us...whether or not that results in getting anywhere.

There are many reasons that the brain might "hit a wall" and be unable to continue.

Defining our best as "a bit better than average" is one approach (though I haven't convinced my own brain of that one yet).

Some potential questions for reflection:

What does doing your best mean to you? How do you know when you’re doing your best?
How would it feel to know that you’re doing your best most or all of the time?
Did this awaken a critical voice in your mind? Does that feel like your voice or someone else’s? Is this voice actually helping you, and either way, is this the main voice you want to live by?
When have you felt compassion for someone else who is obviously trying their best? This could be a child, or someone in the process of learning something.
Why do you feel driven to do your best, if that’s something you often feel?

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