17. Not for Going Postal
In our first episode ON YOUTUBE, we channel our nervous energy into a bop-around of a ton of topics (as if that's any different from any other episode). Jess kicks it off with another dad story, sharing how the legend himself feels about an ongoing podcast topic: "What is DJ?" Turns out the answer has been right in front of us all along, and it's Lebanese disco jockeys. From word mispronunciations to Jason Mraz to our hatred of over-scheduling and to-do lists, we giggle and pontificate further, continuing our conversation from last week about group hangs and the need for spontaneity. Maybe that's what will pull us out of this endless spiral that is washing our faces every day until we die. Caroline counteracts all of her recent petty turn-offs with a new petty turn-on, then switches gears completely to explore her distrust of St. Jude's tragedy porn. We close with an idiom gone wrong (or right) and a discussion about holding people accountable for what they do to us in our dreams. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey @abinewhouse __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
30 Maalis 20231h 16min
16. Not for the French Revolution
A classic Ron Burgundy teleprompter intro from Caroline leads the hater and lover right into a conversation about templates gone wrong and other work woes. We talk about the importance of viewing leaders as people and the shifts in work culture that are becoming more and more common in the last couple of years. This leads into a reflection on how the pandemic changed the way we socialize, as Jess shares her struggle with becoming more of an introvert recently. Caroline realizes that some of this has to do with a lack of group hangs, and they explore how to rebuild an outgoing (and content-giving) lifestyle. They then pivot to sillier topics, with Jess sharing a new slogan she's using for her relationship branding, a story about her dad's retirement interests, and a return to an old "segment" - Not a Personality. Having a home with character doesn't give you character, and history is boring because it's not about us. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey @abinewhouse __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
23 Maalis 20231h 7min
15. Not for Outside Opinions
For every ounce of passion and wisdom in this episode, there is an equal and opposite moment of mundanity and foolishness. It starts out like any other - checking in on how we've been feeling lately and questioning the utility of a perfectly harmless item (in this case, sleep pants). Things take a turn, though, when Caroline poses the question: "What would you do with your life if you made the amount of money you make today, guaranteed, without having to work?" This launches us into one of the most personal and introspective conversations we've had on the podcast yet, as we each open up about our feelings on having kids. Hint: they're not the same, and they likely aren't the same as yours either. We both share how we've come to these realizations about ourselves, and explore the complexities of being completely clear on a topic like this given the weight of timelines and outside opinions. Caroline runs to Jess's rescue as she explains why she sometimes doubts herself on this issue, and it's just goddamn beautiful. For an episode with such an important conversation at the crux of it, we then move on like it never happened, describing our most memorable drug experiences, offering a hack for sweaty feet, and revisiting Google Search History Shame for old time's sake. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
16 Maalis 20231h 7min
14. Not for the Cult of Harry Styles
Buckle up for the pure chaos of this episode after a more ~intentional~ one last week. Jess and Caroline talk about French class memories and calling their parents, before taking a sharp left turn into an analysis of the beloved Harry Styles. From there, it's celebrity sex lists, and to no one's surprise John Mayer is on Jess's and old turmoiled gentlemen are on Caroline's. A story about a fuckboy of yore turns into a discussion about putting up with subpar treatment in relationships, comparing your relationship to others, and, naturally, the risk of a forehead kiss. Why is it so difficult to mail out a package? What if stamps.com had its own podcast? Have you ever been hit on at the gym and did you respond like Santa Claus? How do you track down a stranger's full name and would you open a random airdrop from Caroline? These are the hard hitting questions we explore as we sign off yet again with fun and power. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey @abinewhouse __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
9 Maalis 20231h 19min
13. For You: Turning the Wrong Career Into the Right One
We're back with another super personal topic deep-dive, this week talking all about careers. Shitty jobs, desperate times, quitting, moving, and chasing passion - we cover it all as Caroline and Jess have had very different, though thematically similar, career trajectories. So in this edition of the For You series, we share: Details on each of our job histories and the lessons we've taken from every phase so far Why buying yourself runway to pursue a passion is the only way to do it purely How to separate your identity from your job when it comes to productivity and reputation The power of keeping your nascent dreams to yourself How to chase fear and tap into your intuition This topic is so near and dear to us because it's so much of what brought us back together as friends and business partners today. So naturally, we overshare, we ramble, we scream, we want to hold hands... This conversation took us many places (much like our careers), but ultimately, fatefully, to each other. What a surreal feeling to create this episode - on the very day Caroline reached 400k YouTube subscribers! - with the hope of helping you. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey @abinewhouse __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
2 Maalis 20231h 14min
12. Not for Nice Gestures
If you resonate with the "morning after going out" vibes that an Apple Podcasts reviewer recently bestowed upon us, then this episode is for you. Jess and Caroline start with a bang as Jess shares a dating app story from her library of bizarre experiences. We talk a little about the right and wrong times for sexting before shifting to an even more debated topic: green text bubbles. Don't fret, Android users, Jess has a special place in her heart for you. Then Caroline talks about a recent marathon date she had and why usually all the information is there in the beginning. Jess is perplexed by the toilet etiquette of putting the seat down, and while there's probably some cleanliness reasons for it, she'd rather young boys learn to be respectful in other facets of life. She also shares with Caroline some recent musings about her habit of saying things out loud to herself, and...dog sex appeal? __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey @abinewhouse __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
23 Helmi 202357min
11. WHATADO: Draining Friendships and Lukewarm Attraction
It's the moment we've all been waiting for - the return of the WHATADO. This time, Jess and Caroline spend nearly an entire episode responding to listener submitted scenarios, from "whatado when your friend treats you like their therapist" to "whatado when you're not sexually attracted to the great guy you're dating" and more. We talk about setting boundaries, the elusive spark, then go into a rapid fire segment where Jess asks Caroline to respond to a few more whatados that she hadn't seen prior (spoiler: this was in no way rapid, but boy was it fiery). We also lament the lifelong plight of whether or not to cut our hair, and Jess takes a page from the hater's book and shares a petty complaint from the week. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey @abinewhouse __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
16 Helmi 20231h
10. Not for the Right Headspace
Opening up with a bang (see what we did there), Caroline updates Jess on the recent end to her "celibacy" (now you see), which turns into an even more important update on the age-old question, "what is DJ?" After this lesson in music theory, we shift gears and talk about headspace - specifically Jess', and why it's never right. We muse on what it means to protect our energy, and how that may differ for introverts and extroverts. Either way, it's important to both of us to spend time alone to get in touch with the things we actually enjoy, so we share some tips for listeners on getting more comfortable with solitude. Caroline has a bone to pick with a certain type of jewelry, and also a certain type of dating profile. This leads to an ill-defined conversation on our ick lists - one much more reasonable than the other. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on YouTube for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: @not4everyonepod @thegoodsitter @jzdebakey @abinewhouse __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!
9 Helmi 20231h 5min
